How I Declutter My Home For The New Year!

table-white-home-interior (1)I like to declutter my environment at least 4 times a year. I like to declutter around the changing of the seasons. I will declutter a week before or after the new year, in the spring time, summer time, and in the fall. I believe every season brings new changes and new revelations.

I love reflecting over my life and my goals in each season. I am always listening inwardly to hear if the Holy Spirit wants to reveal important information to me. I also love changing out my fashion style with what I call, “my colors for the season.” I will write another blog post about how I invested in a fashion and style coach, “The Brown Closet” but for now, click the link to pay The Brown Closet a visit.

There is something about the New Year that makes me want to hit the reset button and start all over again. I love having systems in place in my home and decluttering is one of the systems I use to keep things organized. It always make me feel like I have a new start.pexels-photo-110215This year thou, I feel different. I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like a major shift has taken place in my heart. My New Year’s theme is a “New Year, a New You.” A part of that is really being intentional about changing some bad habits I had in 2017. Like being on time to scheduled appointments. I have 5 people that I am responsible for. I have to make sure they have what they need before we walk out of the door and I did not include myself in that number. I used this as an excuse to not be on time to places. But this year, I am going to intentionally put a plan in place to help me get to places on time. I will give myself lots of grace if things comes up that are out of my control.

This year I am decluttering my schedule, my time and my focus so that I will have breakthrough success. When I do my seasonal decluttering, I have items on my list that can never take a back seat to be decluttered, because if these things are not monitored, they can get out of control. These items are papers, clothes, shoes, toys and homeschool materials. Some people never get rid of things in their environment and it just accumulates.

I have 4 children all under the age of 12, it is challenging to keep things organized. My household includes 6 people. That is six people with things, stuff and items living in one environment. Imagine with me for a moment, if I never got rid of things from the time I got married and gave birth to my children, up until date, that would be 17 years of accumulation in a 1240 square foot of living space. The results would be stifling!books-1617327_1920I use to have 3 bookshelves but now I have just one. I got rid of the other ones because I want to live a more simpler and intentional lifestyle. The less you have in your environment, the less you have to clean and maintain the upkeep of it all. The less you have in your environment, the bigger your space feels.

I can only read one book at a time. I realize when I am done reading a book, I rarely go back to read it again. If I want a book, I can just check it out at my local library. The same goes for my children.

Unless you have someone that comes in and clean your home, what I found out is that, moms are always trying to stay on top of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, schedules and trying to keep things orderly. A lot of times we moms get frustrated and overwhelmed because we are trying to maintain the upkeep of the things we are constantly bringing in our homes for our families. It is exhausting to keep cleaning up the same old things you’ve just cleaned up 2 hours ago.

When I get disorganized, the things I instantly want to tackle are the dishes, paper/trash, clothes, shoes, toys, laundry and homeschool materials. I have to constantly stay on top of those items.blue-glass-flower-decoration (1)When I tackle my seasonal decluttering, I make sure to get every single detail. I clean out every cabinet, every closet, I get rid of any clothes that have stains, rips and are too small. I get rid of furniture that is broken and is not working for the space. I get rid of any appliances that are broken and dishes that are chipped. I get rid of shoes that are to little and worn out. I declutter homeschool material and papers, I clean out every drawer, I declutter linen, I get rid of toys that my children have lost interest in and are broken. I declutter medicine, I declutter food that is in the cabinets and refrigerator that have expired. I declutter books and I wipe down and clean everything; walls, doors, ceiling fans, light fixtures, carpet, furniture and floors.

I use to have a beautiful glass coffee and end table, glass vases, and the pretty decorative balls that sit on the coffee table but when I started having kids it was too much work to monitor it all and keep the glass mark free. I had to redefine my style of decor because the season had changed in my life. I remember trying to hold on to those glass tables because thy were one of a kind and we paid a lot of money for them, but my husband was adamant about letting them go after one of my children bumped their face on the glass. Those items were not working for us anymore.

Sometimes we try to hold on to seasons that have come and is now gone and God wants to do something new with our lives. If we are too attached to things and if our identity is wrapped up in them, we can become stuck in a formal season.

I would love to hear about ways you keep your life decluttered. Leave a comment. Follow me on social media by clicking the links down below. To follow me on Instagram click here.

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Woman of Influence

There are so many women of influence in the earth today, but today, we are talking to Christian women who have influence. Our Influence is different from the women who have influence without having Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior. We are suppose to be kingdom minded. Our wisdom and our influence comes from the Spirit of God.

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1 Corinthians 2:14

The natural man does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God. For they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.

I am going to speak to you about what I believe, God wants his daughters to know about the power of their influence.

A woman of influence is serious about her relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. A woman of influence walks in integrity. A woman of integrity do not play petty games. A woman of influence relies on her faith. A woman of influence is a praying woman, she knows where her help comes from. A woman of influence controls the words that comes out of her mouth.

Proverbs 18:20-21

20 With the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach will be satisfied; He will be satisfied with the product of his lips. 21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. 

A woman of influence cleanses her heart of all falsehood, gossip, wrong intentions, envy, strife, backbiting, jealously, lust, manipulation, pride, unforgiviness, cattiness, hatred, bitterness and all forms of evil.

A woman of influence is also bold. She has quite strength, wise, sharp, discerning, intuitive, powerful, impactful and cares about her fellow sisters. A woman of influence is feminine, but strong. She is humble and brave. A woman of influence is always building people up. She tells the truth when truth needs to be spoken. A woman of influence walks in love, even when she sees others wrong heart towards her.

A woman of influence has a servants heart. She doesn’t care if she gets the glory because she knows her rewards comes straight from the throne of God!

Luke 22 :24-27 

A dispute also arose among them as to which of them was considered to be greatest. 25 Jesus said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles lord it over them; and those who exercise authority over them call themselves Benefactors. 26 But you are not to be like that. Instead, the greatest among you should be like the youngest, and the one who rules like the one who serves. 27 For who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But I am among you as one who serves.

A woman of influence has confidence in her God, because to have confidence in anything else is unreliable. A woman of influence relies on her power tools: The Bible, prayer, the Holy Spirit and the power of her words.

A woman of influence celebrates and encourages others, she doesn’t live in fear of someone out shinning her or taking her spot because she knows that it is God that sets one man up and bring another man down. But with that being said, she has a discerning spirit. She is in tune with the Holy Spirit who shows the believer all things in the spirit realm.

John 16:13

When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.

Psalm 75:6-7 

6For not from the east, nor from the west, Nor from the desert comes exaltation; 7But God is the Judge; He puts down one and exalts another.…

If we are going to be women of influence, there are things we are going to have to put down, stop and add to our life. God is looking for women who are serious about making an impact in their sphere of influence.

Some women think you can only make an impact if you hold an influential position. But God has called us all to be influencers. There are some environments you are called to influence.

Whether you are the boss, the employee, the daughter, the mom, the wife, the business owner, the teacher, the church member, whether you are in 5 fold ministry, the pastor, the single lady or the sister, you are called to influence.

Today I want to talk about having influence as a wife, mom, a unmarried woman and a church member.

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Women of God, I want to talk about a woman who used her Influence for evil.

Delilah used her beauty and sex appeal to influence the strong man Samson, preying on his runaway lust. Samson was a judge over Israel, one of those rulers who kept order before the reign of kings. He was also a warrior who killed many Philistines, which fueled their desire for revenge. They used Delilah to discover the secret of Samson’s strength: his long hair. Once Samson’s hair was cut, he was powerless. Samson returned to God but his death was tragic. The story of Samson and Delilah tells how lack of self-control can lead to a person’s downfall.

Men of God are falling from their position because of the Delilah spirit. Some men are full of lust, married and single men, but daughters of God, I am talking to you today.

Women are using their sex appeal to lure men out of their position in the body of Christ and out of their homes. Women are leaving their position in their marriage because they are covenant breakers. I am not talking about the women who are being abused in their marriage, I am talking about the women who are physically leaving their postions and mentally leaving their positions because of lust. They are fantasizing about someone else’s husband or fantasizing about being with single men.

Women are luring men by touching, making eye contact, complimenting men, flirting with someone else’s husband that they have no covenant right to, and this is going on in the church as well as in the world.

1 Corn. 7:1-6

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Women are being used by the devil to flaunt their bodies and using their feminine power to entice and seduce men. We are living in the days like Sodom and Gommorah. Every where you look; TV, social media, online, movies and magazines, women are exploiting themselves, showing breast, wear flesh gripping pants that shows off their shape, their behinds and wearing pants without under garment or wearing them with under garment, so men can look at what kind of panties they have on and exposing their belly buttons.

Daughters of God that should not be named amoung you. You should be influencing your environment by setting a higher standard and not fitting in with the environment. There have been a spirit of seduction and lust released in the earth. Christian women have adopted the dress of the world by trying to stay relevent and are bringing it amoungst God’s people, and wondering why the men of God are having a hard time keeping their attention in their marriage and being led astray out of their positions.

Unmarried woman

Beautiful single sisters. All unmarried women are not operating out of character, I am only talking to the ones that this blog post applies to, if this is not you, then please do not take this personal. God wants to bring you your own husband. You do not have to have attention of a married man. Their is not a shortage of men. But you have to be serious about your relationship with Christ. You have to respect the marriage covenant, especially if you desire to be married one day. Women set a standard in your dress.

A Influential women is intentional about covering her most precious assets. She have a heart after God, she do not want to cause no men to fall on account of her dress. She respects herself. She is not trying to get negative attention by having men notice her body. Their is so much more to you than your outer appearance.

Modesty: having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent:a modest neckline on a dress.

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Marriage

A influential woman knows her covenant rights in her marriage. Wives be aware of women who always wants to get your husband attention! She is always prancing in front of him, always finding ways to make a connection with him by talking to him, complimenting him and touching on him, always want to give him hugs and always smiling in his face. Set boundaries in your marriage and with your husband when it comes to the opposite sex. Educate your husband on seducing women. It could be innocent interaction with the opposite sex, but if you have the slighest concern, do not ignore it. Address it in a kind, non-accusing manner with your spouse. Nip it in the bud.

Your marriage is to important to allow intruders and insignificant people, that has nothing to do with your marriage covenant to be little foxes that spoil the vine. Things will go on that you are not comfortable with, if you do not address it. You have to be the one who is setting the standard for your marriage. Others will get offended with you for not giving them excess to your covenant. But an influencial woman could care less about what others think when it comes to fighting and protecting her covenant from intruders.

Become a woman of prayer. Pray for your marriage and pray for yourself. Use the power of your words to speak your amazing marriage into existence. Use the power of your words to restructure your marriage. Write down scriptures and speak them over your marriage daily. Do not curse your seeds by talking negatively about your spouse or your marriage.

Do not allow other married women to have excess to your husband either. Just because she is married, do not make it any more better than a single woman. Some women are lacking attention in their own marriage, and instead of women investing in making their own marriage work, they would rather get conversation from sister soing and so husband who has a wonderful marriage covenant. They would take the time to compliment your husband, but not have taken the time to compliment their own husband. Confront intruders in your marriage until they are destroyed!

Just like God is jealous when we go whoring after other Gods because we have a covenant with him, is the same way a wife or a husband feels when their attention has been lured out of their home.

Influential women is not intimidated when she knows she needs to address some important things in her marriage. She prayerfully consider her approach to her husband. Wives you have to be in tune with your own husband. Men of God are falling from their positions because of the spirit of lust.

Wives, you fight for your marriage. Fight for the covenant you made with your husband. The enemy is after your lineage. If your covenant is destroyed there goes the your lineage.

An influential woman does everything in her power to safe guard her marriage. If it falls apart, it is not because she did not put her all into making it work.
Wives make sure you are talking to your husband with respect. Make sure you are serving your husband in whatever compacity you can help him in. The deepest needs of your husband is for respect, sex, encouragement, support, and he needs to feel like he still got it. Just like you want compliments, so do he, He craves it. Make him feel needed. He looks to you for a safe place to rest. Can he trust you with his heart? Or have you torn him down with your words.

Tell him how grateful you are that he is your husband. A man needs you to be his friend. Sit down with him and watch the game with him sometimes, or go outside with him when he is fixing something and just watch him or talk him through the process. Touch on him throughout the day. Kiss him passionately. Wives it is your job to send your husband out the home fully satisfied. When he comes home, make sure you have set a peaceful atmosphere where he feels safe and wants to run home to. When you talk to others, let him hear you talking well of him.

Wives go out and buy yourself some lingeria. Keep things spicy with your husband. I know you probably feel like you put on some weight, but do not let that be an issue. A man looks at confidence. Remember you are his gift and his favor from God, He needs to feel that.

Wives, we do need to keep ourselves up, so we can feel good. Go walking for 30 minutes at least 4-5 times a week. Do things you enjoy, that makes you happy and do it by yourself, and do things together as a couple.

A husband loves to see his wife smile. A influential woman count her blessing daily. She is grateful for all the blessing in her life. She is content in Christ. Remember to smile, be pleasant, watch the words that come out of your mouth, make sure you are not filling your atmosphere with negativity. It should not be the outward appearance but your gentle and quite spirit. Set yourself apart by staying out of gossiping atmosphere.

Influential woman keep your speech very positive and uplifting. When people don’t feel good about themselves, they have a tendency to talk about others is a negative way.

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Church

Where is the love in the Church? Women we are called to a greater love. If we are truly being about our father’s business, than we all know that God has called us to come up higher in our love walk. Get away from people who are always knows everybody business at church and wants to gossip about other people business. Reframe from being a busybody. A woman of infleunce do not have time for gossip because she is to focus with what is on her her own plate.

We are called to pray for our sisters and brothers in Christ. If our sister are going through something and you know about it, pray for them, and ask God how can you be a blessing to her. Genuinely form the heart. It could be you in that situation.

Woman of God, I do know God wants us to show love with greeting. But can I admonish you to hug the women, and shake hands with the men. I do know some women and men are affectionate people, it could be your love language. But it is a lot of foolery going on in the body of Christ. Believers are not guarding their spirit and getting into lust.

If you are offended with your local body then you really can’t be much help, because your heart is hurting. Please pray and ask God to cleanse your heart towards anybody you are holding offense with. Go to that person or ask God to heal your heart and forgive them.

Make sure you are praying for your Pastors and leaders of your church and cover the body of believers in prayer daily. We are our sisters and brothers keepers. The enemy would love nothing more than to see the body of Christ fall apart.

James 3:14-15

But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.

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Mom

God has called us to be influenitial in our home. You have to take your role seriously. My sisters, you are called to impact your lineage and generations and generation that is coming after you. You are one of the 2 greatest influences your child has in their life. The second influence is their father, if he is involved in their life. But I do know some of us were not born again when we had children, but it is never to late to introduce your children to Jesus.

Deuteronomy 6:5-6,

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

God is relying on you to introduce your children to him. I don’t know if you ladies know it or not, but the god of this world, will have an influence over your children if you do not teach them the ways of the Lord and if you do not teach them who voice thy should be listening to.

Children most impactful way of learning about their enviroment is by watching what is consistently being displayed in front of them. So how are you really living when you are behind closed doors. Children are very intelligent human beings. Because they haven’t said anything to you, they are seeing the real deal of what is happening in their homes. How are you influencing your children? You have the power to change the course of your children destiny!

Psalm 127:3-5

3Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. 5 How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed When they speak with their enemies in the gate.…

Lay your hands over your children and speak great things over your them. Your words are molding their life. Make sure you are correcting your children, that is part of loving them. Rebuke anyone who have anything negative to say about your marriage or your children. Pray for them always, whatever is concerning you about your children let prayer be the first thing you do, so God can show you what to do concerning your children.

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10 Ways You Can Create A Simple and Luxurious Life!

Today I feel led to share with you a chapter out of a book that I’ve written called, “25 Attitude You Must Have for a Breakthrough” and since I am on a 30 days journey to getting my life in order, I thought it would be perfect to share my process with you and this chapter breaks it down perfectly.

badesalz-1620261_1920Simple and luxurious living is surrounding yourself with only those things that you love and are beautiful to your eyesight. It is also about getting rid of anything that is taking up space in your life with no real purpose. Simple and luxurious living also entails that you only put the things in your environment that you absolutely need and actually use. This eliminates waste in your life and help you to live free of unnecessary clutter.

We hold on to things far too long, even if it is not serving any real purpose in our lives. I want to inspire you to detox your mind, your environment, your relationships, your finances, and your body so you can feel the freedom that comes with releasing dead weight and having an organized stress-free life.

In my own life, I am constantly purging things that no longer benefit me, my family and our environment.

Things like wrong mindset, schedules that do not work for my family, clothes, accessories, wrong eating habits, relationships that are no longer beneficial to my values. Things that are broken that I will never have fixed, things that I am no longer using, places I use to frequent, but in my spirit, feels like the season is up for that. It’s all about simplifying to make your life easier, beautiful, and free!clutter-560701_1920.jpgSometimes having a cluttered environment stunts our growth, cloud our mind and vision. I am learning this. I am also a mother of five, wife, author, blogger and coach. I realize I need to be organized and everything should have a place. I also came to the conclusion that if we are having things in our environment that we don’t love or use, it is robbing us of more space, and to me, holding on to things that no longer serve you purpose, is an indicator you might be holding on to mental and emotional clutter.

Having a cluttered environment and living with too much stuff can cause you to lose quality time with your family and working on things that will enhance your purpose/dream. Because you are too consumed with the upkeep of it all.

Another thing, your best clarity comes in a neat organized environment. I have experienced this in my own life, when I let go of old baggage and decluttered watch out something significant is going to show up in my life.

You can’t go into the next season with things, people, and wrongs mindsets. That will hold you back! That is extra baggage; it will sink your ship. In this next season, you have to sail through!pexels-photo-90319Now, simplifying doesn’t mean things do not have to be beautiful. I encourage beautiful and luxurious. As long as it has a place and value in your life, allow it to be part of your life. We are talking about your own style, do it your way! Put things in your environments that is beautiful and luxurious to you.

Luxurious, doesn’t have to mean the same thing to everyone. I might love vintage and industrial, another person might love modern and retro. Put your own twist on your own style; just make sure you love it! When you have a clean, neat, organized, and positive environment, seeing it alone put you in a peaceful, prosperous, happy, stress-free state of mind.

That is the kind of mind that helps bring clarity in your situations and make your dreams become a reality.

10 Ways To Create A Simple and Luxurious Life:

1. All broken items must be removed immediately or fixed right away.

2. You must absolutely love the items in your environment. Not like, but LOVE!

3. If you no longer have use for an item, or if you have too many of the same items, bless someone else with the item who could use it, or donate it.office-1078869_1920.jpg4. Put like items, with like items, and assign everything a home. For example, put all scissors together in a container, get a container box for all of your pencils, mount a key holder on the wall and place all of your keys on the key holder.

5. Remove all items that are torn, ripped, faded, waggly, too small, and missing buttons out of your environment. If you really love the item, get it repaired immediately.

6. This is just a suggestion, not a rule. When you put items that match, like all matching dishes, towels and silverware, it makes your space look refined and stream-lined and gives a luxurious feel. I am still working on this one myself.

7. If there are any relationships that you are in that are influencing you in a wrong way, that are draining you, negative, one sided; where you are the giver and they are the takers, non-committal, intimidating, manipulative, non-supportive, abusive, toxic, controlling, and codependent. You need to set boundaries in that relationship, redefine your relationships, or cut the soul tides in that relationship all together.pexels-photo-262145.jpegSome people are afraid to be alone, so they tolerate behavior from people that do not mean them any good. When you trust God, and let go of toxic relationships, he bring new and wonderful people into your life that will add to your life and not take away. Your heart is your lifeline, the Bible says out of it flows the issue of life. What issues have you been letting fill your heart. You don’t want to be so loved starved that you just leave heart dangling for anyone to have it. Take your heart back from those who don’t deserve it! And give it to the one who can take care of it best, God. Start loving yourself enough to disconnect from people, things, and decisions that is stopping you from having God’s best for your life.

8. I like to weigh anything against the word of God. God’s word is always true and any wrong mindset that you have concerning an issue, must be destroyed in you. You must let go of that stinking thinking that wants to keep you bound. For example, having unforgiveness in your heart towards another person. God’s word says we should forgive others, if we want God to forgive us. Then we have to forgive the person we are holding unforgiveness against.

You have to detox your mindset from negative and wrong thinking. Sometimes, we could have grown up with truths that are not the truth. Once you find out the truth, you have to let the old truth go, and get rid of it. Because it can hinder you from receiving major breakthroughs in your life.

I have an exercise for you to do. I want you to think about some truths you grew up with and some negative things you believe about yourself, about life and other people. I want you to write them down on paper. I would love for you to weigh it against the word of God (which is the Bible). You can go on the internet and type in the subject in question. Type in the search engine; “what does the Bible teaches about, for example; forgiveness.” Write out your new truth and decide to let it be the ruling truth in your life.wallet-908569_1920.jpg9. We must base our self-esteem on the word of God and not in our material possessions. If you have debt that you owe, the Bible says that we are slaves to our lenders, luxurious simplicity requires you to pay those that you owe, so you can live a luxurious lifestyle. And I am only speaking to the ladies with who are living with real debt. We have no business buying anything that is not a need, until we get out of debt. I suggest you put a stop to unnecessary spending until you have paid off those who have control over you. I recommend you take it a step further, save for a rainy day, and think about your future. Learn about investing some of your money.

Put yourself in the budget, pay yourself some me money. So you will not feel like you are only working to pay bills. Part of you paring down your items is so that you govern and take care of what is in your environment, so you can live with quality and not quantity and having to keep buying the same things over and over again. You can even make extra cash off your stuff, if it is worth something. Set up an Ebay account and start selling your treasures on Ebay. They have a global customer base, and you will be surprise who wants to buy your stuff.

Another place to sell your items to make extra cash is Craigslist. Craigslist is design to sell in your local community and state that you live in. People are buying and selling on craigslist all day long, and it is free to sell and buy things. I would suggest you read the safety policies before meeting with someone on Craigslist.

Never go anywhere alone to exchange items for cash. Always take someone with you.

We spend too much money into our self-worth and not into things that really matters, like our future. I know that you do not want to still be working for someone else at the age of 65. You do not have to retire, but if you are going to be working, let it be for yourself and because you love helping others with a service you provide. Now, when you have taken care of your foundation and built your financial house, splurge!pexels-photo-110215.jpeg10. Part of living a luxurious simplicity life is taking care of your temple, your body, so you can live to enjoy all of the blessing that will unfold in your life when you on purpose decide you want to change!

Toxic, harmful things in your body and your environment like strong harsh chemicals foul foolish talk, cursing, gossip, negative self-talk, drugs, alcohol, nicotine, too much sugar, salt, soda and caffeine. I want to inspire you to change the way you look at your life. You only have one life; you must love yourself enough to take care of you. You are the only one who can decide what is good for you.

I suggest you start taking walks, about 15 minutes to one hour walks a day. It has major health benefits like relieving stress, building muscle tone, stretching your muscle and joints and keep them from getting stiff. Walking also helps you to keep your weight down and releases endorphins in your body to give you a feel good feeling. A big benefit in walking is that it keeps depression at bay, if you are a person that struggle with depression.

Drink lots of water and eat nutritious food. Monitor what you allow to enter into your environment and your mind, like negative words and gossiping. Declare your body and environment a gossip free zone. Get in the habit of looking at yourself in the mirror and speaking right and excellent words to yourself and over yourself. Bless others presence by speaking nothing but encouraging and positive words to them.
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Practicing fasting because it has great health benefits and can heal the body and deliver you from strange and strong addictions. Jesus made it a habit to fast while living on earth. Fasting also bring clarity and answers when you need help with a situation in your life. Holding on to unnecessary clutter in the mind as well as in your environment just take up wasted space and time.
You could be spending time on things that really matters like building your dream or formulating a plan for your purpose. Decluttering help, you get organized and letting go of mental clutter helps you to focus!
 The Bible talks about the correct way to fast. It is found in Isaiah 58.

I personally was delivered from a spirit of miscarriage while on a 40 day fast. On that fast, I gave up eating meats and changed the way I was speaking over myself. I began to confess healing scriptures over my body. You can read about my whole testimony in a book I wrote Dare to Dream Big!. You can purchase the book on amazon.com or on my website at http://www.noboundariesbtc.com.

I know it’s a lot but it is so worth the time and effort to live your life on purpose and enjoy a life full of breakthrough peace, luxury, and abundance.

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Getting Back to the Heart of Things!

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This blog post is about my journey back to being grateful and taking control of my life. I was feeling like I needed to bring more balance and order in my life.

I am a Christian, wife, mother and I took on the task of being responsible for my kids education. Yes, I also homeschool my kids.

I am a woman who have dreams and a purpose and I started to pursue them as well. I am a self published Christian author. I’ve written 3 books,“Dare To Dream Big”, “25 Attitude “You Must Have for a Breakthrough” and “Extraordinary Single Lady”.

I am a certified Christian life coach, speaker and blogger. I have a lot on my plate, but I love it. I love that I have found out what God created me to do and that is to partner with him to see his daughters made whole in every area of their lives. But I have an evening greater calling, and that is to be a wife to Overere and a mom to Erica, Faith, Victoria, Blessing and Wisdom. I am also called to be Destine’s GeeGee. I am not ready to be called a grandmother yet, so I told my granddaughter to call me GeeGee.

In life, there will be a lot of things pulling for your time and attention but you have to know what is the most important in your life. For me, God is most important, then myself and then my family in that order and then everything else comes after that.

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Myself after God because I am no good to anyone if I do not take care of myself first. I need to always be giving back to me, so I can give back to others that have been entrusted to me.

Some of my favorite me times and things I enjoy giving back to myself are, Lipton Green tea with honey or guava, reading and learning, spa treatment in the bath tub, spending fun quality time with my husband like going out to dinner and catching a great movie afterwards, traveling, praying and meditating, journaling, 30 minutes walks which I need to get back to, getting my hair done when its time, polishing my nails and toes, buying something for myself, having sweet fellowship and feeding my spirit man at Church and having social time with the ladies.

As women we want to be a part of everything and attend everyones gathering. But you have to decide what is truly important for you.

You must develop a relationship with the Holy Spirit so He can prompt you when you are taking on too many things in your life or when you are suppose to do something different than what you or other people think you are suppose to be doing.

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Everyone has an agenda, but it is God’s agenda that should reign supreme in your life. But let me reveal this revelation. God has given us the ability to make wise decisions for ourselves. God requires us to follow after Jesus example on how we should conduct our lives. Jesus is the standard for us to pattern our life after, it is the blue print on how we are suppose to conduct ourselves with our family, friends, on our jobs and in the world. That is  one of the requirements to live a Christ centered life.

He has given you the free will to choose how you want your life to be. He will present things before you, but ultimately you must decide on what job to take, who to marry, where you want to live, which gifting and talents you want to develop, what type of car you want to drive, what kinds of attributes you want to display in the world, what house you want to live in and how you want to spend your days on earth.

The Bible is the road map for the best possible outcome to based your decisions on. The Bible is the true word of God, it is not to be taken lightly. It is prophecy in a book. It is God’s word to man, but God gave you free will, He left it up to you to do the choosing. The Holy Spirit is God’s helper, He will illuminate to you which way you should go if you develop a intimate trusting relationship with him. The Holy Spirit will speak to your heart and prompt you when it is something you should do or not be doing at this time if your life. Most Christians have not develop that relationship with the Holy Spirit. If you are born again, I would recommend you read this book by Benny Hinn called “Good Morning Holy Spirit” if you want to be born again pray this prayer.

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Ladies, I know we want to have our cake and eat it too, but there is a price that comes with that. It takes careful thought and planning and great organization skills of which I am learning to develop everyday. I know everything is not going to be perfect, but perfect to me is having a peace of mind and living true within my heart, and being the change that I want to see and that starts with me.

All I was hearing in my spirit was get your house in order and that could mean different things for different people because we are all called to something different in life. Your struggle my be totally different from my struggles.

I was presented with an offer, that I might add, I asked God for, but after the offer was presented to me, all I heard was get your house order and organize in every are of your life. I heard 30 days.

I began working on it right way. The 1st thing I did, was write out a plan on how I was going to tackle all of my task that was set before. Before I can take on another obligation, I must do this 1st. Get my house in order.

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I wrote a plan for decluttering every area in my home and this was not a surface plan. It was very detailed. I was not going to leave not one stone unturned. Sometimes we tackle the surface clutter that we see and neglect the clutter we can not see.

All of the hidden clutter I had to tackle was underneath the cabinets, inside the closets, inside the drawers, I no longer have a junk drawer because I assigned everything a place. Everything I had no use for, I donated it or I threw it away.

I tackled every room in my house and as I was cleaning and decluttering, I was making a list of all the things that needed fixed or mending.

I heard in my spirit, get a system for how you would keep it clean, and  do it the same way every time. I created me a system for every room and I created me an inventory list after every system of things that needed to be purchased for the upkeep of that particular room.

Sometimes our breakthroughs are attached to the things we are willing to give up. Sometimes our prosperity is attached to the things we are willing to implement and do. Sometimes clutter is an indicator of the things we are still holding on to, and sometimes God is just trying to make sure we lay a proper foundation before we build our house so it is not built upon a faulty foundation.

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Today it has been a week since my purging and decluttering and I have 2 more rooms to tackle. I will complete them today. The laundry room and the basement.

While I was cleaning, I was thanking God for all of the blessings that are in my life. As I cleaned and decluttered each room, I realize how abundantly blessed I am.

I have clean running water, a warm bed to lay my head down on, heat on those cold nights, cover to keep warm, food in the refrigerator, an amazing husband that affords me the luxury of being a stay at home mom to our children, a home that is paid off, cars that are paid off and a whole host of other blessings.

As I have been extremely grateful, I have being noticing things showing up in my life, big blessing that reminds me of what God said in Matthew 6:25-34 KJV:

Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your Heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?

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And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:” “And yet I say unto you, that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.” 

“Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?” “Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?” “(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.” “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”

I believe I am doing what I am suppose to be doing right now, It feels so in alignment. All I know is God is up to something good and I am excited to see what that is and I will keep you posted. But until then, what is God putting on your heart in this season of your life. Please do not say I don’t know. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you and began implementing it right away. I will talk about this some more in my next blog post, so subscribe to Breakthrough Blog 4 Women so you can be the first to receive it.

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2 Ways To Eliminate Being Overwhelmed!

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Are you struggling with getting things done? Are you finding yourself getting behind on your daily task? Do you feel overwhelm with all the things you have going on in your life.

I want to encourage you and give you some tips on how you can conquer your day and feel super successful.

I talk a lot about people pleasing, I believe when you are not being honest with what you can honestly handle, taking on extra responsibility, and attending events you really know you shouldn’t attend, you are in people pleasing mold.

Before you can actually feel super successful, you need to sit down and get really clear about what is important you, what are you suppose to be doing at this season in your life and what is causing you to feel so overwhelmed.

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You are going to feel guilty about this at first, because you are used to being there for everybody else and you will feel guilty because you are going to have to tell people no.

Some people might be upset with you, and even might get offended with you, but you are going to have to be ok with that because you are now putting your health first. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed out is never good for your body or your mind. Our bodies have a way of sending us signals when we are pushing it to much.

When you are feeling anxiety in your heart, a headache because you are stressed and overwhelmed these are signals that is telling you that something needs to change in your life.

So how do you change it?

woman-391555_1920.jpg1. Disconnect From Time Wasters

Time wasters are things, people, busyness that have nothing to do with where you are trying to go in your life. It will always delay your progress from getting things done in your life.

You should have time for just relaxing, but what I am talking about here, is people who are living their life in the blind. They have no real pursuit or no real goals, neither are they focused with getting things done in their own life.

Time wasters can also be distractions. A distraction is a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else. Extreme agitation of the mind or emotion.

The scripture that comes to my mind when I think of time wasters and distractions is from 1 Peter 5:8Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up.

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Just when you have decided to live the life of your dreams or live in your purpose the enemy will try to catch you off guard to delay your progress. You must recognize the time wasters in your life. It is a set up by the enemy, he wants to catch you napping.

Time wasters come in the form of a phone call from a friend who is just calling to see how you are doing. However, they are actually trying to find out what you are doing and because they have gotten off focus, the enemy is using them to get you off focus by having you to believe that they have an urgent matter to talk about.

TV is a big time waster. Billions of people are wasting their time looking at TV while others are living their dreams, when they should be pursuing their own dreams.

Computer gadgets are another times waster, If you have to be on-line for anything, give yourself a time to get on there and a time to get off. Schedule it in your day and stick to your schedule.

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2. Schedule your day for success!

Let your time be accounted for! Every second, every minute, and every hour. Plan your day! A failure to plan can result in an ineffective day. But allow for flexibility for the suddenly. Please do not get bent out of shape if you have to detour from your list.

Make sure you get at least 3-5 things done on your list. Let them be absolute things, that absolutely must be done for that day and before you know it, your list will be completed.

Planning your day is also another way to keep time wasters out of your life and make what’s really important a top priority. Scheduling your day will ensure that you are bringing a balance in your life and making time for your important relationships, like time with the Lord, time taking care of yourself, time spent with your spouse, time spent with the kids and attention to your purpose and business.

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Here is a bonus! You can even schedule your bills for automation. That way you will never have to forget to pay another bill again resulting in more cash flow for you because you have eliminated late fees that was eating into my profit. When I started to automate my bills, it took the stress out of bill paying. I felt like life was very good. It shifted my focus to dreading to pay bills to loving to pay bills on time, which have resulted in a debt free lifestyle!

Sometimes we are looking at the big picture and wondering to ourselves how are we going to get everything done.

Well here is a sure strategy that will eliminate feelings of guilt, feelings of inadequacies, and failure. There is something about following a schedule that makes you feel super successful and secure. Statistics shows that even when you follow a schedule with your kids they feel more secure. Maybe it’s because you have set your intentions to make sure everything and everyone in your life is taken care of including yourself, and now you are giving out of the overflow of an already filled up tank.

Grab my ebook “25 Attitude You Must Have For a Breakthrough!” It is sure to  help you eliminate stress, anxiety and overwhelm out of your life.

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Woman Who Stay To Long In Unhealthy Relationships!

When I was a little girl I fought a whole lot, I fought my cousins, the neighborhood boys, and my sisters and brothers. Some fights I won and some fights I lost.

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But to look at me today, you could not believe that Coach Angie used to throw blows.

There was something inside my heart that would not let others walk over me. There was something in my heart that knew if I didn’t stand up to fight, everyone was going to think that I was afraid to fight. I fought fights that wasn’t even my fights. I fought fights that I didn’t want to fight. I encountered some fights that I knew I had met my match! After fighting the I met my match fights, I would be worn out but none the less, I fought, even when I knew that I would loose. I would fight the person and walk away, and when I walked away, the fight was over for good.

But one day I encountered a fight that I stayed in way to long. My self-esteem was wrapped up in it, the lack of love that I had for myself was wrapped up in it, a baby was wrapped up in it. I fought back, but I felt like I lost my will to fight back strong like I had done in previous fights. This fight seemed like it was getting the best of me. I allowed myself to be disrespected, walked over, rejected and abused.

Where did it all go wrong? How did this girl who fought all the time and would not let anyone walk over her, who had the love of her mother and father, allowed herself to be taken advantage of. Why didn’t this teen girl walk away from this fight, when this fight had proven to be a fight that clearly was not healthy for her life.

Why after the first time this person put their hands on her, didn’t she end that fight once and for all? What made her go back after the first initial hit? See I fought back when ever it got physical, but the fight I was losing was mental. Why was I not mentally strong enough to walk away? Its never the physical abuse that you remember that hurt so bad, although that is not good at all, but it is the mental abuse that lingers on more.

You are saying to your self what did I do to deserve this? He say that he loves me. Then those shame voices start talking to your thoughts, do not tell anybody what happen because they are going to think you are a fool for allowing this to take place and staying with him.

This blog post is for somebody, I had a totally different fight I wanted to write about but I will be obedient and allow the Holy Spirit to use me. This paragraph is for you. But I felt like this as well going through this my teenage years. But you are going through this now!

 

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Everybody look up to you, they think you got it all together, you appear to have the perfect relationship. You appear to be strong and would not take any abuse from no one. Matter of fact, your girlfriends come to you for advice. You say to yourself, you better not tell anyone about this. Just put on make up to cover the marks left on you from him hitting you. You better not tell anybody the way he really talks to you, and treat you. But even when you do tell that one person you feel like you can trust, you do not tell them everything because you know in your heart, anyone who claims that they love you, have children with you and are married to you, should never be treated like this.

My dear sisters, you are suffering in silence. Some of you are Christians and some of you are not. You are protecting your image, you are protecting his image and if you have children with him, you are protecting the image of your children. You are breaking down inside, you have to get help. You have to get enough strength to put you and your children in a healthy environment. You are not protecting anyone involved in this abusive situation, you are doing more damage by not getting the help.

Back to my story, so why didn’t I walk away, what was I lacking inside of me? How did the enemy meander his way into my self esteem and set up a mental stronghold in my mind? Why didn’t I have enough love for myself to cut the soul tides? What did I rationalize in my mind and made this situation ok to deal with? What thoughts were the enemy feeding me to make me go back again and again? What was he telling me that made me think he loved me and things will get better? What is happening to you as well? What are you afraid of letting go? What story do you keep telling yourself?

This is why I believe I stayed to long and why other women stay to long as well

I believe at the most opportune times, at times when we are on our highs and at times when we are at our lows and when we are the most vulnerable, vulnerable could mean being on top and being at the bottom, we make decisions based on the need we are feeling at that moment or season in our life.

This was happening to me in my high school years, when I was trying to figure out who I was. My home life was shattering, both of my parents were in the home but not at home. My parents was going through a  battle of there own. I think I was looking for my life to take on some kind of meaning. High School is a time where you really feel the peer pressure. It is a time where you just want to fit in and be like everybody else.

But you can be an adult and feel peer pressure. I was comparing myself with my unhealthy environment. Where almost every girl had a boyfriend. Wondering to myself am I good enough and beautiful as the other girls, do I measure up.

When you look for someone to validate you or when you are dreaming of this perfect life and you finally receive it, you start to feel like you are on top of the world. Everything is finally going good, I have someone who say they love me. I appear to others to look like I am doing so well for myself. Why would I break that up. This feels so good right now and then you begin to make decision that you haven’t given long term thought to, like having pre-material sex and a baby is born. This was my story as a teen girl, but your story as an adult is little different.

You tell yourself as an adult but we have children together, I do not want my kids to grow up from a broken home. We pay everything together how would I take care of myself without his income or he pays for everything, I haven’t worked in 5 years. We are Christians, we do not believe in divorce because God says it is a sin. How can I walk away now, I don’t want to raise this child alone. What is others going to say? But the more you stay, the worser things are getting. And the worser you are feeling on the inside because this person that you are trying to hold on to is selfish and don’t love himself. He doesn’t know how to care for you right now, he doesn’t have the right mindset. So you are subjecting yourself and your kids to this vicious cycle of abuse.

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You will never be free until you free yourself, because there is no consequences for the perpetrator’s actions. You have to go to war on the behalf of your family. Sometimes temporary separation is needed until the family unit is stabilized and the perpetrator gets some real help and make a heart change. I am not saying divorce him if you want your family to stay together, but it can not continue the way it is going, not for you or for the kids. Go on a fast and intercede. Ask God who you can talk to. This person has to be someone without judgement and that will give you true Godly counsel.

So how was I able to walk away from that dark season in my life. I stopped being afraid of him. I started to understand what real love was. I knew I needed to do inner work on myself. I would always visualize my life being better. I started to gain my footing again. I started to feel like my old self again. I wasn’t born again at the time, but I went to church as a little girl and read the children’s bible and I knew to pray to God, so that is what I did. I would talk to God asking him to give me the strength to cut all tides and fellowship with this person. I stop accepting phone calls. I no longer put myself in this person presence. I avoided any contact with this person. I had prep talks with myself, I had them with a trusted friend. I wanted more for myself and I wanted more for my daughter.

Yes, the enemy knew he was loosing ground and tried everything to stop me, but I had God on my side. I completely moved out of the neighborhood. I no longer desire the untouchable thing. I eventually started going to church and was set free completely. Yes your perpertrator will get very angry at you at first, he will use intimidation, manipulation and control. He will probably threaten you and harm your material possession as well, but you still can not fear him. Get help if you are really afraid.

There is hope for you but you have to want to see change bad enough to do something about it. You can not go another year in an abusive situation. God can turn it around for you but you have to stop being afraid! You have to get help! God will take care of you until your storm pass. Be prepared to walk away if things do not change. Some of you are not married and have nothing to loose. This is not the man for you! But those that are married, I understand you have a lot invested in your marriage, you have to trust that God will protect you. Even if you have to go in hiding to give your husband time to get it together. No one has to know about your situation.

You do not have to tell anyone about it. But please get the help! If I can help you in anyway please feel free to reach out to me, your secret is safe with me, You can contact me on my website down below. Just go to the CONTACT link and there is a number available to you.

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Who Is Influencing Your Children?

This post is to mothers who are teaching and educating their children at home. Mom even if your child goes to a private or public school you can still benefit from this article. I am not anti-school, my kids went to awesome Christian Schools! And as soon as my son is potty trained, I am sending him to one of the best learning centers in Saint Louis, Mo. Transformation Christian School.

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I am in a position in my life where I am able to teach my children at home. I realize this is a privilege most moms do not get to experience but wish they could. I also know, not all moms desire to teach their children at home and that is ok, do whatever works best for your family.

I want you to know that I highly respect teachers, I take my hat off to teachers, I am still trying to figure out how they are able to manage all those beautiful personalities, attitudes and the workload that comes with teaching and managing their own classroom.. I have 4 children at home and though it is rewarding to see your children blossom right before your eyes, it has a reality side to it as well. I really think teachers should get paid a salary equivalent to the salary of a doctor. I just want to take the time to thank all the teachers for your acts of service to our children. I which there was away that we as parents can make it more easier for you to teach our childern.

When I decided to teach my children at home, I had questions in my thoughts like every mother has when she is about to embark on a journey called the unknown. I had questions, doubts and fears but inside of my heart I believe this is what I was suppose to be doing. Yes I knew it would be a big sacrifice and a huge responsibility because I would be responsible for them getting everything they needed to succeed. But I knew I was not alone, and if God was leading me in this direction, then he would provide me with everything I needed to get the job done.

With any responsibility the first question we asks ourselves is, are we qualified to handle the task that is set before us? Are we willing to handle the task that is set before us? Will we be successful in handling the task that is set before us and last, am I suppose to handle this task that is set before me or is this something I just took on myself, a new experiment I want to try or God is this you really leading me to take on this task?

You and I are getting ready to explore what we really agreed to take on. Our reasons for teaching our children at home may be different, but we share the same journey. Moms just because you are sending  your children to learn in a classroom setting, doesn’t mean you get to escape your responsibility of teaching your children at home.

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Can we just say all parents are teachers? Some has professional degrees and the rest of us was born with the natural ability to teach our children. God has given us an innate ability to lead and guide our children. Who is better able to love, nourish, teach and care for our children more than we are? Who has the instinctual and intuitive ability to know exactly what our children needs more than we do?

I am aware that not all moms are walking in this awareness and are labeled as bad mothers, but today I want to focus on the moms who are aware of their influence as a mother. Regardless of how you became a mother this article is for you.

There will be days when you don’t feel like you have walked in your full potential as a mom, on those days give yourself lots of grace. Do what ever you have to do to restore your relationship with your children. Our children are so precious and they desire fellowship with us. It is our job as parents, to teach our children about the ways of God and to bring them into true fellowship with the Lord Jesus Christ. I have listed some scriptures letting us know that teaching starts with the parents.

Isaiah 28:9-10 ESV “To whom will he teach knowledge, and to whom will he explain the message? Those who are weaned from the milk, those taken from the breast? For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little.

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 “These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. “You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. “You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. 
“You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Genesis 18:19 ESV For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”

There are so many voices that are in the world today, who voice will you teach your children to listen to. I will tell you who voices they should be listening to. God’s and Your voice. You have an obligation to teach your children to listen to the right voice. If you do not teach your children someone or something will be teaching them. The book of proverbs tells a son to listen to their father’s and mother’s instructions.

Proverbs 1-8:9 Hear, my son, your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching;  Indeed, they are a graceful wreath to your head and ornaments about your neck.

If we are going to teach our kids the ways of the Lord, then we must become a student of God’s word, so that we will have the knowledge to teach our children the ways of righteousness, holiness and truth.

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I think we are not aware of just how much time we are allowing others and things to teach our children. Sometimes we are just to overwhelm and tired to do it ourselves. So lets do the math of how much time we really have to teach our children the ways of the Lord. Lets explore how much time we really have every week to teach our children. There are 168 hours in a week.

*We rely on our churches to teach our children the ways of the Lord 2 days a week for about 2 hours. 4 hours a week

*We use our schools systems to teach them and educate them about 7 hours a day, 5 days a week. 35 hours

*Our children have to go to sleep. If they go to bed by 8pm and wake up by 7am, that is 11 hours. 77 hours a week.

*We are left with 52 hours a week teaching our children about the ways of the Lord. Now that is not including doing homework which can take up most of the evening depending on how many kids you have. Lets allot 1 hour for homework per day, for 6 days. 6 hours of homework time. We are down to 46 hours a week.

*If your children have after school activities like sports or lessons we will allot 4 hours a week for extra curricular activities. Leaving us with 42 hours a week to teach our children.

*I forgot to add daily cleaning and chores, like cooking, cleaning and making sure our family have fresh clothes, bath time, and all the other things that comes with running a household and extra commitments outside of the home. I will give 2 hours a day, 14 hours a week to that. Leaving us with 28 hours a week. That is only a 1 day and 4 hours a week, we have to really teach our children.

Moms who have to work outside the home and still have to come home and take care of her responsibilities at home, grace and grace and more grace to you. I have walked in your same shoes, I know how overwhelming it could be at times. With that kind of work load and schedule we are to tired to teach anybody anything. When we get home we just want to relax and fill ourselves up so we can constantly give to everybody else. I know everyone can’t afford a Christian education but thank God for the families who can afford it, at least our children are hearing about the love of God and his teaching while they are being educated.

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This is not to make moms feel guilty but to shed light on who is actually raising our children. Public education are teaching our kids things that were never taught to us as kids when we were in school. There are things being taught in some of our children schools that are in direct opposition of what the word of God teaches.

So If you have decided to teach and educate your children at home, do not allow the pressure of everyone saying your kids are missing out on the social aspect of their lives. Homeschool groups are on the rise in almost every state where homeschooling is allowed. Your children have their church community if you are part of a body of believers. Your community and the state that you live in probably host homeschool events, just look it up on the internet.

But family is where real community starts. When have we gotten to the point where the family is not enough for us. Our neighborhood community activities is not enough for us. The events around our city is not enough for us. You can meet and fellowship with others around you in your own community.

Mom, you are well qualified to teach your children at home if you can, and if this is what you desire to do. God gave you everything you need to educate you children and led your children in the way of righteousness. Your child is an individual, they are unique and each child learns differently. You as a mom knows that. Sometimes others want to label your children because they are not keeping up with the learning style that is set for them by a decided on curriculum, but do not allow anyone to speak negatively about your children.

You speak the word of the Lord over your godly heritage. Some of our greatest leader that have lead this country were homeschooled. Most of our greatest olympic champions had to be homeschooled to develop their greatness. They have programs available to help you to teach your children at home and all you have to do is oversee their learning. I want moms to be encouraged that you have made the right decision in teaching your children at home.

Coach Angie!

http://www.noboundariesbtc.com

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The Power of Influence in Your Home!

Portrait of Happy Family In Park

As a mother and wife of 5 beautiful children and one granddaughter, I am aware of the power of influence that my presence have in both my home and my marriage. But in this post, I want to focus on my influence as a mom.

My awareness has grown ever so deeply as I watched my 5 kids mimic me in our everyday interaction. My husband often tells me, “they get that from you”and I can not deny it as I hear them speak, they sound just like me. I want you to know, I have days when I am not always displaying Christ like behavior.

We are not talking about using foul speech and deliberately acting out of character but there are days when I loose my patience and my voice get elevated. Ok y’all, lets be real, when I yell. My kids are taking in everything I display in front of them. I should know better right! This is not an excuse for my behavior because I am past the age of accountability and I fully take responsibility for my own actions, but I am doing what was past down generationally. That’s right my mother yelled and all of my sisters have yelled in the heat of the moment. But that is no excuse for me.

I notice when I am feeling overwhelmed or out of control, I use my elevated voice to be heard. I constantly ask myself what am I teaching my children by displaying such emotions. I am constantly in prayer about this character flaw because I do know it is influencing my environment and not for the positive.

 There are 2 scriptures that I mediate on to help me keep my emotions in check . Those 2 scriptures are Proverbs 14:29 People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness and Proverbs 22:24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered.

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You guys, my kids ages are 2, 4, 5, 10 and 26. My granddaughter is 7. It is a never dull moment at my house, we are a loud family. I have 6 girls and 1 boy in my environment and there are a lot of emotions and personalities going on. I love my kids so much and wants nothing but the best for them. My husband says, I am too hard on myself.

Moms, I do think we are to hard on ourselves. We are the incubator in our environment. Not to discredit our husbands, but I believe we are way more emotionally invested in the care, support, love and protection for our kids emotional wellbeing. But I do know God can give them much more love and protection than I can. So when I mess up, I also influence them by going to them and sincerely apologizing and asking them to forgive mommy.

My goal is to make sure I keep a peaceful and fun environment for my kids to feel loved and thrive. I intentionally work on keeping my environment at home very positive. My kids ears are sensitive to wrong words spoken in their environment and they will tell you it a minute, do not speak those kinds of words to me and over me. I guess I have influenced them to speak nothing into the atmosphere that they do not want to see come in. Although I know I am not perfect, I do have a high standards for myself when it comes to giving my family the best love and care that is within my power.

I am aware that my kids are watching me because they remind me often by saying, “Mommy you did that or you said that.” Scriptures tell me and my husband that our children are a gift from the Lord and they are a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior so is children of the youth. I don’t know about you, but I have a great obligation to both God and my children. He blessed me with these wonderful blessing and just like the mighty skilled warrior, I can shoot my arrows by making sure I follow Gods instruction on how to raise them and aim them in the direction of their bullseye. Just know  that what ever we choose to speak in our environments and over our children are forming their characters and shaping their future. As an influencer, and their mom, it is my responsibility to make sure I keep them in an environment that is biblical sound, healthy, loving, stable, positive and forgiving. What I am realizing is, it is not so much what we teach them that matters, but what I actually live out and do in front of them that has the most impact!

It is not always whats being taught but what is being caught!

Coach Angie!

http://www.noboundariesbtc.com