13 Principles I Use To Manifest My Goals and Dreams On My Vision Board!

Today I want to share with you 13 principles I use to manifest my goals and dreams on my vision board.

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If you have never heard of a vision board or if you have never created a vision board, click this link to read a blog post I wrote to my single sisters about how to create a vision board.

Please scroll down to the picture showing the vision board and start reading from there, because anything before that is talking to single ladies.

What is a vision board? A vision board is simply a tool used to see your goals, dreams and visions that you’ve written down on paper, translated into visual form by using real images or pictures.

For example; you wrote in your journal that you one day want to visit the Fiji Islands. You saw a picture in the magazine of the Fiji Islands, you can cut that picture out of the magazine and paste it to your vision board. Now, you can look at that dream and visualize yourself on the Fiji Island.The vision board itself has no power to make anything happen. It can not answer any prayers, and your faith should not be in the vision board itself. It is just a tool used to see your visions and dreams before your eyes by using real pictures. Got it?

Your faith should always be engaged in trusting the Heavenly Father and his word that these things are coming to pass.

It is not unscriptural that you are writing down the visions and dreams that you believe God is showing you for your life.

In fact, the scriptures teaches us to write the vision down and make it plain or clear!

Habakkuk 2:2-3 KJV

And the Lord answered me, and said write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it!

For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.God said that he will give us the desires of our hearts if we delight ourselves in him. If you really want to know what it means to truly delight yourself in the Lord click here.

Psalm 37: 4

Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

God also said, when the people do not have a vision for their life, they perish. You need to dream and you need to have goals. It keeps your life in forward movement and unstuck.

I don’t know if you know it or not, but you were created to do good things and you were also created for good works. I will share with you what the scriptures says about this.

Proverbs 29:18 KJV

Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepth the law, happy is he.

Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them,God wants you to believe him for the impossible. He said, if you can believe Him for the impossible, you can have it!

Matthew 19:26 NIV

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.

Now that we’ve established that it’s not unbiblical to create a vision board and that our faith must be engaged in the Heavenly Father at all times, lets find out how to get the best use out of our vision board.

13 Principles I Use To Manifest My Goals And Dreams On My Vision Board!

1. After you have created your vision board, place it in an area where you can look at it at least twice a day.

I love looking at my vision board when I wake up in the morning and right before I go to bed. I have my vision board displayed in open view in my bedroom so when ever I walk pass it, I can see it.

2. Believe: Really believe this can one day happen for you. Believe that you are worthy to receive anything good in your life.

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Jeremiah 29:11 KJV

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

3. Take at least 15 minutes daily to concentrate on your vision board. Take inventory of what you are asking to come into your life, by doing so, you are ingraining the images into your subconscious mind because what you pay attention to in your life is what you are attracting to you.

For example, you want to cut out eating sweets from your diet, but you are watching TV shows about baking desserts and yummy treats. On your job, people are constantly bringing doughnuts, cakes and snacks, and you are around this all day.

What do you think is going to happen eventually? You are going to give in to the temptation because those images are ingrained in your mind from you paying attention to them all day long.

4. Visualize yourself with your goals and dreams. Imagine what it would feel like to obtain your goals and dreams. Pretend that you are actually living your new life when you look at your vision board.

Do not just look at your board but actually feel all those wonderful feelings as you are pretending as if you’ve already obtained the goals and dreams on your vision board. What you are doing at this moment is engaging your faith.

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Remember when you were a kid and you engaged in pretend play? You were so happy and so engaged in the process of play, that you got so wrapped up in it and forgot it was just play.

You would even get into an arguement with your friends, sisters and brothers about, “it’s my red car” and neither one of you owned a car but in that moment it became real for you.

Take that same childhood naivety into your pretend play while visualizing yourself with your new life.

Romans 15:13 KJV

Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.

5. Say the scriptures and confessions on your vision board out loud, so it sinks down into your subconscious mind and heart.6. Choose to share your vision board with people you really trust and with your purpose partners (someone who is just as invested in seeing your visions, goals and dreams come to pass)

If you do not have anyone in your life that you can share your vision board with, then keep it between you and the Heavenly Father.

7. The benefit of sharing your vision board with someone you trust and who believes in you, is to have a partner to play your childhood game with (Pretend Play).

The both of you get together and start pretending that you are driving in your Lexus 570 and you are traveling to Maui tomorrow and you gotta hurry up so that you won’t miss your flight. It’s lots of fun to do. I play this game with my husband a lot!

8. Stay away from doubting Thomas and negative Nancy. These are people who causes you to doubt, abort or cancel your dreams and goals altogether.

The moment you realize that a person is negative in an area where you are trusting God to manifest for you, shut it down and stop talking to that person about that subject! Stop sharing with them immediately.9. Never come into agreement with anyone who is speaking opposite of what you believe God to manifest in your life. You should speak back to anyone who is being negative about your dream.

Single ladies, if you want to be married, when you hear someone say there are a shortage of men, you say, in a kind manner (you do not have to be rude), girl men are plentiful and besides, I only need the one that God hand picked just for me.

10. Always pray to the Heavenly Father and ask for guidance as you navigate to your new life.

Ask Him to give you His best in every situation and detach from the outcome.
Don’t try and figure out how it is going to happen. Your job is to believe and trust God.11. Read books and look at testimonies online of others who have obtain their dreams in the areas you want to obtain yours. This will keep your faith engaged in your goals and dreams.

12. When the spirit of truth prompt your heart to do something towards your dreams and goals, take fast actions.

13. Lastly, you never talk against the things you believe to happen for you on your vision board by doubting because it will take longer to come or not come to pass at all.

James 1:6-7

But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord

These are my 13 principles I use to manifest my goals and dreams on my vision board. Now go and create you a masterpiece Vision Board.

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6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz/ Cont. Principle #3

This blog post is a continuation of principle #3 LETTING GO OF BAGGAGE.  Do not forget to read Principle #1 and Principle #2.

THE BAGGAGE OF JEALOUSY, ENVY, COVETOUSNESS AND STRIFE!

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Single Ladies, I thought I was going to hit on these principles and move on, but I have to deeply dive into these subjects so you can get free from the strongholds that is keeping you stuck and unhappy. Happiness and joy are your potion and you need them before you can attract a healthy whole relationship to you. God wants his daughters whole in every area of their life. Negativity keeps things from attracting to you. I am dealing with these emotions and helping you to clear the negative energy that is blocking and repelling wonderful and amazing relationships and friendships from coming into your life.

Before I go any farther, we all have been victims of one or all of these negative emotions that I am getting ready to expose. It is ok to admit to yourself that these emotions are trying to over take you. Do not be in denial of these emotions because then, they will overtake you if you do not deal with them.

A lot of pride comes with having these emotions, because when we were little girls, we were told it was wrong to display these emotions. When these emotions would surface in our heart, we felt weak, ashamed and we hid our emotions from ourselves and we hid our emotions from other people.

What we do not realize is that these emotions always reveal themselves in the way we conduct ourselves with others. They show up through our body language, words, lack of words, deeds and actions.

If you are in tuned with the Holy Spirit, He will reveal the heart of men all around you. Now don’t go looking for things because you will always find something, but if you are purposefully keeping your heart cleanse of falsity and evil  intentions before the Lord, then things can be shown to you in the spirit realm.

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I do not think you can have true confidence until you let go of baggage. Having baggage will always make you feel insecure. Because holding on to baggage is just masking itself in a scarcity mindset. A scarcity mindset is just living with fears. You think there is not enough for you or you are lacking something. In your own mind, you think there is someone that have, look and is doing better than you. You fear someone is going to take something from you.

Within your own self, you feel like you have to compete to stay on top, because you fear someone is going to out shine you or is rejecting you. You fear others decisions that they have made for themselves and for some reason you take it personally and began to reject them for the decision they have made for themselves. You guys it will take me like 5 blog post to expose this thing. So I am going to try and keep this post to 2,600 words at the most or I might have to add a second blog post to this because I want to uncover Satan tactics.

So you with hold, you with hold your support, forgiveness, love, time, attention, compliments your encouragement. You see things through a negative lens because having these emotions displayed in your heart are all negative. You are carrying real baggage, and  it must be dealt with so you can feel confident and so you can feel secure about yourself and so you can know how to deal with these emotions when it raises its ugly head.

For the single ladies who need this, I want to apologize to you for the way you grew up and the lack of love and attention you didn’t get from your parents or those that were in your life who didn’t love your properly. I am sorry if you were always compared to other people. Comparison always bring on a competitive spirit, whether it is you doing the comparison in your own mind, or someone else comparing you to others, it is not good. I am sorry if a parent was not in your life or a relationship that you were in left you feeling rejected and abandon.

It is time for you to deal with these negative emotions, because they are keeping you in bondage and you are pushing people away from you, and at the same time you are repelling people away from you. These negative emotions are destroying the amazing freedom Christ Jesus died for you to have.

Theses emotions are destroying families, friendship and relationships, breaking up marriages, business and churches. They are destroying nations and countries.

The moment you compare yourself with someone it leads to discouragement, discontentment and jealousy. Jealousy is a twin to envy and cousins to gossip and strife and every evil work.  What does the Bible have to say about this and how to overcome it.

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There was a story in the Bible about a man named Saul who was the King of the Israelites he had a right hand man name David who killed Goliath. David respected and honored Saul just like he respected and honored God. When David, was a young boy, he defeated Goliath and won Saul’s daughter hand in marriage. Saul made David his right hand man. David grew up and became handsome and strong. David defeated many enemies for King Saul and the children of Isreal. But this is what the children of Isreal started saying  and singing about David. Saul only killed thousands and David 10 thousands, and this is how Saul felt in his heart towards David.

 1 Samuel 18:8,9 And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him; and he said, They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed but thousands: and what can he have more but the kingdom? 9 And Saul eyed David from that day and forward. 

Anytime you stir up a competition amongst people, there will always be other people who feel like they do not measure up or see themselves as not valuable because they are not producing like someone else. Saul with in his self started to compare himself with David, while David was trying to do everything to win God’s approval, as well as Saul’s approval, Saul became suspicious of David from the moment people started to brag or talk about his achievements and when David started to achieve somethings that Saul did not achieve.

The jealousy and envy spirit is the spirit that all of us have to guard against. Saul became so envious of David that he started to gossip about David, find fault with him, Got with others to talk about him. Start telling lies about David. Start telling other people to watch him and spy on him and then his envy turned into strong hate and he wanted to kill David because he feared he would take his spot! Well yes, David destiny was to become King! And to do just as Saul had feared.

Instead of Saul becoming proud of David, encouraging him, supporting him and speaking well of him, he allowed the enemy to plant seeds of jealousy and envy in his heart towards him. David had done nothing wrong but supported Saul his whole Kingship. David had so much honor for Saul that he would not speak bad about the King even when he knew the King was trying to harm him. At first David was puzzled, because he knew he had followed protocol and had done everything right by the Kingship. David knew in his heart that he had done nothing wrong to King Saul or his Kingdom. This is where a lot of us miss it, so I am going to end this blog post by giving you the step to over come comparison, jealousy, envy and strife. But before I do I want to give you some breaking news.

There is greatness in all of us, God made everyone of us, it was genetics that gave you your features, eye color, hair color, hair texture, skin color, the family you were born into, but God was in control of all of that because He said,  Jeremiah 1: 5 KJB Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. 

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God also sent you to earth for a purpose, He gave you your gifts, skills and talents. They all came from God. I know some situation was not favorable for you when you were born but even in that God hands has always been upon you. Try and celebrate others today, It is God who cause all of us to be here on the plant together, we are all called to shine! We all deserve to have an amazing life.

Romans 12:3-11
“For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.

If you are going to be mad at someone, it should be God. He did the picking and choosing. Just know you too can have what someone else have, not in covetousness trying to take theirs, but believing that God can bless you with your own blessing. Exodus 20:17 ESV “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.”

You were purposefully created by God and so were others. Now the sad things is when we were babies some of our environments did not teach us just how beautiful and awesome we were and that we did not have to ever compare ourselves with each other because God created us different, unique and special. Here is a poem I want you to read by Marianne Williamson .

As long as you are on this earth there are going to be others that are more prettier than you, can do something better than you, have nicer things than you, have a better shape than you, smarter than you. But there is not anyone that can do you, Can’t no one out do you at being a beautiful expression of God. Celebrate who God created you to be, love yourself enough to think well of yourself and love other enough to think well of them as a child of God. So let us learn from David and Saul what to do and not do to overcome these negative emotions.

Saul’s is the one who ranked David in his kingship, when ever Saul gave David a mission he did it successfully, it was ok as long as Saul was getting all of the praise and glory, as soon as the women sang David praises, comparing David to Saul, that is when Saul started to become suspicious of David.

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1. First, you have to purpose in your heart to guard your heart. You guard your heart by guarding your thoughts. Saul did not guard his heart, he allowed thoughts to come into his mind and he meditated on them. They produced covetousness, jealousy  envy, bitterness, strife and hatred in his heart to the point he wanted to kill David.

2. Second, when God is exalting someone even if you feel those negative emotions surfacing,  counteract those thoughts by praying nothing but good for that person. Bless the persons life every time the thoughts rises. Give that person a heartfelt worthy compliment from your heart. Even bless them financially if you can and if it requires it. The same God that created you, created them. If  it is their time to shine, the best thing you can do is support them. You do not know what that person had to go through to get to where they are today. Do not be negative towards them. Especially if this person has done nothing to you. Support people the way you want to be supported. Truth be told people always put you somewhere you are not yet, it may appear that you arrived but you are still trying to overcome feelings of can I really do this or not and looking at your own self with an critical eye. 

3. It is some people aim to make other people jealous of them which is evil as well, because the person that is operating out of that spirit have evil intentions and does not show the love of Christ, especially if you are a Christian. You can not control how a person is feeling about you but you do not need make that your aim by doing things to make them feel jealous. God said we are to pray for each other and bare one another burdens. By all means walk in peace with one another. You can deflate these emotions in a person that might be jealous of you by always showing the love of Christ to that person, never pay evil for evil and always counteracting with what is good and also pay that person a worthy compliment as well. Try talking to that person if you can, sometimes it gives the person a different view of you. I do understand it is not our job to get people to like us but as Christian it is our job to walk in love.

4. David kept his heart right even thou Saul heart was evil towards him. There will be times when you do not know why people are treating you like they are and you would be questioning, did I do something to them or offend them in any kind of way. There will be opportunities for you to talk about that person to others but do not say a word against them to anyone, you keep your heart right at all times. I know we like to be heard and not look at in a negative light and we want to tell our side of the story but hold your peace and let God fight your battle. David did not say one bad thing about Saul because he feared God and his anointed one. If you already talked about a person that you have been displaying these emotions towards or they have displayed them towards you repent now, wipe your slate clean. Get back in right standing with God. You always take the high road by smiling, and being kind and showing the love of God to that person. Pray for the person as well.

4. At one point Saul was trying to kill David but David escaped Saul. He sent David away to be on his own. David prospered in everything he had done. Saul was afraid of David because God was with David and had departed from Saul. No matter how much Saul wanted to kill him, he could not and no matter how bad Saul wanted to entrap him, He could not. Please get your heart right with people and with God. You do not want to be like Saul who envied David until the day he died. God will prosper the person you are making your enemy in your mind and you will be shut out of the promises of God.

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6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz!/Principle #2

Hello extraordinary single lady, this is the 2nd principle of “6 PRINCIPLES SINGLE LADIES NEED TO HAVE IN PLACE TO ATTRACT BOAZ” if you are reading this blog post without learning about the 1st principle, I suggest you stop and read the 1st principle single ladies need to have in place to attract Boaz.

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The 2nd principle is, “Enjoying Your Own Company”

When your husband shows up, he needs you, to have a life of your own.

I think far too long, women look to a man to rescue her from her circumstances, rescue her from loneliness and rescue her from herself. Some women look to a man to validate their self-worth.

The only life force that have the ability to validate you is God and yourself.

We will seek validation from the people that are important to us like our parents, siblings and friends. But what if you do not get the validation that you are looking for from the people in your life? Are you going to feel bad about yourself and feel bad about the things that you are doing?

This is why you can not even rely on the people that are closes to you to validate you. They may not see things like you see them.

You will have all types of reasons why people don’t and won’t give you the validation that you may be searching for. They may not have it inside of their heart to give it out to you. They may be lacking something inside of themselves. They may not want you to know that they think that much about you.

Some people do not give validation to you because they fear loosing some kind of control over you. Some people hold back giving you validation because they fear you are going to out do them. It could be because they are envious of you. It could be because they don’t know how much you really need it from them. But whatever the reason people hold back validation really doesn’t matter, because the only validation you need is God’s and yourself.

You really need to be grounded in this truth before you get married.

Today I want to teach you how to enjoy your own company. When you can enjoy your own company you become self-sufficient. You may desire to have fellowship with others, but you do not look to others to make you happy. You do not need others approval of you. You are not desperate for attention from others. You can create your own the happiness.

I am not shocked about woman looking for validation, because as little girls we grow up watching what has been displayed to us in our homes. We watched how our fathers treated our mothers and how our fathers treated us. If we did not grow up with a father in the home, we watched how our mothers relate to the men that was in her life. Little girls are always seeking some kind of validation. Whether it is from momma or daddy, we thrive off of it. If we did not get it as little girls we grow up to be grown woman still needing to be validated. We grow up still needing for someone to tell us that we are special, beautiful, lovable, awesome, smart and capable. We looked to others to make us happy.

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Were you the little girl that waited on your daddy when he said he was coming back and never did come back ? You know us girls love our daddy, and we believe anything they say to us. You gotta deal with that right now, because you will be waiting for a man when he tells you that he needs to take care of somethings in his life and put you on hold, expecting you to be there when he get back.

No my love, you deserve a man who is going to value you, be there for you and respect your time. You never ever put your life on hold for anyone you are not married to, so they can go and figure out what they want to do. A woman would think this is normal because this is what she saw her father do to her.

You will never be happy, and always be disappointed if you allow others to control your life.

You are handing your happiness in the hands of others if you are sitting around waiting for someone to share their time with you and share your awesome beautiful space. 

Were you the little girl that always needed praise and compliments and felt rejected or unloved when you did not get it. You my extraordinary sister is getting ready to snatch your power and your happiness back from the enemy of your mind. You are getting ready to implement the tools that will help you to enjoy your own company, find yourself and discover what you love. Enjoying your own company is all about you surviving without anyone breathing your air.

Are you the little girl that got anything she wanted from her daddy? You will be expecting that from your soon to be husband who at the time, might not be able to give you everything you want. If you do not deal with this now, you would think he is not making you happy.

When you have learned to enjoy your own company, take care of yourself and do the things that you love, you will not put unrealistic expectation on other people, not even your soon to be husband.

I am not saying you should not expect your soon to be husband to spend quality time with you and buy you nice gifts, what I am talking about is you feeling unhappy and waiting on others to love you, spend time with you and validate you so you can feel whole.

You should be learning how to do things by yourself, like going to the movies, it is alright to have girls night out but you should try going to the movies by yourself. You need to depend on you and God for your own happiness. Date yourself, visit the museum, go out to eat by yourself, to a nice fine dining restaurant, and dress up. Take little trips by yourself. Love your own company, Enjoy you.

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Create a space that you can not wait to come home to! This is the time you need to find out what you like. What truly makes you happy and start during more of those things.

How is the man in your life going to enjoy your company, when you do not enjoy your own company. Try turning off the electronics and just sit listening to your own breath. Play some wonderful praise music and get before the lord and dance. Get to know yourself all over again.

There are going to be times in your marriage, when your husband is not going to want to do the things that you want to do, or he might not be available to do them with you because of his work schedule, your life still goes on and he needs to see that you are not making him your happiness. That takes tons of pressure off him and even makes you more attractive to him, because he knows you are not going to be waiting around for him. He needs to know that you are not making him your little god.

When a woman flows out of fulfillment, she is not desperate for attention from another person. Though she wants her husband undivided attention at times, she do not fall apart when he is not able to give it to her. She goes to God in prayer and tell God what she needs and waits for God to answer that prayer. That woman goes by her way and pulls from the things that makes her happy.

She does not mope around desperately, waiting until someone comes along to validate her.

So what are some of the things you can do to fall in love with your life, fall in love with yourself and truly learn how to enjoy your own company.

Find out what makes you happy. Extraordinary single lady, purchase you a journal and fill it up with all of the things you want to do that you have not done yet. Don’t wait until you are married to do these things, if you can make it happen while you are single, than do it.

*Create a love list. Began to thrush out all of the things that you absolutely love and do more of it.

*Right down 10 things that you are grateful for every night and focus on one thing out of those 10 things that you are most grateful for.

*Right down all of your favorites colors, and start decorating your house, wardrobe and jewelry and everything else you can buy in these colors.

*Walk at least 30 minute a day, walking has wonderful benefits and it keeps you healthy and stress free.

*Create you a playlist on youtube of your favorite songs and dance until your heart is content.

*If you have extra cash, get yourself a spa treatment. I recommend at least once a month. If it is not in your budget, buy your own spa kit and pamper yourself once a week, you deserve it.

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*Learn something new every week and read and study that topic until your heart is content. The Library is a gigantic wealth of knowledge, and everything there is free! So you have no excuse not to learn something new.

*Take a trip by yourself and feel happy and free. See the sites, shop until you drop and then get dressed up and treat your self to a yummy delicious meal.

*Create an affirmation list, find your best scriptures and positive confessions and say them to yourself daily. You can also do mirror techniques. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak get things over yourself at least 2 times a day in the morning and before bed.

*Go to the movies and fine dining often, by yourself and with your friends.

*Do something adventurous!

*Learn how to meditate on your favorite scriptures and confessions. Just sit quietly with soft instrumental praise music and dream of having your new life.

*Declutter your environment. Create a checklist of things, people, environments, clothes and furniture that no longer serves you purpose. Donate, throw away, give way and disconnect.

*Organize your life! This can be really fun. Turn on your favorite music and clean and organize your house and everything that is in it. Bills, schedules ect.

*Create you a 100 goal list, write down things that you want to do in your life time.

*Learn how to cook and invite your friends or family or co workers over to try your new recipes.

*Learn all you can about marriage.

*Watch a wholesome comedy and laugh until you cry.

*Give your self a makeover. Practice confidence, poise and smiling.

*Practice controlling your thoughts and think your way to a happy life. Wake up renewed everyday, can’t wait to enjoy the next thing on your list. Get excited about your life and when you do, your life will be filled with exuberance.

When you began to enjoy your own company, you will become an interesting person as well as a well rounded person. There will be a new sparkle in your eyes and a renewed love for living and this will show on your face. Your life will not feel meaningless anymore, you will not look to anyone to create your happiness.

When you get married, your happiness will be in the love and security of God first, then yourself. Your perspective will be clear when it comes to who is in charge of your happiness. Happiness and positive energy attracts things and people to us, speaking negatively and feeling unhappy repeal things and people away from us.

I give you permission to enjoy your happy and beautiful life!

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6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz!/ Principle #1

There are 6 areas that I am going to cover in this series and the 1st area that I am going to cover in this blog post is all about you.

Principle #1 What you need to be and what he needs you to be

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This is a topic that is dear to my heart. Before I got married I did not always live as a Extraordinary Single Lady. I am not speaking to you because I had it all together, but I am speaking to you as a person who has struggled with some of the same things you as a beautiful single lady is struggling with.

I did some inner work that I believed helped me to prepare myself before I got married. Every principle that I share with you, I practice them. I had to, because I wanted to feel good about me. I wanted my happiness to be based in my relationship with the Lord Jesus and not in someone else making me happy, so I did a lot of inner work on me before I actually got married. I believe the inner work that I did helped me to be more confident, to know my worth and to value myself as a woman, a Christian and as a child of God.

The inner work that I did on the inside of me helped me to know that I had options and that I did not have to settle for some guy that did not line up with my morals and standards. I got to the point where I did not look to any person to make me happy. I got to the point where I enjoyed my own company.

I had so many wrong ideas about what I needed to be before I attracted a mate. Things like you have to know who to cook, be domestic, look like a model, have a banging body and have your finances in order. You know all the things you read in the magazines or you learned from the world.

Today I want to presents some new ideas to you. What if I told you it doesn’t matter the color of your skin, the shape of your body, your educational background, the things you’ve done in your past, how many kids you have, If you are a domestic diva, and if you can cook like Rachel Ray.

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What if I told you none of that matters when you want to attract the man of your dreams.

I know my title sounds catchy, but you will see that this whole message has to do with 2 things. Who God says that you are and who do you say that you are.

Today we are going to deal with your mindset! Now all of the things that I just listed in the paragraphs before are things we sometimes feel like we have to have to attract a man to us.

All of those things are additives and bonuses after you have discovered your purpose, worth and your value. They just makes your package look that much better to any potential suitor who wants to take your hand in marriage.

Now don’t get me wrong, when you value yourself as an Extraordinary Lady, you are going to want to keep your environment clean, look your best and take care of yourself financially because it do not feel good to have to rely on others to support you if you are a grown woman.

Now if you are still in college, I am not talking about you. But if you are solely relying on others to fully take care of you, it does not empower you or help you to feel confident as a woman to be relying on others. Even if you are still living at home with your parents, you need to find ways to create an income for yourself so you can have money to save and buy things you want and need. It is all about taking care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally.

There are 6 areas that I am going to cover in this series and the 1st area that I am going to cover in this blog post is all about you.

What you need to be and what he needs you to be

to keep him interested in you and to be a challenge to him. Yes, even Christian woman. I know you are thinking if it is God there should not be any game playing, I don’t have time for games and no it is not a game. But there are somethings you need to have in place so that he knows you are not like every other woman who has allowed him to get what he want without a real commitment.

I am sure you have seen woman or perhaps yourself, that have been with a guy and have bent over backwards for him, you were the nice girl, you never really said no to him, you were the yes girl, he knew your heart was gold but he end up going with or marrying the other woman.

Why did he choose the other woman? He chose the other woman because she had something about her, that made him want to commit to her. I am only going to cover the first area in this blog post. You can subscribe to Breakthrough Blog 4 Women to read this 6 part series. I also wrote a book about this titled, “How to be an EXTRAORDINARY SINGLE LADY Principles, Values and Standards, to Have Before Your Boaz Arrives.”  The book goes more into depth and give more details about this subject, so if you want to know all of the  principles, I suggest you get a copy of the book. Just click the link in green and it will take you straight to my website where you can get a copy of the book.

What do you think set good quality woman apart from other women? It is being spiritual connected to God. So he is going to need you to have a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Not a surface religious relationship with God, but a true rich God you are the air that I breathe type of relationship.

Because everything you are lacking in you right now is in God. God is the one that your true identity comes from. God created you and He knows you better than any man would ever know you.

God can make you feel whole inside. After having a true God encounter, you would never again go outside yourself looking for things and people to fulfill you. It doesn’t matter if human love did not love you the way you were meant to be loved, the only love you need to rely on is God’s love. God knew human love could not and would not sustain you. That is why he sacrificed his son Jesus on the cross for you, just to show you how valuable and worthy you are.

Now who has ever proved their love to you like that. Who has ever taken their only begotten son and sacrificed his life and died on the cross just for you? No one.

So why do we fall apart and feel rejected and not worthy when human beings do not have the capacity to love us to the standard that God loves us. No longer are you going to get validation from anyone in your life but God. And if someone compliments you, and say anything great about you, it is just a bonus to what you know to be true about yourself because your Heavenly Father already told you just how magnificent you already are.

A man needs someone to hold him accountable to be the best version of himself

Don’t get me wrong, men are just as spiritually in tuned to God as a woman is, but sometimes he is not as sensitive and intuitive as a woman may be. Sometimes a woman can make him see things in a totally different light and he will think you are amazing because he do not think like a woman.

Ladies there is something God put in a woman that is designed to help her husband but if you are not aligned with God how can you help him properly.

To help him best, your wisdom needs to come from God, and not from the world’s  wisdom. When you have God in your life you should have standards and morals. If we are reading our Bibles we should be patterning our life after the scriptures. But I do know everybody is at different levels and everyone get delivered at different times.

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I know as a single lady I struggled with this flesh, I am not telling you this because I had it all together when I was single. But the Bible is truth. It is God’s word to us, to show us how we are to conduct ourselves as Christian. I am telling you my story so you do not have to struggle in your singleness like I did. God loves us, He wants the best for your life.

The scriptures are there not to deny us of our God given desires, but the scriptures are there to protect us from using our desires in a way that will harm our spirits, emotions and our body. The scriptures are there to protect us from getting hurt from others that mean us no good and have wrong motives and intentions towards us. The scriptures are there to  protect us from strife, unforgiveness, sickness and pain and to protect us from Satan tactics.

I wished I was as focused as I am now while I was single! I am not saying this so you can stay single, but I am telling you this because I want you to know just how powerful you are  as an Extraordinary Single lady, especially if you do not have kids.

You need to have purpose

You my beautiful Extraordinary Single Lady should  be experiencing quantum leaps in your purpose. What ever that may be. You have nothing but time on your hands to go back to school, if that is what you want to do. Start your own business, if that is what God leading you to do. Your Boaz when he finds you, he need to find you being busy with purpose. So he knows that you are a woman of focus and you do not have an open door policy that he thinks your time revolves around him. He needs to know, if he wants to spend time with you, he is going to have to rearrange his schedule because you are not just going to drop everything for him. That poses as a challenge to him and make you look very markable.

You have to love and value yourself enough that you don’t loose yourself when a man shows you a little attention. Some woman give to much, to fast in relationships. You are the prize. But don’t go over board with this either because you don’t want to be so tight on schedule that you turn him off but that is another blog post. Let me stay with the message I am trying to convey.

Single lady, you can live out your purpose without distractions. You do not have to have a man on your shoulders to be in ministry. Extraordinary single lady, do not allow anyone to put limits on you! What is God putting in your heart to do! What are you passionate about? You can do it. You can devote all of your time into it becoming amazing! Take the limits off your mind. Get in God’s face and ask him what is it that you should be doing in this season of your life. Did he called you to write a book, start a ministry, be a missionary. Now is the time to fulfill your mission, your calling. Are you called to be a brand, what is it! Do it.

Do not be afraid, you have what it takes just like anyone else. Now is the time for you to dream! You have to live with purpose. You should wake up every day excited about your life. Your life should be filled with amazing purposeful things.

Do not waste anymore of your days on insignificant things, stop during things just to fill up your day because you are unhappy, unfulfilled, lonely and bored with your life. You do not have time to be getting lonely. You should be going home and can;t wait to get in your bed because your purpose has taken up most of your day.

Purpose for you could be getting your life in order, cleaning and organizing your home, trying to get your life on a schedule so you won’t be overly stressed out. Decluttering and removing unwanted items out of your life. Removing toxic people and relationships out of your life. If you have children, being present with them, making sure you have a good relationship with your children. I will be writing to the single moms in a different blog post.

You are going to have to be a woman of prayer.

There shouldn’t be a day that goes by with out communicating with God. Talk to him like a real person. Tell him everything. Ask him for everything. Go to him first before you go to anyone. Tell him what you need, and be transparent with him. Do not run from his presence when you sin. Learn how to be intimate with God. You are going to have to learn how to pray before you get married, because when you get married, you are going to stay in prayer!

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Your personalities are merging and you guys are raised up differently. You have your way of doing things and so do he. You are going to learn how to pray, so you can control your temper, you are going to learn how to pray so you can talk to your husband with respect when he says something to you that is going to hurt your feeling. You are going to need to learn how to pray to submit to his headship as the leader of your family. You are going to need to pray for discernment in certain situations. You need to learn how to listen to God’s voice in your life period.

Learn to depend and lean on God for everything. I mean everything! When your husband can’t produce a certain need for you or the family financially, you are going to have to ask God for it without putting pressure on your husband.

You gotta have standards

I want to talk more about setting standards for yourself because when you have standards you do not go for anything. What are your standards? What are those things that are non-negotiable? Our standards are a safe guard for us.

Our standards should be set for us by God and then we should have personal standards. For example, “What does the God say about premarital sex.” “What does the God say about being unequally yoked.” You are a believer of the Lord Jesus Christ and he is a believer of something else. You are a Christian but he is unsaved.

You do not smoke, but he do, is that a deal breaker for you? He is married but separated from his wife for 3 years. He is still legally married. What does the Bible say about that. He lied about having 6 children or he did not tell you he had children. What will you not put up with? Christian woman and woman who are not Christians feel like there is a shortage of men, so they are settling. Thy are tolerating anything from men. Allowing him to have a key to their house and driving their car. Why should he commit to you. You are giving him a wive statues with out the title!

You need to value yourself so much that you put up boundaries in all your relationships. You are always teaching people how to treat you. I can go on and on about this subject because this use to be me until I allow God to transform my mind. I am writing to you because I love my sisters and want to see them whole in every area in their life!.

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