13 Principles I Use To Manifest My Goals and Dreams On My Vision Board!

Today I want to share with you 13 principles I use to manifest my goals and dreams on my vision board.

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If you have never heard of a vision board or if you have never created a vision board, click this link to read a blog post I wrote to my single sisters about how to create a vision board.

Please scroll down to the picture showing the vision board and start reading from there, because anything before that is talking to single ladies.

What is a vision board? A vision board is simply a tool used to see your goals, dreams and visions that you’ve written down on paper, translated into visual form by using real images or pictures.

For example; you wrote in your journal that you one day want to visit the Fiji Islands. You saw a picture in the magazine of the Fiji Islands, you can cut that picture out of the magazine and paste it to your vision board. Now, you can look at that dream and visualize yourself on the Fiji Island.The vision board itself has no power to make anything happen. It can not answer any prayers, and your faith should not be in the vision board itself. It is just a tool used to see your visions and dreams before your eyes by using real pictures. Got it?

Your faith should always be engaged in trusting the Heavenly Father and his word that these things are coming to pass.

It is not unscriptural that you are writing down the visions and dreams that you believe God is showing you for your life.

In fact, the scriptures teaches us to write the vision down and make it plain or clear!

Habakkuk 2:2-3 KJV

And the Lord answered me, and said write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it!

For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.God said that he will give us the desires of our hearts if we delight ourselves in him. If you really want to know what it means to truly delight yourself in the Lord click here.

Psalm 37: 4

Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

God also said, when the people do not have a vision for their life, they perish. You need to dream and you need to have goals. It keeps your life in forward movement and unstuck.

I don’t know if you know it or not, but you were created to do good things and you were also created for good works. I will share with you what the scriptures says about this.

Proverbs 29:18 KJV

Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepth the law, happy is he.

Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them,God wants you to believe him for the impossible. He said, if you can believe Him for the impossible, you can have it!

Matthew 19:26 NIV

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.

Now that we’ve established that it’s not unbiblical to create a vision board and that our faith must be engaged in the Heavenly Father at all times, lets find out how to get the best use out of our vision board.

13 Principles I Use To Manifest My Goals And Dreams On My Vision Board!

1. After you have created your vision board, place it in an area where you can look at it at least twice a day.

I love looking at my vision board when I wake up in the morning and right before I go to bed. I have my vision board displayed in open view in my bedroom so when ever I walk pass it, I can see it.

2. Believe: Really believe this can one day happen for you. Believe that you are worthy to receive anything good in your life.

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Jeremiah 29:11 KJV

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

3. Take at least 15 minutes daily to concentrate on your vision board. Take inventory of what you are asking to come into your life, by doing so, you are ingraining the images into your subconscious mind because what you pay attention to in your life is what you are attracting to you.

For example, you want to cut out eating sweets from your diet, but you are watching TV shows about baking desserts and yummy treats. On your job, people are constantly bringing doughnuts, cakes and snacks, and you are around this all day.

What do you think is going to happen eventually? You are going to give in to the temptation because those images are ingrained in your mind from you paying attention to them all day long.

4. Visualize yourself with your goals and dreams. Imagine what it would feel like to obtain your goals and dreams. Pretend that you are actually living your new life when you look at your vision board.

Do not just look at your board but actually feel all those wonderful feelings as you are pretending as if you’ve already obtained the goals and dreams on your vision board. What you are doing at this moment is engaging your faith.

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Remember when you were a kid and you engaged in pretend play? You were so happy and so engaged in the process of play, that you got so wrapped up in it and forgot it was just play.

You would even get into an arguement with your friends, sisters and brothers about, “it’s my red car” and neither one of you owned a car but in that moment it became real for you.

Take that same childhood naivety into your pretend play while visualizing yourself with your new life.

Romans 15:13 KJV

Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.

5. Say the scriptures and confessions on your vision board out loud, so it sinks down into your subconscious mind and heart.6. Choose to share your vision board with people you really trust and with your purpose partners (someone who is just as invested in seeing your visions, goals and dreams come to pass)

If you do not have anyone in your life that you can share your vision board with, then keep it between you and the Heavenly Father.

7. The benefit of sharing your vision board with someone you trust and who believes in you, is to have a partner to play your childhood game with (Pretend Play).

The both of you get together and start pretending that you are driving in your Lexus 570 and you are traveling to Maui tomorrow and you gotta hurry up so that you won’t miss your flight. It’s lots of fun to do. I play this game with my husband a lot!

8. Stay away from doubting Thomas and negative Nancy. These are people who causes you to doubt, abort or cancel your dreams and goals altogether.

The moment you realize that a person is negative in an area where you are trusting God to manifest for you, shut it down and stop talking to that person about that subject! Stop sharing with them immediately.9. Never come into agreement with anyone who is speaking opposite of what you believe God to manifest in your life. You should speak back to anyone who is being negative about your dream.

Single ladies, if you want to be married, when you hear someone say there are a shortage of men, you say, in a kind manner (you do not have to be rude), girl men are plentiful and besides, I only need the one that God hand picked just for me.

10. Always pray to the Heavenly Father and ask for guidance as you navigate to your new life.

Ask Him to give you His best in every situation and detach from the outcome.
Don’t try and figure out how it is going to happen. Your job is to believe and trust God.11. Read books and look at testimonies online of others who have obtain their dreams in the areas you want to obtain yours. This will keep your faith engaged in your goals and dreams.

12. When the spirit of truth prompt your heart to do something towards your dreams and goals, take fast actions.

13. Lastly, you never talk against the things you believe to happen for you on your vision board by doubting because it will take longer to come or not come to pass at all.

James 1:6-7

But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord

These are my 13 principles I use to manifest my goals and dreams on my vision board. Now go and create you a masterpiece Vision Board.

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How I Declutter My Home For The New Year!

table-white-home-interior (1)I like to declutter my environment at least 4 times a year. I like to declutter around the changing of the seasons. I will declutter a week before or after the new year, in the spring time, summer time, and in the fall. I believe every season brings new changes and new revelations.

I love reflecting over my life and my goals in each season. I am always listening inwardly to hear if the Holy Spirit wants to reveal important information to me. I also love changing out my fashion style with what I call, “my colors for the season.” I will write another blog post about how I invested in a fashion and style coach, “The Brown Closet” but for now, click the link to pay The Brown Closet a visit.

There is something about the New Year that makes me want to hit the reset button and start all over again. I love having systems in place in my home and decluttering is one of the systems I use to keep things organized. It always make me feel like I have a new start.pexels-photo-110215This year thou, I feel different. I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like a major shift has taken place in my heart. My New Year’s theme is a “New Year, a New You.” A part of that is really being intentional about changing some bad habits I had in 2017. Like being on time to scheduled appointments. I have 5 people that I am responsible for. I have to make sure they have what they need before we walk out of the door and I did not include myself in that number. I used this as an excuse to not be on time to places. But this year, I am going to intentionally put a plan in place to help me get to places on time. I will give myself lots of grace if things comes up that are out of my control.

This year I am decluttering my schedule, my time and my focus so that I will have breakthrough success. When I do my seasonal decluttering, I have items on my list that can never take a back seat to be decluttered, because if these things are not monitored, they can get out of control. These items are papers, clothes, shoes, toys and homeschool materials. Some people never get rid of things in their environment and it just accumulates.

I have 4 children all under the age of 12, it is challenging to keep things organized. My household includes 6 people. That is six people with things, stuff and items living in one environment. Imagine with me for a moment, if I never got rid of things from the time I got married and gave birth to my children, up until date, that would be 17 years of accumulation in a 1240 square foot of living space. The results would be stifling!books-1617327_1920I use to have 3 bookshelves but now I have just one. I got rid of the other ones because I want to live a more simpler and intentional lifestyle. The less you have in your environment, the less you have to clean and maintain the upkeep of it all. The less you have in your environment, the bigger your space feels.

I can only read one book at a time. I realize when I am done reading a book, I rarely go back to read it again. If I want a book, I can just check it out at my local library. The same goes for my children.

Unless you have someone that comes in and clean your home, what I found out is that, moms are always trying to stay on top of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, schedules and trying to keep things orderly. A lot of times we moms get frustrated and overwhelmed because we are trying to maintain the upkeep of the things we are constantly bringing in our homes for our families. It is exhausting to keep cleaning up the same old things you’ve just cleaned up 2 hours ago.

When I get disorganized, the things I instantly want to tackle are the dishes, paper/trash, clothes, shoes, toys, laundry and homeschool materials. I have to constantly stay on top of those items.blue-glass-flower-decoration (1)When I tackle my seasonal decluttering, I make sure to get every single detail. I clean out every cabinet, every closet, I get rid of any clothes that have stains, rips and are too small. I get rid of furniture that is broken and is not working for the space. I get rid of any appliances that are broken and dishes that are chipped. I get rid of shoes that are to little and worn out. I declutter homeschool material and papers, I clean out every drawer, I declutter linen, I get rid of toys that my children have lost interest in and are broken. I declutter medicine, I declutter food that is in the cabinets and refrigerator that have expired. I declutter books and I wipe down and clean everything; walls, doors, ceiling fans, light fixtures, carpet, furniture and floors.

I use to have a beautiful glass coffee and end table, glass vases, and the pretty decorative balls that sit on the coffee table but when I started having kids it was too much work to monitor it all and keep the glass mark free. I had to redefine my style of decor because the season had changed in my life. I remember trying to hold on to those glass tables because thy were one of a kind and we paid a lot of money for them, but my husband was adamant about letting them go after one of my children bumped their face on the glass. Those items were not working for us anymore.

Sometimes we try to hold on to seasons that have come and is now gone and God wants to do something new with our lives. If we are too attached to things and if our identity is wrapped up in them, we can become stuck in a formal season.

I would love to hear about ways you keep your life decluttered. Leave a comment. Follow me on social media by clicking the links down below. To follow me on Instagram click here.

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A New Year, A New You! 2018

I have 2 questions for you. How are you going to end 2017? How are you going to begin 2018?We have only 2 days before the new year begins and it is not too late to close the chapter on the past and open a new chapter on your future.

In today’s blog, I am going to share with you some of the ways you can end 2017 strong, and begin 2018 with a brand new you.

You can’t undo the past but you can bring closure to it. How I like to end my year strong, is by first, acknowledging all the things that I have accomplished in my year. 

If you’ve written in your journal all year, then you’ve documented more than you know. You can look back through the pages of your journal and be amazed at all the things you’ve actually accomplished.I also take inventory of all the blessings God manifested for me. Almost everynight, I list 10 or more things that showed up for me in my day and show gratitude to God by thanking Him for providing for me.

I also have a place in my journal that I write my goals, dreams and anything I want to accomplish. I look over that list and I thank God for the goals and dreams that were fulfilled.

The goals and dreams that have not manifested yet, I write them down in my new journal. Just because they didn’t come to past this year doesn’t mean they won’t come to pass next year. 

I also evaluate my goal list and take off any goals and dreams I have a change of heart about. I evaluate why these goals and dreams have not come to pass and write out a plan for how I can accompmish them.I end the year strong by evaluating what things I’ve allowed to distract me. I write in my journal how I can avoid these distractions in the next year.

I look over my schedule and ask myself, if I need to let go of anything that is on my schedule. 

I then look inwardly and ask myself are there things in my heart that I need to clear out and let go, and are there any relationships that I need to weed out or cultivate. 

I write it all down. I then ask God for forgiveness. I ask God for forgiveness if I knowingly or unknowingly offended anyone. I ask God to touch and release me from anyone who is holding ought against me.  After I have cleansed my heart and mind, I say a prayer and a confession that goes something like this:

This year is over. I will not take old baggage into the new year. I will leave everything behind me. I now walk into a new season and I am not taking any negative emotions with me into my new year. I intentionally pay attention to what I want to manifest for me this year. My sins are forgiven, my past have been washed away.

I live with no regrets of the previous year. Everything will work together for my good as I enter into a new year. I walk into my new year with a new mindset, a new me, a new level, a new dimension, a new vision for my life and my family, new strategies, new dreams and new goals. God I ask you to bless my life and bless 2018. In Jesus name Amen. CLOSURE! 2017

Now it is an opening to a new door, a new chapter, a new season, a new year and a brand new you. You need a new journal for 2018. You should start journaling what life will look like for you in 2018. Write it all out in as much details as you see it in your minds eye.

What I write in my new journal for 2018 all my new goals, new dreams, new schedule, new vision, new strategies, new mindset, new image and a brand new me.

I then create a Vision Board with pictures, scriptures and confessions as a reminder to keep my vision, dreams and goals before my eyes. 

I thank God for answering my prayers and requests in advance, trusting and detaching myself from the outcome on how God wants to manifest it.

Now go ahead bring closure to 2017. Write new visions, goals and dreams for 2018. Walk into the 2018 a New Year, a New You.

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Homeschool Curriculum Made Easy!

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Today I want to share with my homeschool moms, how I keep my homeschool curriculum simple, fun, engaging, challenging and easy.mathematics-2640219_1920I used to think you had to have a curriculum for all 8 subjects. One for math, spelling, writing, history, science, art, reading and english(language arts, grammar).

That is probably fine, if you are homeschooling 1 or even 2 children, but when you are homeschooling more than 2 children, you probably want to keep it simple for your children and for yourself.

This is my 3rd year homeschooling, and burnout is real if you do not have a plan in place for it.

You have to keep your homeschooling creative, fun, simple, easy, challenging and engaging. You have to switch things up sometimes. I like to call this, my mid year switcharoo.books-2585511_1920Routines are great as long as you shake things up a bit. You need to incorporate some fieldtrips…

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Homeschool Curriculum Made Easy!

Today I want to share with my homeschool moms, how I keep my homeschool curriculum simple, fun, engaging, challenging and easy.mathematics-2640219_1920I used to think you had to have a curriculum for all 8 subjects. One for math, spelling, writing, history, science, art, reading and english(language arts, grammar).

That is probably fine, if you are homeschooling 1 or even 2 children, but when you are homeschooling more than 2 children, you probably want to keep it simple for your children and for yourself.

This is my 3rd year homeschooling, and burnout is real if you do not have a plan in place for it.

You have to keep your homeschooling creative, fun, simple, easy, challenging and engaging. You have to switch things up sometimes. I like to call this, my mid year switcharoo.books-2585511_1920Routines are great as long as you shake things up a bit. You need to incorporate some fieldtrips, co-ops, playdates, time off, vacations and switch up they way you homeschool sometimes.

I like to go to the park or the library and homeschool there. Changing up your scenary keep homeschooling fun and engaging. Instead of having lunch at home, I like to go to the park and have a pinic lunch. I even had a pinic lunch on my front lawn.

Moms, I suggest you getaway for at least 3 days by yourself to a nice hotel. Sometimes you need to be by yourself, without anyone around. You need to wake up without being responsible for anyone. If you just want to lie in bed all day, you should be able to do that on your getaway.interior-1026452_1920Do not ask your girlfriends to join you, because you will find out, you are still on other people time. You need this time alone. You need to pour back into yourself, from pouring into others all the time. Taking time away for yourself will also prevent homeschool burnout.

I use to be an 8 subjects, 8 different curricula homeschooling moma, until I reached homeschool burnout.

I prayed and ask God to show me how to condense 8 subjects into about 3-4 subjects. Here’s how He showed me I can make this happen so that I would not feel overwhelmed, burned out and my kids lessons would be fun, easy for me to teach, simple, engaging, challenging and creative.

Ok, first of all who said you had to use a set curriculum. I had to relax in the way I homeschooled, and then I had to look back over my elementary years of going to school to remember what I actually retained from all those years.leave-364178_1920I retained the subjects I do life with every single day. Subjects like reading, writing and arithmetic like; adding, subtracting, multiplications, divison and percentage.

Grammar was not a strong point for me in high school but it is my life now, I make sure to make this subject important for my kids because some of them are going to be writers like their mommy.

Life skills or home economics, is very important to the way we live our life as well. We get the privilegde of teaching these skills to our homeschoolers often. Manners have become a lost art in our society, it needs to be taught at home, always, until your children leave your home. It is important for them to know what is proper and what is not when they go out into the world.

Then you are left with history, science, art and geography. Not saying these subject are not important because they are, but you have to make these subjects fun and engaging or they will become boring to your children.pexels-photo-207756When my kids learn, I want them to actually retain what they are learning, not push a bunch of infomation in their brain because I am trying to finish a curriculum to make myself feel accomplished.

So here is my process!

My kids ages are 12, 6 and 5, they are all girls. I have a son that is 3 years old, and he goes to a early childhood center, 4 days a week, for only 3 hours, it is free in our community and it gives him social and learning time with other boys and girls his age.

I struggled to put him in this program. But I am glad I did. He loves it. He requires a lot of attention and this has allowed me to effectively focus on my school age children.

The girls work load looks like this now.

  1. Math
  2. Spell and Write book
  3. Writing
  4. Unit Study which includes Art, History, Science some Geography and Book report.

Math

My 12 year old is using

 Ace Homeschool Math, 6th grade, she does 3 pages a day.

My 6 and 5 year old does 1-3 math sheets or activites a day, depending on how challenging or easy it is. I brought math books for both of them, tore out the pages and put them in a binder. They also use ABC mouse.pexels-photo-446345 (1).jpegSpelling and Writing

All three girls use Spell and Write by Evan Moor kindergarten, 1st grade and 6th grade which includes spelling, reading, writing and grammar & punctuation. All of these subjects are inside of this one book. I have them to do 3 pages a day. Click the link to see how the book looks on the inside. Click on the book to look inside. You get to see how they are able to put all these subjects into one book.

For additional reading, my 12 year and 6 year old are reading chapter books and my 5 year old is learning how to read with Teach Your Child To Read In 100 Easy Lesson.

For additional writing, my 12 year old write book reports, letters and stories. We use grammar & punctuation editing here as well. My 6 and 5 year old does book reports also, I allow my 1st grader to write and spell her words in her 1st grade vocabulary and spelling. Sometimes we go over the misspelled words and sometime we do not.

This is part of the 1st grader process. They write words with the sounds that make sense to them. They draw about the person they are doing a book report about and write what ever they retained in our reading about that person. My 5 year old does copy work. She tells me what to write and then I write it out for her to copy on her own.

My 6 year old and 5 year old also uses Abeka cursive and manuscript writing for their grade level.solar-system-439046_1920Unit Study

All 3 girls do their unit study together. Unit Studies include science, art, and history some geography. They do not do all of these subjects in one day. It is not burdensome. I keep it light and fun!

What are our unit studies about? Right now we just finished learning about the Human Body. We will learn about the Moon, Sun, Planets, Genetics, Plant Life, Weather, and Matter.

I will do a seperate blog post about how I plan my unit studies. It will take a whole another blog post to talk about it and to go into details about it. Unit Studies take a lot of planning, but I love the process! They are unique, simple, challenging, creative and so much fun!

This is our process this year. It might change next year. But this year, I had to change things up a bit.

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Being Grateful, Is Like Christmas Everyday!

As I sit here thinking about all the blessings God has bestowed upon me, I can’t help but to be grateful for how He has blessed me through out the years. So many blessings for me to count, it would take more than 10 blog posts to count them all.

But I will share more than a few of my blessings with you in this blog. I am not sharing them with you to brag, but to showcase key points on how God manifest His blessing and gifts in a believers life.     christmas-1038367_1920This is the Christmas season, and while people are shopping for gifts and wrapping presents, Christmas for me is everyday. The best present I get to unwrap everyday is my relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, which is the real reason why we celebrate Christmas in the first place.

Since I’ve learned the power of gratitude, I realize that I receive presents from my Heavenly Father every single day. At the end of my day, I write in my favorite journal, all the blessings and gifts that showed up for me in that day, and I thank God for every last one of them.

When I write in my journal, I not only thank God for what shows up in my life, but I also write out my prayers, goals and dreams, and those things shows up for me as well. Like the time I wrote out a list of all the things that I needed fixed around my house and prayed to God about it and thanked Him for the manifestation of it, and trusted in Him that it will get done.female-865110_1920Well, when you ask God for something, just know it’s not going to manifest how you think it is going to manifest. That is why you have to detach yourself from the outcome. I had a small consuming fire in my bathroom. My vent fan overheated, by the way, the vent fan was on my list of things that needed to be fixed.

We smelled something burning and realized it was coming from the bathroom. We looked up and fire was falling down from the vent in the ceiling and onto the my bathroom rug.

We put the fire out that fell on the rug, we gathered all the children and got into the car, then we drove the car on the other side of the street and called the 911 to send the firemen/women to our home. Two red firetrucks and some policemen showed up. The fire didn’t spread, but the fireman had to break a small portion of the ceiling to make sure everything was fine and the fire did not spread in the ceiling.

The firemen and woman were so kind and nice to my family. There were a hosts of firemen and a fire woman that showed up. They were congregating, talking and laughing on our front lawn. Each child got a red plastic fire hat, they were so excited. fire-truck-2216240_1920You would’ve thought, we would have been all shook up, but it truly turned out to be a joyous occasion. The next day, we called someone out to fix the ceiling, they not only fixed the ceiling, my husband paid them to fix everything that concerned me. My list that I asked God to take of, was fulfilled. I want to show you that the fire was from God. It was his way of answering my prayers.

2 Chronicles 7:1-3 NIV 1 When Solomon finished praying, fire came down from heaven and consumed the burnt offering and the sacrifices, and the glory of the LORD filled the temple. 2 The priests could not enter the temple of the LORD because the glory of the LORD filled it.

3 When all the Israelites saw the fire coming down and the glory of the LORD above the temple, they knelt on the pavement with their faces to the ground, and they worshiped and gave thanks to the LORD, saying, “He is good; his love endures forever.”

After everything were fixed, I realized God created the situation to answer my prayer.The fire represented the Holy Spirit, The red firetrucks and the red fire hats represented the blood of Jesus, and the Angelic Host represented the firemen/woman. The company that fix everything on my list, is called Praise Painting.prayerhands.1200w.tnMy family knelt down in our hearts next to the pavement while we were thanking God that the fire was not that serious and we worshiped him by thanking Him for being so good to us and keeping us safe. So here are the things that got fixed on my list:

  • New vent fan and ceiling fixed
  • New vanity sink in the bathroom
  • Better water flow in the bathroom sink
  • New ceiling fan in my bedroom
  • New electrical cover for the sockets
  • New light fixture in my kids room
  • Basement drywall reparied from a sum pump we had installed
  • Light fixture in the hallway replaced with a new one
  • Both toliets completely flushed out from my son throwing objects in the toliets

All of things I’ve listed in my favorite journal was fixed with one prayer!

Of course, I wrote in my favorite journal, thanking God for how quick he manifested this prayer for me and thanking Him for every single one of my blessings. Oh how my heart was so grateful to God, I learned a lot about how God operates from that experience and will leave the key points for you at the end of this blog.

But why don’t we go to another blessing and gift God manifested for me. I told you Christmas is everyday for me!hat-2590828_1920While believing God for a new house, what shows up is a new car. Let me tell you, it is not about the things, it is about how God blesses you when you trust him to manifest certain things for you. He has manifested healing, deliverance and answered prayers for me.

I am choosing to use material things to get my points across. It is about God giving you your hearts desire, it is about acknowledging every blessing that shows up for you, it is about being grateful when God blesses you with what one might consider to be insignificant things.

See, I chose to give up my business, to come home and raise my kids. I was use to buying whatever I want, when I wanted it, because the money flow was there. I was use to taking care of myself and being the independant woman.

But when my husband and I decided it was best for me to come home and help raise our childern, it took alot of faith on my part, that is why I know God can take care of the single parent and the woman who decides to live on one income to stay at home to raise her family and now have to rely on God and her husband to make sure her needs are met.

God has proven Himself to be a provider over and over again in my life! From the day I decided to come home and take care of my family, I never lacked anything but gain more than I ever had, working. The scripture passage that I hold dear in my thoughts and in my heart is DO NOT WORRY!

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6:25-34 NKJV

25 “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?

28 “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; 29 and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?

31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Yes, I thought about a new car, but I didn’t ask for the new car because I wanted the house before the car. I was putting the car on the back burner until the house manifested. I had my own plans on how I thought it should go.

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After thanking God in my favorite journal at the end of my day for all the wonderful blessings and gifts that manifested for me, I closed my Journal and went to sleep. I woke up the next day and my husband said we are getting a new car today. I didn’t say a word because I had not ask for a car, I asked for a house.

But remember, I had pondered a new car in my heart. Only God knew what was in my heart. Yes we got a new car! Without any effort on my part. My husband and daughter took charge of that. My husband asked what color I wanted, and I told him. I then stated my desires for what amenties I wanted to have inside the car, and the rest was history.

My husband made sure I got my heart desires and every amenties that I wanted, our new car had. We were in need of a new car because our SUV at the time, needed to be repaired to often.

I want to share one more blessing with you and name some gifts given to me from the Lord this year and then I will list ways God manifest his blessing.

I told you I wanted a new house and it will manifest for me in its own time, but the house I am currently living in is new. Let me tell you why. As a results of me writing in my favorite journal.

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I wrote to God about all the things I wanted to upgrade in my home in my favorite journal and each and everyone one of those things have been done. Of course, I wrote in my journal how thankful and grateful I was when it manifested for me.

My husband and I was going to put our house on the market to sell but decided not to because we want to handle our finances the Biblical way, read God’s Way, Verse The Worlds Way, On Money and Debt to see what I am talking about. God use this to get everything in my house, like new. This is all the things that were on my 2nd list that manifested.

  • We got a new drive way poured and new front porch
  • We Painted the house
  • Put in a new sum pump system to keep the basement dry
  • Refinished (meaning) painted our kitchen cabinets
  • New refrigerator
  • Cleaned the carpets through out the house
  • Privacy fenced in the back yard, this wasn’t new but we put it in within the last 2-3 years.
  • Regrouted our back splash in the kitchen
  • Sealed up cracks in the walls and ceiling

Then when it was all done, we decided not to sell and take care of others things first. At first, I wasn’t to happy, but when I realized it, I was living in a new paid for house! I am content and in time God will manifest a new location for me and my family but I am super grateful to God for giving me Christmas everyday!

There are so many other stories I want to tell, but I will find a way to tell you in another blog. Right now, I want to share with you key points on how God shows up and make Christmas happen for you everyday.

Key Points:

  1. Build a relationship with God by accepting His son as your Lord and Saviour.
  2. Trust Him for everything.
  3. Go out and buy you a journal that you love! Or purchase one like mines. It should be on sale for the Christmas season.
  4. Write things down. Your prayers, goals, desires and dreams.
  5. Ask God to help you manifest it, and then allow him to manifest it the way He choose to.
  6. Detach yourself from the outcome.
  7. Be grateful everyday. Write down all the things you are grateful for that day.
  8. Thank God for it, when it shows up.
  9. And do it over the next day and the next and the next day.
  10. Worship him and sing his praise, He loves that!

 

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Woman of Influence

There are so many women of influence in the earth today, but today, we are talking to Christian women who have influence. Our Influence is different from the women who have influence without having Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior. We are suppose to be kingdom minded. Our wisdom and our influence comes from the Spirit of God.

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1 Corinthians 2:14

The natural man does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God. For they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.

I am going to speak to you about what I believe, God wants his daughters to know about the power of their influence.

A woman of influence is serious about her relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. A woman of influence walks in integrity. A woman of integrity do not play petty games. A woman of influence relies on her faith. A woman of influence is a praying woman, she knows where her help comes from. A woman of influence controls the words that comes out of her mouth.

Proverbs 18:20-21

20 With the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach will be satisfied; He will be satisfied with the product of his lips. 21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. 

A woman of influence cleanses her heart of all falsehood, gossip, wrong intentions, envy, strife, backbiting, jealously, lust, manipulation, pride, unforgiviness, cattiness, hatred, bitterness and all forms of evil.

A woman of influence is also bold. She has quite strength, wise, sharp, discerning, intuitive, powerful, impactful and cares about her fellow sisters. A woman of influence is feminine, but strong. She is humble and brave. A woman of influence is always building people up. She tells the truth when truth needs to be spoken. A woman of influence walks in love, even when she sees others wrong heart towards her.

A woman of influence has a servants heart. She doesn’t care if she gets the glory because she knows her rewards comes straight from the throne of God!

Luke 22 :24-27 

A dispute also arose among them as to which of them was considered to be greatest. 25 Jesus said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles lord it over them; and those who exercise authority over them call themselves Benefactors. 26 But you are not to be like that. Instead, the greatest among you should be like the youngest, and the one who rules like the one who serves. 27 For who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But I am among you as one who serves.

A woman of influence has confidence in her God, because to have confidence in anything else is unreliable. A woman of influence relies on her power tools: The Bible, prayer, the Holy Spirit and the power of her words.

A woman of influence celebrates and encourages others, she doesn’t live in fear of someone out shinning her or taking her spot because she knows that it is God that sets one man up and bring another man down. But with that being said, she has a discerning spirit. She is in tune with the Holy Spirit who shows the believer all things in the spirit realm.

John 16:13

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.

Psalm 75:6-7 

6For not from the east, nor from the west, Nor from the desert comes exaltation; 7But God is the Judge; He puts down one and exalts another.…

If we are going to be women of influence, there are things we are going to have to put down, stop and add to our life. God is looking for women who are serious about making an impact in their sphere of influence.

Some women think you can only make an impact if you hold an influential position. But God has called us all to be influencers. There are some environments you are called to influence.

Whether you are the boss, the employee, the daughter, the mom, the wife, the business owner, the teacher, the church member, whether you are in 5 fold ministry, the pastor, the single lady or the sister, you are called to influence.

Today I want to talk about having influence as a wife, mom, a unmarried woman and a church member.

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Women of God, I want to talk about a woman who used her Influence for evil.

Delilah used her beauty and sex appeal to influence the strong man Samson, preying on his runaway lust. Samson was a judge over Israel, one of those rulers who kept order before the reign of kings. He was also a warrior who killed many Philistines, which fueled their desire for revenge. They used Delilah to discover the secret of Samson’s strength: his long hair. Once Samson’s hair was cut, he was powerless. Samson returned to God but his death was tragic. The story of Samson and Delilah tells how lack of self-control can lead to a person’s downfall.

Men of God are falling from their position because of the Delilah spirit. Some men are full of lust, married and single men, but daughters of God, I am talking to you today.

Women are using their sex appeal to lure men out of their position in the body of Christ and out of their homes. Women are leaving their position in their marriage because they are covenant breakers. I am not talking about the women who are being abused in their marriage, I am talking about the women who are physically leaving their postions and mentally leaving their positions because of lust. They are fantasizing about someone else’s husband or fantasizing about being with single men.

Women are luring men by touching, making eye contact, complimenting men, flirting with someone else’s husband that they have no covenant right to, and this is going on in the church as well as in the world.

1 Corn. 7:1-6

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Women are being used by the devil to flaunt their bodies and using their feminine power to entice and seduce men. We are living in the days like Sodom and Gommorah. Every where you look; TV, social media, online, movies and magazines, women are exploiting themselves, showing breast, wear flesh gripping pants that shows off their shape, their behinds and wearing pants without under garment or wearing them with under garment, so men can look at what kind of panties they have on and exposing their belly buttons.

Daughters of God that should not be named amoung you. You should be influencing your environment by setting a higher standard and not fitting in with the environment. There have been a spirit of seduction and lust released in the earth. Christian women have adopted the dress of the world by trying to stay relevent and are bringing it amoungst God’s people, and wondering why the men of God are having a hard time keeping their attention in their marriage and being led astray out of their positions.

Unmarried woman

Beautiful single sisters. All unmarried women are not operating out of character, I am only talking to the ones that this blog post applies to, if this is not you, then please do not take this personal. God wants to bring you your own husband. You do not have to have attention of a married man. Their is not a shortage of men. But you have to be serious about your relationship with Christ. You have to respect the marriage covenant, especially if you desire to be married one day. Women set a standard in your dress.

A Influential women is intentional about covering her most precious assets. She have a heart after God, she do not want to cause no men to fall on account of her dress. She respects herself. She is not trying to get negative attention by having men notice her body. Their is so much more to you than your outer appearance.

Modesty: having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent:a modest neckline on a dress.

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Marriage

A influential woman knows her covenant rights in her marriage. Wives be aware of women who always wants to get your husband attention! She is always prancing in front of him, always finding ways to make a connection with him by talking to him, complimenting him and touching on him, always want to give him hugs and always smiling in his face. Set boundaries in your marriage and with your husband when it comes to the opposite sex. Educate your husband on seducing women. It could be innocent interaction with the opposite sex, but if you have the slighest concern, do not ignore it. Address it in a kind, non-accusing manner with your spouse. Nip it in the bud.

Your marriage is to important to allow intruders and insignificant people, that has nothing to do with your marriage covenant to be little foxes that spoil the vine. Things will go on that you are not comfortable with, if you do not address it. You have to be the one who is setting the standard for your marriage. Others will get offended with you for not giving them excess to your covenant. But an influencial woman could care less about what others think when it comes to fighting and protecting her covenant from intruders.

Become a woman of prayer. Pray for your marriage and pray for yourself. Use the power of your words to speak your amazing marriage into existence. Use the power of your words to restructure your marriage. Write down scriptures and speak them over your marriage daily. Do not curse your seeds by talking negatively about your spouse or your marriage.

Do not allow other married women to have excess to your husband either. Just because she is married, do not make it any more better than a single woman. Some women are lacking attention in their own marriage, and instead of women investing in making their own marriage work, they would rather get conversation from sister soing and so husband who has a wonderful marriage covenant. They would take the time to compliment your husband, but not have taken the time to compliment their own husband. Confront intruders in your marriage until they are destroyed!

Just like God is jealous when we go whoring after other Gods because we have a covenant with him, is the same way a wife or a husband feels when their attention has been lured out of their home.

Influential women is not intimidated when she knows she needs to address some important things in her marriage. She prayerfully consider her approach to her husband. Wives you have to be in tune with your own husband. Men of God are falling from their positions because of the spirit of lust.

Wives, you fight for your marriage. Fight for the covenant you made with your husband. The enemy is after your lineage. If your covenant is destroyed there goes the your lineage.

An influential woman does everything in her power to safe guard her marriage. If it falls apart, it is not because she did not put her all into making it work.
Wives make sure you are talking to your husband with respect. Make sure you are serving your husband in whatever compacity you can help him in. The deepest needs of your husband is for respect, sex, encouragement, support, and he needs to feel like he still got it. Just like you want compliments, so do he, He craves it. Make him feel needed. He looks to you for a safe place to rest. Can he trust you with his heart? Or have you torn him down with your words.

Tell him how grateful you are that he is your husband. A man needs you to be his friend. Sit down with him and watch the game with him sometimes, or go outside with him when he is fixing something and just watch him or talk him through the process. Touch on him throughout the day. Kiss him passionately. Wives it is your job to send your husband out the home fully satisfied. When he comes home, make sure you have set a peaceful atmosphere where he feels safe and wants to run home to. When you talk to others, let him hear you talking well of him.

Wives go out and buy yourself some lingeria. Keep things spicy with your husband. I know you probably feel like you put on some weight, but do not let that be an issue. A man looks at confidence. Remember you are his gift and his favor from God, He needs to feel that.

Wives, we do need to keep ourselves up, so we can feel good. Go walking for 30 minutes at least 4-5 times a week. Do things you enjoy, that makes you happy and do it by yourself, and do things together as a couple.

A husband loves to see his wife smile. A influential woman count her blessing daily. She is grateful for all the blessing in her life. She is content in Christ. Remember to smile, be pleasant, watch the words that come out of your mouth, make sure you are not filling your atmosphere with negativity. It should not be the outward appearance but your gentle and quite spirit. Set yourself apart by staying out of gossiping atmosphere.

Influential woman keep your speech very positive and uplifting. When people don’t feel good about themselves, they have a tendency to talk about others is a negative way.

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Church

Where is the love in the Church? Women we are called to a greater love. If we are truly being about our father’s business, than we all know that God has called us to come up higher in our love walk. Get away from people who are always knows everybody business at church and wants to gossip about other people business. Reframe from being a busybody. A woman of infleunce do not have time for gossip because she is to focus with what is on her her own plate.

We are called to pray for our sisters and brothers in Christ. If our sister are going through something and you know about it, pray for them, and ask God how can you be a blessing to her. Genuinely form the heart. It could be you in that situation.

Woman of God, I do know God wants us to show love with greeting. But can I admonish you to hug the women, and shake hands with the men. I do know some women and men are affectionate people, it could be your love language. But it is a lot of foolery going on in the body of Christ. Believers are not guarding their spirit and getting into lust.

If you are offended with your local body then you really can’t be much help, because your heart is hurting. Please pray and ask God to cleanse your heart towards anybody you are holding offense with. Go to that person or ask God to heal your heart and forgive them.

Make sure you are praying for your Pastors and leaders of your church and cover the body of believers in prayer daily. We are our sisters and brothers keepers. The enemy would love nothing more than to see the body of Christ fall apart.

James 3:14-15

But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.

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Mom

God has called us to be influenitial in our home. You have to take your role seriously. My sisters, you are called to impact your lineage and generations and generation that is coming after you. You are one of the 2 greatest influences your child has in their life. The second influence is their father, if he is involved in their life. But I do know some of us were not born again when we had children, but it is never to late to introduce your children to Jesus.

Deuteronomy 6:5-6,

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

God is relying on you to introduce your children to him. I don’t know if you ladies know it or not, but the god of this world, will have an influence over your children if you do not teach them the ways of the Lord and if you do not teach them who voice thy should be listening to.

Children most impactful way of learning about their enviroment is by watching what is consistently being displayed in front of them. So how are you really living when you are behind closed doors. Children are very intelligent human beings. Because they haven’t said anything to you, they are seeing the real deal of what is happening in their homes. How are you influencing your children? You have the power to change the course of your children destiny!

Psalm 127:3-5

3Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. 5 How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed When they speak with their enemies in the gate.…

Lay your hands over your children and speak great things over your them. Your words are molding their life. Make sure you are correcting your children, that is part of loving them. Rebuke anyone who have anything negative to say about your marriage or your children. Pray for them always, whatever is concerning you about your children let prayer be the first thing you do, so God can show you what to do concerning your children.

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God’s Way verses the World’s Way On Money and Debt

Holy Bible and money

Today I want share with you a biblical perspective on how we (believers of the Bible) should handle our finances. I also want to do a comparison of how we’ve always been taught by the world’s system to handle our finances, verse God’s way of handling our finances. I will also expose the truth about debt from a Biblical perspective.

I must warn you that if you have been living with credit cards, and getting loans for everything you own and paying monthly payments on your possessions, this is going to shake your confidence because what I am about to expose you to right now, probably goes against everything you’ve been taught and everything you know about money and debt. It takes having real trust in the Heavenly Father to handle your money the Biblical way, verse the world’s way.

You will find out that when the rug is pulled out from under you, and what I mean by that is, when all of your options are taken away from you to use other people’s money to fund your material possessions and your dreams, that your security has been in the world’s system and not in God’s system. True financial security comes when you owe no man but to love him, false security comes when you are a slave to the lender and have borrowed the lender’s money to fund your dreams or your possessions.

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I want you to know this blog post is all about me as well, I don’t get a pass. I was hesitant to release this blog post because I didn’t want to sound like I had it all together. My husband and I are still working towards handling our finances the way the Bible instructs us to. It’s hard and tempting, going back and forth and dancing with what the world offers you, verses taking a stand to handle your money God’s way. I am not judging you and I do not have it all together, but my husband and I are working on a better financial future. I have been released to release this blog post, in the hopes of getting believers of the Bible to see the truth verses a lie on how we been taught to handle our finances.

Just because the world deems it normal to take out loans of every kind, apply for credit cards, make vows, pledges, give money and possessions without truly looking at all the other bills you owe or counting up the cost, do not make it the Biblical thing to do.

We live in a country where debt is supreme, but what I am learning from a biblical perspective is that Cash is King. If you do not have the money in your possession to fund it, then you save up for it and pay cash or you live without it, or God will bless you with it through someone else, instead of becoming a slave to the lender and borrowing it. Now I know we are taught about good debt and bad debt, like borrowing money to fund your degree, a home and business but from a Biblical perspective all debt is bad.

I know most people have no other option but to borrow funds for their schooling, home and business, it will help put them in a better financial situation. But even in these cases, you are still a slave to lender until you set yourself free from the snare of the fowler, you are not exempt, neither are you the exception to the rule when it comes to handling your finances the biblical way.

Any debt from a biblical perspective is being a slave to the lender. This article is only talking about what the bible has to say about money.

Now I love Dave Ramsey philosophy about money because it comes from a biblical view and after listening to his talk on money, it is a goal of mine to adopt a biblical perspective on how I handle my finances.

Now let us dispel, expose and learn some truths about money from a biblical perspective verses the world’s perspective. Click this link to learn 250 Bible verses about money.

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1. Debt : a state of being under obligation to pay or repay someone or something in return for something received : a state of owing deeply in debt to creditors.

The world offers us so many ways to get ourselves into debt, like credit cards, car loan, mortgage loan, business loan, payday loan, furniture loan, appliances loan, co-signing for some one else’s debt, making pledges, student loan, banks are offering a program where you can borrow against your own money therefore making you in debt to yourself while they are making interest off of your money, and if you forfeit the rules that they established for you to borrow against your own money, your money becomes the bank money and you loose your money to the bank. Leasing cell phone, borrowing money from friends, families and foes. It is so easy to get into debt.

Now let’s read what God thinks about all of this, put your seat belt on, you are about to see things in the word of God that you probably have never seen before.

This is God’s will for his people:

Deuteronomy 15:6
For the Lord your God will bless you as He has promised you, and you will lend to many nations, but you will not borrow; and you will rule over many nations, but they will not rule over you.

Deuteronomy 28:12
The Lord will open for you His good storehouse, the heavens, to give rain to your land in its season and to bless all the work of your hand; and you shall lend to many nations, but you shall not borrow.

God said, when we are trusting in him and live our lives after his ways, He would bless us and we will lend to many nations, BUT YOU WILL NOT BORROW, we will rule over nations, but they will not rule over you. God said he will open up his good store house, the heavens, to give us rain to our land in its season, and to bless the works our hands, and you SHALL LEND TO MANY NATIONS BUT YOU SHALL NOT BORROW! 

Now tell me, how are we going to be lenders, if we are borrowing other people’s money?

We have disqualified ourselves from this scripture when we borrow money because God’s tells his people that they will lend and not borrow, this is our covenant right with God. Every time we get ourselves into debt we forfeit this covenant.

In fact Proverbs 22:7 tells us,

Proverbs 22:7
The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.

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Anytime you take on a loan, borrow money from someone or make a vow to someone to give them something, whether you’ve signed your name on the dotted line by saying you are going to pay this money back or you’ve entered into an oath or agreement or a pledge with your mouth, you have now become that person or institute slave!

They now rule over you, from this scripture they are the ones that are rich, now you are the one who is poor because you did not have the cash in your hand or in your bank account to pay for the items you wanted at the time the full amount of payment was needed.

The Bible has a lot to say about a person who borrows money from others and do not pay it back, the Bible cause that person wicked!

Psalm 37:21
The wicked borrows and does not pay back, but the righteous is gracious and gives.

But in that same verse, it talks about the righteous is gracious and gives. Righteous people are principle people, they are courteous and kind. They desire to help others. They think about how their actions effect others and their family. Righteous people do things the way the Bible instructs them to. They count up the cost before entering into covenants. They are people of integrity. They rather not live above their means. They give because they have enough to give without robbing peter to pay Paul. (This is my take on it.)

Exodus 22:14
If a man borrows anything from his neighbor, and it is injured or dies while its owner is not with it, he shall make full restitution.

We live in a time where people words have lost it’s power, now you have to get things in writing. Years ago you can do a handshake and believe what the other person tells you when you loan them money, clothing and your car etc. As believers, the Bible tells us if we borrow anything from anyone, and it gets damaged, lost or stolen, we are to make full restitution of what we borrowed. If we do not make good on the word or our vow, we are considered wicked!

Lets look at what the scripture say in the Bible about making an oath, pledge or a vow.

Proverbs 17:18 ESV One who lacks sense gives a pledge and puts up security in the presence of his neighbor

Proverbs 17:18 ISV A man who lacks sense cosigns a loan, becoming a guarantor for his neighbor.

When we co-sign for other people to enter into debt, the Bible says we lack sense! That person is not credit worthy or they could have gotten the loan themselves. If they do not pay their debt, that debt now becomes yours because you’ve made a vow to the lenders stating, “I will pay off their car, house or item if they don’t honor their vow with you.”

What is a Pledge?

1. a formal or solemn promise or agreement, esp to do or refrain from doing something.

2. collateral for the payment of a debt or the performance of an obligation the condition of being collateral (esp in the phrase in pledge).

3. a sign, token, or indication: the gift is a pledge of their sincerity.

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This is the only thing from scripture that a follower of Christ is suppose to owe a person.

Romans 13:8
Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

Let us read the scriptures about borrowing money

Psalm 37:21
The wicked borrows and does not pay back, but the righteous is gracious and gives.

2 Kings 4:7
Then she came and told the man of God. And he said, “Go, sell the oil and pay your debt, and you and your sons can live on the rest.”

The world sends us messages, mail and even encourages us to get into debt. They make it so easy for us we to qualify for a loan to purchase the things that we want. They don’t care about your previous history of filing for chapter 13 and your poor credit history. They have created programs designed just for people with a bad money history.

Colossians 2:8 ESV See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.

God is telling us follow his ways and not the ways of the world!

Matthew 5:33 ESV “Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.’ But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.

James 5:12 ESV But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.

Lets sum it all up. From these scriptures the Bible says do not make an oath, vow or pledge. When you do, it is not of God or comes from God. It is not wise. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Anything other than your yes or no, comes from the evil one. If you have the money in your hand or bank account give it or buy it. If you don’t, do not entrap or enslave yourself by making vows, oaths or pledges. If you owe anyone or made a pledge pay your vow, or you would be considered wicked!

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THE POWER OF LETTING GO! A key element in manifesting anything in your life.

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I am reminded of a time when I so badly wanted to visit the beautiful continent of Africa.

Africa is where my husband is from. Africa is where my ancestors are from. It seemed like everything was coming up to stop me from making this dream a reality.

Here are a list of things that came up:

My husband and I had other obligations and things that needed our financial attention. If he traveled, then I needed to stay home to take care of our business that he ran. I was either pregnant and couldn’t travel or I had just given birth to a baby. We also had another business that I ran that required me to be hands on, if I didn’t work it, the monies stop flowing. It seemed like circumstances was not lining up for me.

I even accused my hubby for not wanting to take me to the place he grew up.

But the truth is, my husband wanted everything to be comfortable for me when we arrived in his hometown. He wanted my first time visiting the place he grew up to be an amazing experience.

I assured him that I can handle anything. I am a girl who has been through something. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth. It didn’t matter where I stayed, I wanted to see where my ancestors were from. I could feel Africa in my bones.

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It seemed like this dream of going to Africa was taking forever. I would have words back and forth with my husband about it, I made it a real issue. My husband assured me that we will go Africa and all I needed to do was trust and be patient. But my patience was running out.

So one day, I decided to let go of the anxiousness of going to Africa. I truly let it go in my heart. I decided to be content with it, and not let it ever be an issue between my Husband and I.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6)

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Hebrews 13:5


  •  THE MOMENT I LET IT GO, I KNEW IN MY SPIRIT THAT GOD WOULD LINE UP EVERY CIRCUMSTANCES FOR ME TO GO TO AFRICA!
  • Yes It happened, and it happened so fast! My time had come! The opportunity to visit Africa finally presented itself to me.
  1. I didn’t own my business anymore, we didn’t have any major financial obligation. I wasn’t pregnant. I wasn’t breastfeeding my son anymore. My babies were at the age that they could have a babysitter without me being in town. All of my circumstances were lining up for me.
  • But now all of a sudden, I had some resistance towards going to Africa. I remember saying to God, “you are going to make me go aren’t you?” At that time, I was not willing to part from my babies for that long period of time. I even told my husband, “you go without me, I don’t want to go.” I truly struggled! The only people I could trust to watch after my kids could not watch my children while I was in Africa.
  • Now here I was telling God and my husband that the timing wasn’t right. I asked God, “who is going to watch my babies while I’m in Africa and who could I trust? The only people I could trust with my kids for that long period of time were my parents and my oldest daughter. My daughter had to work and my parents were traveling on the same dates I would be traveling to Africa.

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One day, while talking to a friend and telling her that I have an opportunity to go to Africa but needed someone who I could trust to watch my children before I could even entertain the offer, she told me that she also had an opportunity to take a trip out of the country and needed a babysitter to watch her child. She asked me if we could exchange babysitting services.

When I tell you that everything lined up for me, I mean everything. Oh my God! God supernatural assigned his angelic host to escort me to Africa. On top of that, God blessed me with a mini vacation! I had time alone, away from the kids while I traveled to retrieve my passport and my Nigerian visa.

Listen to all I had to go through to get to Africa. God provided for me supernaturally every step of the way! He assigned people who showed me favor to get me to Africa. I could feel the prayers of my husband and the intercessory prayer warriors in Africa, praying for my journey to Africa!

I needed to update my passport, and at the time I would be traveling to Africa, my passport would not be ready if I sent it through the mail. So I had to travel to Chicago because they give out passports on the spot. Yes! Mission accomplished, I received my passport!

But I needed a Nigerian visa to visit Nigeria, and now I had to travel to Atlanta to get a Nigerian visa. So I traveled to Atlanta, but when I arrived they told me that they didn’t not have anymore visas and I needed to go to New York if I wanted a Nigerian visa. They also told me that it was a holiday for them, and they were taking off and all of the Nigerian Embassy would be closed and I only had that day and the next day to make that happened, I didn’t know what to do! I said what! You guys are suppose to keep Visas in stocked, that is why you guys are an Embassy.

I didn’t want to travel to New York, and I felt like I did all this traveling for nothing! The Embassy in Atlanta told me all the information they could tell me and I was left to figure the rest out on my own. I heard a lady say I could over night the forms and fees if I can get some one in their processing center who would receive it and process my forms. That was my only hope! I told myself if only I could talk to someone at the New York Embassy. I attempted to call and could not get anyone but a recorder.

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I was frustrated and was about to give up but I heard in my spirit, “call again,” and I pushed a different button. I got a lady who works in the processing center. She gave me so much favor. She told me what to do and gave me the number to her direct line. My husband and I worked hard to get everything we needed to process this Visa. We paid all of the fees and filled out all of the forms and sent it overnight. I did all of this while I was still in Atlanta and my husband was at home in St. Louis. The next day, I had my Nigerian visa in my hand! I traveled by bus, airplane, car and train to retrieve my passport and visa. On my way home from Atlanta, God had me to minister to someone who had just gotten out of prison and blessed him with a book that I hoped changed his life.

I love my husband even the more after visiting his beautiful family. I was forever changed after visiting Africa. God used my niece in-law and sister in-law Adeline and Pastor Enohor to bring me to Africa. My niece in-law Adeline, asked Pastor Enohor and I to speak at her workshop Girl Arize.  We formed a bond that day, and Pastor Enohor asked my husband and me to speak at a big conference she holds in Africa every year based on a book she wrote called End of Discussion.

I was on a divine assignment from God, I was able to minister to the people in Africa. God had me to deliver a special word to the people in Africa. I am so every grateful to God, my husband, my babysitter, my niece and sister in-law and all of the people God used to make my dream a reality.

I had the most amazing time while I was in Africa. I received the royal treatment while I was there. My people loved on me! I felt like I was home! Every thing I dreamed Africa would be superseded my expectation. I was in awww the whole time I was there. My bones oozed with excitement and my face never lost it smiled.

Africa was beautiful. Looking at the people as they hustle and bustle was beautiful. Shack houses, huts and big beautiful homes and building were beautiful. Watching thousand upon thousands of people working for themselves to feed their families both kids and adults was beautiful. Watching the traffic and crowded  buses, motorcycles and scooters rides was beautiful.

Life for some people in Africa maybe hard but Africa is rich in resources. Everything may not be idea living for some Africans and the struggle definitely real. I am not down playing that, but I chose to focus on the beauty of Africa instead of the negative stigmas.

Trust God, and then let go if you are feeling stressed out, overwhelmed or anxious that it is taking to long for your dreams or prayers to manifest.

Letting go is not giving up the dream. Letting go is allowing, allowing God to be God and you to be content in your current circumstances. God will work out all of the details for you. He is working everything out for your good.

Every step of the way was a divine connection for me. God lined up things at the right time because I chose to let it go.

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose. – Romans 8:28

And our great big God would do the same thing for you, if you just trust him!

 

Coach Angie!

 

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15 Things Wives Can Do To Win The Heart Of Her Husband

couple-495273_1920Wives I am asking you to give me a chance and listen to God’s heart beat in this message. I understand a lot of marriages are lacking communication, connection and closeness. Some of this is due to not understanding the male and female love language, some of this has to due with a lack of understanding of our roles in a biblical marriage and some of it has to do with not recognizing intruders that have entered into the marriage covenant and some of it is due to not taking the time to talk and invest in having a great marriage.

This is such a sensitive subject to talk about because there are no two marriages alike.

I know there are always 2 sides to every story, but 2 wrongs do not make it right either. I am called to women, not men, so wives, I will be talking to you only. I will be encouraging you to play your role even if your husband is not playing his. I know how frustrating and exhausting this can be but you are asking for closeness, connection and to be cherished in your marriage, someone has to be willing to be uncomfortable to make your marriage like God has ordained it and really, God is asking that to be you. God said, your husband can be won over by your conduct. I will share the scripture with you before I end this blog post.pexels-photo-241328.jpegI am only talking to Christian women who believes in biblical marriage, trust me, I am not there yet but my aim and my goal is to live a Christ centered marriage and do it God’s way and not the worlds way. Like a fish out of water my flesh flip and flop sometimes as well.

Ladies before I get into this topic, my only goal is to partner with God to see the marriage covenant restored and to see wives feeling connected to her own husband.

I am only advocating healthy biblical submissiveness. I am not advocating a husband usurping his authority in a harmful abusive way.

I have an honest heartfelt confession, I am in love with my own husband, I am happy with my husband and I am happy in my marriage, even with that being said, we still need to address things that comes up in our marriage that needs to be discussed. One does not have a great marriage through avoidance, you have to talk about the issues that is on your heart. You can not hide things in your heart and expect to have a good marriage.

I am so grateful to have my husband in my life. God has blessed me with an amazing man. He is not perfect and guess what? Neither am I, but that does not take from the fact that he is amazing!14419664378_a95c1284ff_o.jpgAnd it is not because he makes me happy all of the time. I have decided that I am going to be happy in my life period. Do I have things that comes up that wants me to lose my joy? Yes I do, and sometimes I have to remind myself, this is not that serious, do not lose your joy over this and it is a constant reminder. I have decided that my happiness is not based in if my husband do everything right to make me happy. That is to much pressure for one person.

I have made many mistakes in my marriage. After 17 years of being married to my husband, I have learned a lot and will be learning until Jesus come back.

So I am setting my fears aside so I can help the wife who will listen. Some of the things I share with you, you probably are not going to agree with, but I can not run any longer about discussing real issues that are happening in marriages today.

If I am going to partner with God to see wives restored in their heart and their marriages, I have to deal with truth as it is shown to me in my heart. This is the take on marriage that God has given me to share.

I will expose the works of darkness as God downloads it in my spirt. I absolutely love the marriage union and I know God loves it as well. As I have listen to God minister to me about marriage, I realized that I had some very wrong distorted views about marriage.

Our husbands are very different from one another and what my husband needs most, your husband my not even care about, so I will admonish you to get to know your own husband, and do not base what your husband do against what someone else’s husband does.pexels-photo-256737But what I hope to help you with today is 15 things that every wife can do to win the heart of her own husband.

I can tell when a woman is not satisfied or content in her marriage or with herself, because she is always seeking outside of her marriage and herself for attention and conversation from someone else’s husband or to get notice by other men that is not her husband.

She tries to fill up her emptiness with shopping, working, giving all of her attention to her children, volunteering and just plain avoidance. She does not want to deal with the real issues that are going on in her heart and her marriage.

I agree with you, you should not leave this earth unfulfilled in your marriage. That is why you have to do everything with in your power to fight for the connection with your very own spouse, so if God forbids, if it falls apart, it is not because you did not give your all to your marriage.

Wives fight for connection from your own husband, seek attention from the one you chose to marry, any attention outside of that is a counterfeit replacement of the real and true love you could be experiencing from your own spouse.

Now like I said, this blog post is not for every married woman, you might not agree with some of the things that I share with you. This blog post is only for the married women who is NOT dealing with mental and physical abuse, cheating, drugs, alcohol and gambling addiction. If you are dealing with these issue, serious counseling is what you need because you my beautiful sister have to make choices that is going to keep you safe inside and out.

There is not one marriage that is perfect on the earth because there are no two people that are perfect. But marriage can be amazing if you are tuned in to your own marriage and not comparing your marriage to anyone else’s and if you can try to love and give your husband lots of grace, forgiveness, compassion and always focusing on his good qualities.character-1797362_1920I know communication can be hard in a marriage sometimes because in marriage one of you is either the confronter and the other person is usually the one who runs away from confrontation. But then again, you can have two people in a marriage that never confronts the issues that is going on in their marriage, therefore, making it very hard to talk about issues that needs to addressed in marriage.

I want to encourage wives not to shut down because you feel like your are not getting any real results. I want to encourage wives not to throw in the towel and walk away. I want to encourage wives not to grow bitter inside and hold unforgiveness towards their husband because you are feeling unappreciated, unfulfilled, neglected and unloved.

What I am going to encourage you to do is keep talking to your husband until you are heard, keep confronting intruders until they are destroyed, stay in prayer for your husband, your marriage and your family and keep fighting for a amazing marriage.

Make sure that you have done your part to ensure that you have a godly covenant before God and your husband. I do not proclaim to have all the answers, nor am I a marriage counselor. But sometimes it will take you going to a professional counselor to talk through the issue in your marriage. I would recommend a trusted Christian Counselor or Pastor.

I think some wives forgot how to make themselves happy, perhaps you have never been truly happy within yourself, especially if you never been single long enough to enjoy your own company. Some women always needed someone in their life to complete them.

Now there is a difference between

1. Down right disrespect and your husband acting like he does not have a commitment to your marriage by spending quality time with you and investing the time and attention that it takes to have a close healthy godly marriage.

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2. You learning to enjoy your own company in the absence of your husband. There should always be sweet fellowship between the two of you, a coming back together to talk about your day and to reconnect emotionally, physically and spiritually.pexels-photo-28914.jpgYou should never allow anyone who claims to love you and have a covenant with you to get away with living a sloppy married life. Marriage is an investment and you are worth the investment it takes to ensure you have a respectful loving Godly covenant where the both of you are reaping the full benefits of your covenant.

What hurts my heart more than anything is to see a woman in her marriage covenant feeling lonely, helpless, defeated, cheated on, disrespected, afraid to speak up for herself and feeling like she is not valued in her marriage…….

Feeling like she can’t take care of her self, feeling trapped, devalued, not beautiful, not beneficial, feeling like she is not an equal partner with her husband and not knowing her covenant rights in her marriage.

I want to warn you against intruders, intruders are things, people and schedules that wants to replace true devotion with your spouse, with false devotions.

Intruders can creep in and still your covenant, your time and your marriage if your are not in tuned with the Holy Spirit.

Intruders never know the value of a godly covenant. They come in disguises, they come in things that seems important.

Intruders also wants you to be intimidated by them and they want you to keep it uncover. Intruders never want you to confront them or call them out on their undercover behavior.

Intruders are working to many long hours, always volunteering to many long hours to a worthy cause, social media, lustful under cover seducing women and men proverbs 9:13-18  has a lot to say about this.

Intruders can come in through always shopping, gambling, people pleasing and addictions of every kind.baseball-player-running-sport-163209Intruders comes in being to involved with what the children have going on more than pouring back into your husband.

Intruders comes in through spending long hours in the gym, more than you are spending time at home. Intruders comes in by watching to much sports and reality TV, and spending to much time with your extended family rather than your own husband. The Bible clearly states that we are to leave and cleave.

So we have to keep addressing issues in our marriages that are trying to keep us from investing into our marriage, things that are creeping in and trying to destroy the marriage covenant. We have to keep talking and fighting for our marriage because there are so many things that are calling for our attention and trying to lure us away from our marriages.

I want wives to know that you have a lot of influence in your marriage. You can use that influence for good or you can use that influence to tare down your home and marriage. The bible has a lot to say about the influence of a wife. Down below I listed some.

Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Proverbs 31:10-12
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.…

Proverbs 24:3
By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.

Proverbs 5:6
Adulterous woman does not ponder the path of life; her ways are unstable, she does not know it.

Proverb 9:13 ISV
The foolish woman is loud, undisciplined, and without knowledge.

Proverbs 7:11 She is boisterous and rebellious, her feet do not remain at home;Processed with VSCO with f2 presetProverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

Proverbs 27:15,16 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

Proverbs 15:17 ISV A vegetarian meal served with love is better than a big, thick steak with a plateful of animosity.

Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than a house full of feasting with strife.

Wives it will never benefit you to give the silent treatment to your husband, nor talking to him unkindly, sarcastic, talking down to him and being disrespectful to your husband. The only results it will yield is to push your husband farther away from you and towards intruders.

Now I do believe there is a time for silence when the conversation is heated and emotions are high, a time out break is needed until you can come back together and talk maturely.

I have been married going on 17 years and I am still learning what works and what do not work for my marriage. I know it takes two people to make the marriage work. It can be very easy to check out on your marriage if you feel like you have been the one during all the work to keep your marriage together.

I want to present to you the biblical way of loving your husband. Wives, you have to take your emotions out of the situations. I do understand God created you as the weaker vessel. I know your feeling can get hurt easily. I know wives try to give their all to keep the connection with their husband but I am going to encourage you to try even harder than you’ve been trying. Push yourself more than you have ever pushed yourself before.

Yes, I am asking you to set aside all that you think you know and pick up a biblical  perspective in loving your husband. I am asking you to set your feeling aside and your emotions aside and fight for the connection with your husband.

I want you to ask yourself could it be me and not him, matter of fact, I want you to do everything in your power to serve him from your heart. Do it to the glory of God and allow God to reward you. If your husband give you praise let it be a bonus on top of the praise that God has already given you. Just tell your husband thank you. It pleases the Lord that you are loving on his son. Do not look to your husband to give you validation, because you will give up if you do not see quick results.

I want you to have a happy attitude while serving your husband, I want you to do it like you would if someone was giving you 5,000 dollars for doing a good job. Guard your heart against complaining.

Serve your husband to the glory of God because this is your first ministry. You are his help mate.

Help mate:
1. a companion and helper.
2. a spouse.
3. anything that aids or assists, especially regularly:

I don’t know if you actually knew what you signed up for when you said your marriage vowels to him but lets delve even further.

companion
1. a person or animal with whom one spends a lot of time or with whom one travels.
“his traveling companion” synonyms: friend, sidekick,  confidant, pal, chum, buddy, mate and peeps.

2. one of a pair of things intended to complement or match each other.
synonyms: complement, counterpart, twin, match; plane.jpgI do know you probably have a lot of responsibility on your plate like the kids, a job, the home, your relationship with God, your friends, maybe taking care of a family member, your volunteer work and then your husband.

He was never meant to be last but he was always meant to be first after your relationship with God and taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually so you can give out to everyone else, your husband is one of the most important person in your life and he should be treated as such. Even if you feel like he is not during his part.

Since you agreed to be his wife, you agreed to help him in any capacity he needs you to help him in. You are called to aid and assist him regularly, you are called to spend a lot of to time with him being his friend. You are called to travel with him, you are called to be his companion, his buddy, his pal. You are called to complement him or match him. You are called to be his peeps, twin, counterpart, chum and his mate.

Now these are just dictionary definitions of some of the things you signed up for when you agreed to be his wife. The Bible has so much more to say about your role as his wife. When you agreed to marry him, your body became his and his body became yours. You are called to give him pleasure sexually when ever he needs it.

There is something about knowing that a person really and truly love you, it is very hard to ignore it. So ask yourself have you been murmuring and complaining and shutting down and being bitter and having unforgiveness towards your husband because he is not taking care of you and not meeting your needs the way you need him to.

Have you really been giving your all in your marriage. I am not trying to set your feelings aside, I just want you to evaluate your actions as well. Ok wives, I am talking to myself as well.

If you do have an agenda God has called you to, make sure your husband is taken care of first. Prove to him that he is number one. Biblically you are called to assist him first. I know it sounds unfair but that is how it is done in the kingdom. This is not to make wives feel guilty, we all fall short and none of us are perfect, but we are asking for more in our marriages, are we giving more as well?pexels-photo-237372Have we as wives neglected our God given responsibilities to our husband and replace them with everyone else needs and concerns first? Have we put our own agendas and others agenda before our husband’s? Are we becoming bitter, complaining and getting angry at them about being their wife and the role we are suppose to be playing in their life?

Are they really first in our lives like we want to believe that they are?

We are called to assist them in what ever they need assistance in.

1 Peter 3:1-5 – Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward [adorning] of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, [even the ornament] of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

This scripture is telling you do this for your own husband and not someone else’s husband. Don’t find some other man more fascinating than your own husband. Some women would compliment someone else’s husband but not their own. It is not your business to try and get to know someone else’s husband or be curious about what he does. Be curious about your own husband find out more about him. The Bible talks about the simple minded woman, she seeks attention from someone else’s husband. She goes about trying to lure men that she do not have a covenant with. What she is really doing is committing adultery in her heart. I noticed that the scripture up top says be in subjection to your own husband. Even if your husband is not giving you the attention that you need stay loyal in your heart before God.

I don’t know all that you have been going through in your marriage and I know it can be very scary to let your guards down and become very vulnerable to your husband.

But I am asking you to fight for your marriage. I am asking you to put your emotions and your feeling aside and open your self up to loving your husband again, just like Jesus loves you when you constantly mess up or fall short with him. I am asking you to give your husband lots of grace and forgiveness. pexels-photo-288008.jpegI am going to share ways you can win the heart of your husband. I am going to ask you to be patient with the process before you see any results. You might see your husband heart turn in a week or you might not see your husband heart turn towards you for months. You are not perfect and you might mess up, get frustrated, and want to throw in the towel. When you do, just ask God for forgiveness and apologize to your husband for they way you disrespected him.

Serve your husband like you were serving King Jesus. The Bible says, “let him who wants to be the greatest, let him become your servant and whoever wants to be first be your slave.” Well wives, I know we can feel like we are slaves and maids sometimes.

But when you shift your mind to serving your husband because it is your 1st ministry, and serve your husband like you are serving in your own personal ministry, your children, your job because your name is out there and you put your heart into it because you want it to go well, and you do not want to look bad, and you want to serve the people God has called you to and you want God to be proud of you, is the same way you should put your heart and soul into serving your husband.

Sometimes this ministry don’t come with accolades and sometimes you may feel like you are getting the short end of the stick but I am a true believer that if you be diligent and do it to the glory of God. God will reward you and make sure you are well taken care of.

Matthew 20:25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.” 

I want to bring special attention to why am I asking you to serve your husband like you are serving Jesus. Because in 1 Peter 3:1-5  it reads, Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.

God is saying just by you obeying and following the word of God, by speaking kindly to him, putting him first, being very respectful to him, loving on him, encouraging him, assisting him and serving him. Your husband is going to be won over to you by your good conduct.couple-254683_1920.jpgSo let me share 15 things wives can do to win the heart of her own husband.

  1. Respect him, Respect is huge for men, they thrive off of it.
  2. Talk kindly to him. I know sometimes husband are not as sensitive as they should be but talk kindly to him, instead of leashing back out to hurt his feeling, men are more frail than you think and can shut down after being disrespected.
  3. Be his friend, sit down and watch the game with him, get to know the things he like and do them with him often, spend time with him just running errands. Men love for their wives to hang out with them and spend time with him.
  4. Be willing to do what he ask of you without murmuring and complaining. Have a good attitude while serving him. Assist him in what ever he needs assistant in if it is not going to cause you to sin.
  5. All men do not require this, but be willing to cook him a good meal and serve it to him, it makes him feel taken care of. If he is the one during the cooking, then fix him a plate and serve it to him.
  6. Forgive him often and give him lots of grace.
  7. Compliment him and encourage him especially in front of others, always find something good to say about him. Tell him how proud you are to be married to him. Try not to speak negatively about your husband to no one.
  8. Smile at him often, let him know that you are happy, your husband would try to keep that smile on your face.
  9. Date your husband, keep things exciting and creative. Don’t wait for him to be creative, you do it.
  10. Make passionate love to him often, all the time, as much as he likes it.
  11. Do not correct him in front of the kids.
  12. Keep your appearance up and smell good for him.
  13. Be grateful. Tell him thank you, often, for the nice things you see him do.
  14. Pray for him all the time.
  15. Treat him like a King and help make life easy for him in anyway you can. 

I know this seems like a lot but God’s grace is sufficient for you, take it one step at a time. What is one thing you can do today that would bring the connection between you and your husband closer together?

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