THE POWER OF LETTING GO! A key element in manifesting anything in your life.

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I am reminded of a time when I so badly wanted to visit the beautiful continent of Africa.

Africa is where my husband is from. Africa is where my ancestors are from. It seemed like everything was coming up to stop me from making this dream a reality.

Here are a list of things that came up:

My husband and I had other obligations and things that needed our financial attention. If he traveled, then I needed to stay home to take care of our business that he ran. I was either pregnant and couldn’t travel or I had just given birth to a baby. We also had another business that I ran that required me to be hands on, if I didn’t work it, the monies stop flowing. It seemed like circumstances was not lining up for me.

I even accused my hubby for not wanting to take me to the place he grew up.

But the truth is, my husband wanted everything to be comfortable for me when we arrived in his hometown. He wanted my first time visiting the place he grew up to be an amazing experience.

I assured him that I can handle anything. I am a girl who has been through something. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth. It didn’t matter where I stayed, I wanted to see where my ancestors were from. I could feel Africa in my bones.


It seemed like this dream of going to Africa was taking forever. I would have words back and forth with my husband about it, I made it a real issue. My husband assured me that we will go Africa and all I needed to do was trust and be patient. But my patience was running out.

So one day, I decided to let go of the anxiousness of going to Africa. I truly let it go in my heart. I decided to be content with it, and not let it ever be an issue between my Husband and I.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6)

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Hebrews 13:5

  • Yes It happened, and it happened so fast! My time had come! The opportunity to visit Africa finally presented itself to me.
  1. I didn’t own my business anymore, we didn’t have any major financial obligation. I wasn’t pregnant. I wasn’t breastfeeding my son anymore. My babies were at the age that they could have a babysitter without me being in town. All of my circumstances were lining up for me.
  • But now all of a sudden, I had some resistance towards going to Africa. I remember saying to God, “you are going to make me go aren’t you?” At that time, I was not willing to part from my babies for that long period of time. I even told my husband, “you go without me, I don’t want to go.” I truly struggled! The only people I could trust to watch after my kids could not watch my children while I was in Africa.
  • Now here I was telling God and my husband that the timing wasn’t right. I asked God, “who is going to watch my babies while I’m in Africa and who could I trust? The only people I could trust with my kids for that long period of time were my parents and my oldest daughter. My daughter had to work and my parents were traveling on the same dates I would be traveling to Africa.

faith-612460_1920But God! He is faithful.

One day, while talking to a friend and telling her that I have an opportunity to go to Africa but needed someone who I could trust to watch my children before I could even entertain the offer, she told me that she also had an opportunity to take a trip out of the country and needed a babysitter to watch her child. She asked me if we could exchange babysitting services.

When I tell you that everything lined up for me, I mean everything. Oh my God! God supernatural assigned his angelic host to escort me to Africa. On top of that, God blessed me with a mini vacation! I had time alone, away from the kids while I traveled to retrieve my passport and my Nigerian visa.

Listen to all I had to go through to get to Africa. God provided for me supernaturally every step of the way! He assigned people who showed me favor to get me to Africa. I could feel the prayers of my husband and the intercessory prayer warriors in Africa, praying for my journey to Africa!

I needed to update my passport, and at the time I would be traveling to Africa, my passport would not be ready if I sent it through the mail. So I had to travel to Chicago because they give out passports on the spot. Yes! Mission accomplished, I received my passport!

But I needed a Nigerian visa to visit Nigeria, and now I had to travel to Atlanta to get a Nigerian visa. So I traveled to Atlanta, but when I arrived they told me that they didn’t not have anymore visas and I needed to go to New York if I wanted a Nigerian visa. They also told me that it was a holiday for them, and they were taking off and all of the Nigerian Embassy would be closed and I only had that day and the next day to make that happened, I didn’t know what to do! I said what! You guys are suppose to keep Visas in stocked, that is why you guys are an Embassy.

I didn’t want to travel to New York, and I felt like I did all this traveling for nothing! The Embassy in Atlanta told me all the information they could tell me and I was left to figure the rest out on my own. I heard a lady say I could over night the forms and fees if I can get some one in their processing center who would receive it and process my forms. That was my only hope! I told myself if only I could talk to someone at the New York Embassy. I attempted to call and could not get anyone but a recorder.


I was frustrated and was about to give up but I heard in my spirit, “call again,” and I pushed a different button. I got a lady who works in the processing center. She gave me so much favor. She told me what to do and gave me the number to her direct line. My husband and I worked hard to get everything we needed to process this Visa. We paid all of the fees and filled out all of the forms and sent it overnight. I did all of this while I was still in Atlanta and my husband was at home in St. Louis. The next day, I had my Nigerian visa in my hand! I traveled by bus, airplane, car and train to retrieve my passport and visa. On my way home from Atlanta, God had me to minister to someone who had just gotten out of prison and blessed him with a book that I hoped changed his life.

I love my husband even the more after visiting his beautiful family. I was forever changed after visiting Africa. God used my niece in-law and sister in-law Adeline and Pastor Enohor to bring me to Africa. My niece in-law Adeline, asked Pastor Enohor and I to speak at her workshop Girl Arize.  We formed a bond that day, and Pastor Enohor asked my husband and me to speak at a big conference she holds in Africa every year based on a book she wrote called End of Discussion.

I was on a divine assignment from God, I was able to minister to the people in Africa. God had me to deliver a special word to the people in Africa. I am so every grateful to God, my husband, my babysitter, my niece and sister in-law and all of the people God used to make my dream a reality.

I had the most amazing time while I was in Africa. I received the royal treatment while I was there. My people loved on me! I felt like I was home! Every thing I dreamed Africa would be superseded my expectation. I was in awww the whole time I was there. My bones oozed with excitement and my face never lost it smiled.

Africa was beautiful. Looking at the people as they hustle and bustle was beautiful. Shack houses, huts and big beautiful homes and building were beautiful. Watching thousand upon thousands of people working for themselves to feed their families both kids and adults was beautiful. Watching the traffic and crowded  buses, motorcycles and scooters rides was beautiful.

Life for some people in Africa maybe hard but Africa is rich in resources. Everything may not be idea living for some Africans and the struggle definitely real. I am not down playing that, but I chose to focus on the beauty of Africa instead of the negative stigmas.

Trust God, and then let go if you are feeling stressed out, overwhelmed or anxious that it is taking to long for your dreams or prayers to manifest.

Letting go is not giving up the dream. Letting go is allowing, allowing God to be God and you to be content in your current circumstances. God will work out all of the details for you. He is working everything out for your good.

Every step of the way was a divine connection for me. God lined up things at the right time because I chose to let it go.

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose. – Romans 8:28

And our great big God would do the same thing for you, if you just trust him!


Coach Angie!


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How I Organized My Homeschool Curriculum


Erica is our oldest daughter and she has her hands around her daughter Destine’ who is my grand-daughter. Up top next to Erica is our 11 year old daughter Faith, next to Faith is me, Coach Angie, I have my hands on my husband shoulders, Overere. My husband is holding our daughter Victoria who is 5, but will be 6 in a month, and he is also holding our son Wisdom who is now 2 1/2 years old. Our daughter Blessing, who has her hands on daddy shoulders is 4 years old and will be 5 years old this year. Wow how time flies.

This is how my family looked when I started homeschooling Faith the second time around. This picture was taken over 2 1/2 two years ago.

I remember when I first started homeschooling Faith. She was in the kindergarten. I thought I had to do things like a traditional classroom setting. I put so much pressure on myself, trying to be the perfect homeschool mom. I tried to follow the curriculum to the T and it wore me out because I was always questioning was I during everything right.

I end up putting Faith back in school because I had a lot on my plate, When I was homeschooling Faith I had just given birth to Victoria and six months later was pregnant with Blessing, I was working at that time as well, so I closed my business, came home to raise my babies. Faith went to school in the 1st-3rd grade and then I was led to homeschool her again. While I homeschooled Faith, my 2 little girls went to an awesome childhood learning center for the first year I homeschooled her. I got pregnant again and had a son, so I was homeschooling Faith again with a newborn son and the girls were in school. After getting a feel for homeschooling again and during a lot of research and watching tons of youtube videos, I began to fall in love with homeschooling and was led to homeschool all of my children.


I wanted to be up on the latest curriculum and buy all the educational books, that I could find. I love books so that just drove me into a shopping frenzy. I hit up all the book stores like Barnes and Nobles, Sam’s, Walmart, Books of Million, Amazon, Ebay and the 1 dollar stores. I discovered that all the monies I was paying out to buy books I could find similar if not the same books at my local thrift stores like, Goodwill, Garage Sales, Craigslist and used book sales.

I would tell myself, these books cost less than the cost of tuition that I was paying out every month when I had them in school and over time I had accumulated tons of books that would take us years to read.

Yes I was a homeschooling novice, when I homeschooled my daughter in the kindergarten, I dedicated the basement room to my daughter classroom and decorated the walls like her traditional classroom setting. I have learned since then that for me having to much of anything if it is not being used it is just plain hoader-ism. So I have adopted a new homeschool philosophy. I not only adopted it in my classroom but I adopted this principle in every area of my life. Keep it Simple!

Keeping it simple is what I was looking for all alone, after trying countless of curriculum, what I found out is, there is not a one size fits all curriculum and every one of your child will learn differently and at their own pace. So do what works best for your children.

Another thing I discovered is, if you are homeschooling multiple children at one time like I am, it is best for your sanity to keep it simple for you and for them.

So I have narrowed it down since then, gave away some books and sold tons of unused educational tools and kept my favorites books that I think would benefit my family in the future and I bought curriculum for each child that covered what they need to know for their age and grade level and created a reference, reading and resource library in my home that can enhance and stir up their love and curiosity for learning.

This is what I ended up with down below and I am much more peaceful for during so. I feel so in control of my day, and I am not overwhelm by to much stuff, although I still feel like I could pair it down some more, I am pleased with the results!efb04e967b350bbab5cef3a0e213d92c

The first bookshelf which is the tall slim white bookshelf comes from Ikea, it houses my 2 year old son and my 4 year old daughter toddler flash cards, games, blocks, learning and reading books. It also houses a very small section of reading books and important educational binders for my business.

The second bookshelf, which is the middle cherrywood bookshelf, houses curriculum for my 3 daughters who are ages 11, 5, and 4. Each girl have her own shelf. This year I am using Abeka Homeschool Curriculum for my 4 and 5 year old girls. For my 11 year old daughter, I started off using a custom curriculum that I put together but end up switching to Ace Christian Homeschool Curriculum. I absolutely love it for her. It lets you go at your own pace, she can go as fast as she wants or she can take her time. The bookshelf also houses a caddy and basket for holding pencils/ink pens, color pencils, crayons, markers, stapler, glue, erasers, scissors and paper clips.

I got this bookshelf as soon as I decided to homeschool all of my children. It was waiting on me to pick it up. It was left on the side walk by a neighbor who just moved in the neighborhood. It had a tag on it that said free! It was in perfect condition and it is just what I needed. I was so grateful to my neighbor, who helped me get it onto the back of my truck and I was also grateful to God who always gives provision for the vision.

What I love about this bookshelf is that, it have 4 shelves for my four children that I homeschool. My 2 year old is not during real schooling yet but when it is time, I can add him at the bottom shelf. I also love that it has doors on it that close so I can hide all of their learning tools from my 2 year old therefore making it out of sight, out of mind for his beautiful eyes. The bookshelf is currently in my 2 year old room because it is close to the dinning room where my girls sit at the table to do their lessons and the bookshelf matches well with my son’s furniture in his room.

The last bookshelf comes from Ikea as well, and this bookshelf I deemed as our home library. It houses all of the educational resources, art supplies, reading and learning books. It also houses some additional flash cards and puzzles. Everything is categorized by subjects like math, reading, history, black history, science, social studies, health, manners, etc. I love the glass doors on this bookshelf because I can see where everything is, it is also a nice piece of furniture in my dinning room and the glass make the room feel open.

I don’t get caught up in buying a lot of books anymore, because I use our local library, but I have created a system for not becoming a curriculum junkie and this my system.

After we have read a book on our bookshelf, we place it in a bin for sale or donate. We can only replenish the book shelf with what we put in the bin. So if we put 7 books in the bin to donate, we can buy seven more new books to put in our library.

I use up all of the curriculum that I purchase for each one of my girls until it is gone and then, and only then, can I purchase a new curriculum for them. But before I purchase curriculum, I have to throughly research it to make sure it is a good fit for me and it is a good fit for them. So I would not be wasting money on curriculum that does not work for us.

On the weekends or when they are bored, I put together a fun pack for them and this is where I use the extra learning workbooks I have on my book shelf. When it is gone, it is gone, there is really no need to buy any extra workbooks because they already have curriculum that is teaching them what they need to know for their age and grade level.

My goal is to eliminate waste, use what we already have, manage and edit what comes in and what goes out.

Please leave a comment letting me know ways you organize your homeschool curriculum and your system for cutting down on curriculum clutter. Click on my Instagram to see more homeschool pictures about my kids homeschool field trips, co-op and more

Coach Angie!

6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz!/Principle #5

Hello Ladies, we are coming to an end of “6 Principles Singles Ladies Need To Have in Place To Attract Boaz” We are on principle #5.



I only have one more principle to tackle and that would end our series. I am adding a bonus blog post for Single Ladies with children, so please stay tuned for that blog post. I suggest you click this link to read all of the other principles.

Most people in the world do not know that they can declare their season. They think, they have to just take, what life throws at them. God gave you the power and the ability to change your season.

Things will remain the same in your life if, you do not know that you have the power to change it, as long as you feel powerless to change it, and if you do nothing about!

Declaring your season comes from Job 38-13 Have you ever in your life commanded the morning, and caused the dawn to know its place, that it might take hold of the ends of the earth, and the wicked be shaken out of it.

God asked Job have he ever in his life commanded his morning, that it might take hold of the ends of the earth and the wicked be shaken out of it.

God gave us the power to command things to be removed out of our life and he gave us the power to call in our season. What I love about different seasons, is that different things grow according to the seeds that you have planted, if you are planting destructive seeds, then that is what will grow for you. If you have planted good seeds, then your seeds will yield amazing fruit.

Single Ladies, I really need you to get this principle, because this principle is going to lead you to your breakthrough. If you have paid attention to any of my blog posts, they have to do with this principle right here. Seeds time, declaring, calling in your harvest, planting good seeds.


So how do you do that? How do you call in your season? You can find out in the next scripture.

Job 22:28 says: You will also decree a thing, and it will be established for you; and light will shine on your ways.

When your heart is pure before God and you want to do things God’s way, you can decree a thing and it will be established for you.

A decree means: an official order issued by a legal authority. God is saying; He has given you the power and the authority to order your days, months, and years and the way in which you order it, is what will be established for you.

To declare means: to say something in a solemn and empathetic manner. Meaning, the words that you declare must be heartfelt and true for you and you must be clear in what you want for your life. Because what you speak on a daily basis about your life, will be enforced by your words. Whatever has been coming out of your mouth is creating the life you have right now. Whether it is good or bad, what you are declaring is creating it and the light will shine on your ways. You want to know what you been speaking or thinking about your life, look around you! Look at your relationships, environment, job, habits, finances, kids, etc. The light is shed on all areas of your life!

Your thoughts and words are seeds!

If you can change your thoughts and your words to that of opulence, abundance, wholesomeness, wealth, love and forgiveness, you can have an amazing life.

Plant good seeds by speaking exactly what you want to see come into your life and your environment. You also have to put right action with what you are speaking. For example, you want to stop a certain addiction, right action would be to never frequent the places, or watch things on TV  that causes you to fall back into the behavior.


I am reminded of a story about a woman named Hannah,

Hannah was married to a man named Elkanah. Back in those days, men married more than one wife. Elkanah also had another wife named Peninnah. Peninnah bore for her husband, sons and daughters, but Hannah had none. Hannah was really effected by the fact that she could not bore children for her husband. The scripture says, the Lord closed Hannah womb. Why did the Lord close her womb? It did not say. But Elkanah loved Hannah more and whenever the day came for Elkanah to sacrifice, he would give portions of the meat to his wife Peninnah and to all her sons and daughters.

But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her. And because the LORD had closed her womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the LORD, her rival provoked her till she wept and would not eat. Elkanah her husband would say to her, “Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?

 Once when they had finished eating and drinking in Shiloh, Hannah stood up. Now Eli the priest was sitting on a chair by the doorpost of the LORD’s temple. In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the LORD. And she made a vow, saying, “O LORD Almighty, if you will only look upon your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the LORD for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.”

As she kept on praying to the LORD, Eli observed her mouth. Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk and said to her, “How long will you keep on getting drunk? Get rid of your wine.” “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the LORD. Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.”

Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.”She said, “May your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast

Hannah had to say to herself no more! No more is my enemy going to make a spectacle of me. No more am I going to go another year feeling shame, unworthy, down trodden and cast out of the favor of God. No more of feeling jealous of Peninnah for receiving her blessing year after year. The scripture said, she couldn’t even eat. Which says to me, she was fasting. Hannah got up from that table (and I am paraphrasing) and said; this will be the last day I live without my promise! I am declaring my season.

I am getting ready to get before my God and change my heart so I can receive the blessing of God for my life. And just like Hannah, you are going to have to do the same thing. The situation upset Hannah so, that she had to do somthing about it. She went into her war room and cried out to God and he granted her favor! Then when she received her answer she ate something. The next morning she rose up to worship her God.  And then she made love to her husband and concieved and gave birth to her promise. Her son was born and she named him Samuel.


Hannah wanted a child but what do you want from the Lord ? A husband after God’s own heart. Right now, I want you to declare your season! Go into your war room and pour out your heart before God. Tell him all about it, he can turn it around for you!

When you are believing God for any promise, do not come into agreement with anyone that wants to destroy your seed. Remember your seeds are your thoughts and your words.

When thoughts comes across your mind and it does not line up with what God’s words says and if it does not line up with what you are believing for, speak back to the thoughts and speak back to those words that is trying to destroy and kill your seed!

For example, a thought comes across your mind,” who wants to married me, I have a past that I am ashamed of.” You speak back to that thought, God says, “He has separated my sins as far as the east is from the west and he remembers it no more and therefore I do not remember it either.” When my husband finds me, he will love me just the way I am. He is a man of strong forgiveness and will never repeat or hold my past against me.

If you are around other woman and they are saying, there are no good men left, you speak back to them and say, “Ladies yes it is, God has my good God fearing husband reserved just for me, and at any moment, he will find me. You better not come into agreement with thoughts and words that is opposite of what you are believing for because it is trying to destroy your crops.

I want to teach you to get clear on anything. I use this technique that is called a “clarity statement,” it helps me to get clear so I can pray for exactly what I want.

Get out a piece of paper, I want you to draw a line in the middle of the paper. On one side of the paper, I want you to write down things you do not want and like. On the other side of the paper, I want you to write things I want and like.


So here’s how it should look. I will use a situation I went through when I wanted to have more children as an example.

Things I do not want or like

1. Not being able to carry my baby

2. Not knowing what the problem was

3. Being fearful of losing the baby

4. Uncaring Doctor’s

5. The feeling of not being in control

6. Having an incompetent cervix

7. Having fibroids

Things that I want or l like

1. I want to carry my baby to full term

2. I want to know what the problem is

3. To have assurance and trust that I was going to carry this baby to full term

4. Caring considerate doctor who is concern about what is going on with me and my situation

5. I want to feel in control

6. I want a strong tight healthy cervix that can carry my baby to full term

7. I wanted the fibroids to be completed gone

Now the list of things you do not like or want, crossed them out by making a big X. You are no longer allowed to talk about what you do not want or like. Never!

I want you to take some scissors and cut up the middle of that list, and the list of things that you want and like has now become your new prayer and positive confession statements. Throw away the list you do not want or like.

I found every scripture about my situation to make it more believable to me, and I put it with my positive confession statement.

So now, my confession everyday was what I wanted and it brought great feeling on the inside of me. My assurance was there and my trust in God was there. I had such a peace that it was already done for me. Key! I visualized it as I said my faith and positive confession.

Down below is my clarity statement, feel free to copy the beginning statement in highlight and write in your things you do want or like after the highlighted statement. Make it into a believable sentence that make sense to you. Just like I had to make mines make sense to me.

 Clarity Statement

I am in the process of attracting all that I need to do, know and have to attract my ideal child bearing situation.

I love knowing that my idea child bearing situation allows me to carry my baby to full term.

I love the idea that I always know what is going on with my body and child bearing situation.

More and more I have an assurance and trust God that I am going to carry my baby to full term and my baby will be strong and healthy with a very strong heart beat.

I am excited that I have a doctor that cares about me, my baby and my situation. My doctor is both kind and considerate of me.

More and more I am feeling in at peace of what’s going on with my child birth situation.

I love how it feels to have a tight, healthy and closed cervix that is strong and able to carry my healthy baby, who has a strong heart beat to full term.

I am excited at the thought of God healing my body and I am excited about being fibroids free.

Now get every scripture from the Bible to support your dream or goal and began to incorporate them with your faith confession. Use this format to make your own clarity statement.

I hope this blog post helps you to declare your season. I would love to hear from you, let me know how this blog post have helped you, and follow me on Instagram, Facebook and twitter.

Coach Angie!

6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz/Cont. Principle #3

Single Ladies this is the end of principle #3,”LETTING GO OF BAGGAGE.” This is a 6 part series of “6 PRINCIPLES SINGLE LADIES NEED TO HAVE IN PLACE TO ATTRACT BOAZ.” I’ve taken longer on Principle #3 because there were so many layers to this principle, that I had to give each baggage its own blog post.

Please click the links to read the previous principles.

Principle #1, What you need to be and what he needs you to be

Principle #2, Enjoying your own company

Principle #3, The baggage of bitterness, hatred, strife, and unforgiveness, 

Principle #3, The baggage of jealousy, envy, covetousness and strife

In this blog we are going to talk about,


“Sexual Sins and the Spirit of Lust and Seduction”

I would be remiss if I did not talk about the baggage of sexual sins and the spirit of lust and seduction. When I told God yes to partnering with him to help his daughters be made whole in every area of their life, I made a commitment to God, and there were certain assignments, I was given to expose the works of darkness. I wrote an article about “5 Ways to Overcome Any Addiction,” please take time to read this article because I will not cover it in this blog. If you are struggling with any addiction and want to get set free from sexual sins and the spirit of seduction read this article. It will be advantageous to your deliverance.

Before I get into this topic let us get the mind of God on this subject.

I Thessalonians 4 :1-8. We beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God,

For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God.

That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.

The highlighted parts in pink are important because this is the will of God for single ladies. You never have to doubt again if that sexual relationship you are in is of God, because that is not his will for you according to scripture. Now, if you really want to know if this is a relationship God wants the both of you to pursue, stop having sex with him, and do it God’s way.

The #1 question you should ask yourself before pursuing any relationship with a man is, will this be a godly covenant? Does he have a true relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Are we equally yoked? Just because you are having a sexual relationship with him does not mean you can not pursue a godly covenant with him now, but both parties must be willing to do it Gods way. Abstain from fornication until after you both have said I do.


I tried getting around writing on this topic but I felt like I would be robbing my sisters of the breakthrough that they really deserve. I escape the deadly sin of lust and was delivered from it. It was so freeing not to be bound with that sin anymore. I want the same for you. A lot of single ladies struggle with this sin. I am not writing to you because I had it all together in this area because I did not. I am writing to you to warn you just like the passage in the Bible talks about, how the rich man went to hell and wanted to go back and warn his brothers.  He did not have an opportunity to go back and warn his brothers.

Take heed today single ladies, God allowed me to escape it! I came back to expose it and help you to deal with it!

Lust is a deadly sin. It is not to be played with, but you would not know this unless you have been delivered from it. I want to see my single sisters delivered, I do not want the enemy taken you out prematurely and settling for less than what God ordained for you. One wrong encounter with the wrong person can end your life.

You never know you are in darkness, until you have seen the light, and you never know what real love is until God has to show it to you. And you never know the grace that is on your life until you have escape from the snare of the fowler. And you never appreciate your life, until you have taken an aids test and you past it. If you have been promiscuous.

There are some things that are going on with single ladies in the Kingdom of God that has to be dealt with. Today if you just keep reading you will be delivered!

God wants his daughters whole. The enemy has been using single ladies to partner in his work against your sisters in Christ, against marriages, and against God’s leaders. Yes, I am talking about born again, tongue talking believers of the most high God and unbelievers alike.

Not another day will you be used to build the works of darkness kingdom. God wants to deal with this sin in the believer’s life. Both men and women. But since I am writing to you Single Lady, today God is talking to you.


Some of you are struggling with lust and want to be delivered from it so badly, but do not know how to get free from this sin. Some of you are waddling in this sin and you know what you are doing is just flat out wrong, but you have built up a resistance to the things of God and just don’t care. Hopeful after reading this blog post your heart will be back open to the things of God and after He shows you how much He loves you and care about you. God wants you to have his best for your life.

A man knows the difference between a woman who wants attention and showing all of her goodies, from a classy confident woman who do not need that kind of negative attention. Yes, he will be drawn to you because you are enticing to him, but he will never commit to you but in the bed. He will be drawn to her because she has standards, leaving something to the imagination, she is classy and confident. She knows that she do not need to display her goodies to get attention. Her confidence and smile speaks for itself. She is mysterious to him and he wants to get to know her because there is something that is different and special about her. She is not like all the other women he is use to seeing, that exposes her body to get noticed.

Some ladies will do anything to feel loved. Lust is not love, but because you do not know what real love is, you substitute lust for love. You have to stop your self destructive behaviors. If you are a Christian then your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, but that lust addiction, is going to destroy you if you do not gain control of it. I am qualified to speak into your life because when I was a single Lady, I struggled with some of the same things. I want you to know, that I am not judging you. I want you to be free from every snare of the enemy. I want you to know what the Bible says about sexual sins and sins of the flesh. Some of you have made some spoken and unspoken covenant with the spirit of darkness, and they need to be broken.

Galatians 5:19-21 ESV Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God

Romans 13:13 ESV Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy

2 Peter 2:2 ESV And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed

Roman 1-24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another

Roman 1-26 NLT That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other

Stop those self-destructive behaviors that causes you to give your body to multitudes of men and women. Lesbianism (being involved sexually with another women), having orgies (multiple people having sex with each other all at the same time) masturbation (pleasing yourself sexual), adultery (involved sexual with a married man), porn (watching nasty movies) and every sin that have to do with sex and perversion are all against God intended design. You are using sex to medicate the pain of feeling unworthy and unloved.

All you wanted was attention and to be loved, accepted, wanted, cherished, valued, adored and you found a distorted way of obtaining it, and this thing has grown into an addiction. Some of you have said to yourself, I will never again feel the pain of rejection and now you are acting it out in all kinds of ways to get attention and be the girl that is on top. Some of you do not know how the words you spoke, entered you into a covenant agreement with the spirit of darkness.



Single ladies, who have a covenant with God should never be operating like others who do not know God, but it is happening. Christian woman who are married and single ladies are breaking covenant with God left and right. There has been a spirit of seduction that has been released in this generation. Look at who the worldly role models are and our Christian role models. They are embracing the red carpet, concerts, award ceremonies and everyday life wearing little to no clothes, showing their panties, showing breast, exposing their private parts and being bold and proud about it. The music and videos of the world is so sensual, fowl and seductive, no wonder way so many woman or dressing the way they are. The Christian community are trying to keep up with the world.

1 Timothy 2:9-10
Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.

As covenant believers of the Lord Jesus Christ, we should not be patterning ourselves after the way the world dresses. From 1 Timothy 2:9-10 we should dress ourselves in the proper attire, modestly and discreetly. You should ask yourself before you walk out of the house, would God be pleased with what I am wearing. Woman are wearing enticing seductive clothing to get attention from anyone who wants to look.

Christian ladies are showing their breast, cleavage and panty line. They are wearing too little dresses and shorts. The are wearing tight leggings and are not covering up their back side, of course men are going to look at you. Married men and single men a like. That was your intentions before you walked out of the door, to entice men. So don’t go and tell your friend that sister Lee’s husband was staring at you. Everybody is staring at you because of your immodest dressing.

Modesty: having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent:a modest neckline on a dress.

We are coming to the house of the Lord with wrong motive and impure intentions. There is a spirit of seduction that has entered our congregations. Single ladies as well as married ladies are operating of this spirit. God says we should live in the world but not part of the world.

Their is an attack on the leadership in our congregations, marriages and Christian marriages are not exempt. This spirit is destroying homes, breaking up congregations and causing the set men of God to destroy his marriage covenant and scatter the flock. There have been men of God that have fallen under this seductive seducing spirit. Married men and single men. And the devil is using woman to do it! I know men are luring woman as well, but my calling is to women. In Jesus Name! I claim back the wondering sister, I claim back the drifting sister, I claim back any of my sisters that is being used in a spirit of seduction.


1 Corinthians Chapter 7:1-21 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

We have a generation of covenant breakers and it is seeping into our congregations. Single woman and married woman are being busy bodies meddling in the covenant marriage relationships. Woman are trying to play innocent and are secretively trying to seduce married men with glances of stares, laughing and smiling, touching on men they do not have a covenant with. Prancing and walking seductively in front of him, trying to get noticed by him. These are woman who have a covenant with God. They are being purposeful and intentional but want others to believe in their innocences. You might have people fooled, but God sees and knows everything. This is happening in the our congregations.

Ladies the scripture speaks in Corinthians 7:1-21 that it is not good that a man touch a woman that he is not married too. But woman are the ones during the touching. It is woman that is violating covenants. The scripture teaches to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Men are falling because the woman are making the connections by touching on men that are not their husband. Satan is subtle he comes in through a door least expected. It takes someone that is in tune with the Holy Spirit to recognize he subtleties because the Holy Spirit reveals all things.

Ladies you should not be touching on a man that is not your husband. Not on his back to say hello, or his arms, or with a hug and slightly rubbing your breast on him, not on his hands in a seductive manner. You should not touch him period! Use you words. We have all been taught to use our words. If you need to say hi, use your words and not your hands to do so. That will keep you out of trouble. I know some people can be touch feely but if you as a Christian woman want to properly position yourself, and keep your heart pure and clean before God uses this approach.

Single ladies guard your thoughts, allowing lustful perverted thoughts to enter your mind about a man that is not your husband or that is someone else’s husband is a dangerous thing to be playing with. Because your thoughts create your reality and you would start acting out when you see that man and his wife.You would start to get envious of his wife  who really have a covenant with him. You will be in sin because you are trying to interject yourself in a godly covenant marriage. If the man is not married, you will get jealous if you see that man with another woman and acting out towards her because in your mind you have built up this fantasy that you guys are a couple. You should not be fantasizing about any man that is not your husand.


God created sex to be enjoyed in a marriage relationship. A man married to a woman.

Proverbs 9:13-18 A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing. For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the high places of the city, to call passengers who go right on their ways. Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: and as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him, stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant but he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell

Proverbs 9:13-18 says a woman who entice and seduce married and single men, who are not their husband is simple minded, she knows nothing. A man can be at home with his family going the right path and because your heart is not right and that spirit of lust and covetousness have attached it self to her, she will have seduced him right out of his home.

But proverbs says that the man that is lured by her is simple minded too.

I look up simple minded and it means: artless; unsophisticated; simple hearted foolish; stupid. Single lady do you want to seen as this definition describes? Do you want to be a home wrecker?

Proverbs 9:13-18 also talks about when men go into her, that her guest are in the depths of hell. Single lady this scriptures tells me that you are working for the devil. God is saying any man that goes into you in this state, is going to the dead and hell. You are killing these men. Tell the devil you are no longer using my body as an avenue to lure men into hell.

Ephesians 5:5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God


Single lady, that is why you have to be built up on the inside. You have to allow God to make you whole so you would not settle for the counterfeit attention and love from a man not worthy of your heart. You have stop selling yourself short and love yourself enough to stop your self destruction ways. God wants to show you what real love is. He love you so much that he do not want you to settle. Always making your self second class and second rate. You never have to get any body sloppy seconds. God wants to give you your own husband who will dedicate his love, time and attention to you. But you have to first cleanse your heart and rid yourself of destruction behavior and allow God to make you whole inside. Tell yourself that you will not be part of Satan tactics against the kingdom of God. You are on God’s side, You are a kingdom builder! Rid yourself of this baggage. So when your Boaz shows up he will find you peaceful and drama free!

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