How I Declutter My Home For The New Year!

table-white-home-interior (1)I like to declutter my environment at least 4 times a year. I like to declutter around the changing of the seasons. I will declutter a week before or after the new year, in the spring time, summer time, and in the fall. I believe every season brings new changes and new revelations.

I love reflecting over my life and my goals in each season. I am always listening inwardly to hear if the Holy Spirit wants to reveal important information to me. I also love changing out my fashion style with what I call, “my colors for the season.” I will write another blog post about how I invested in a fashion and style coach, “The Brown Closet” but for now, click the link to pay The Brown Closet a visit.

There is something about the New Year that makes me want to hit the reset button and start all over again. I love having systems in place in my home and decluttering is one of the systems I use to keep things organized. It always make me feel like I have a new start.pexels-photo-110215This year thou, I feel different. I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like a major shift has taken place in my heart. My New Year’s theme is a “New Year, a New You.” A part of that is really being intentional about changing some bad habits I had in 2017. Like being on time to scheduled appointments. I have 5 people that I am responsible for. I have to make sure they have what they need before we walk out of the door and I did not include myself in that number. I used this as an excuse to not be on time to places. But this year, I am going to intentionally put a plan in place to help me get to places on time. I will give myself lots of grace if things comes up that are out of my control.

This year I am decluttering my schedule, my time and my focus so that I will have breakthrough success. When I do my seasonal decluttering, I have items on my list that can never take a back seat to be decluttered, because if these things are not monitored, they can get out of control. These items are papers, clothes, shoes, toys and homeschool materials. Some people never get rid of things in their environment and it just accumulates.

I have 4 children all under the age of 12, it is challenging to keep things organized. My household includes 6 people. That is six people with things, stuff and items living in one environment. Imagine with me for a moment, if I never got rid of things from the time I got married and gave birth to my children, up until date, that would be 17 years of accumulation in a 1240 square foot of living space. The results would be stifling!books-1617327_1920I use to have 3 bookshelves but now I have just one. I got rid of the other ones because I want to live a more simpler and intentional lifestyle. The less you have in your environment, the less you have to clean and maintain the upkeep of it all. The less you have in your environment, the bigger your space feels.

I can only read one book at a time. I realize when I am done reading a book, I rarely go back to read it again. If I want a book, I can just check it out at my local library. The same goes for my children.

Unless you have someone that comes in and clean your home, what I found out is that, moms are always trying to stay on top of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, schedules and trying to keep things orderly. A lot of times we moms get frustrated and overwhelmed because we are trying to maintain the upkeep of the things we are constantly bringing in our homes for our families. It is exhausting to keep cleaning up the same old things you’ve just cleaned up 2 hours ago.

When I get disorganized, the things I instantly want to tackle are the dishes, paper/trash, clothes, shoes, toys, laundry and homeschool materials. I have to constantly stay on top of those items.blue-glass-flower-decoration (1)When I tackle my seasonal decluttering, I make sure to get every single detail. I clean out every cabinet, every closet, I get rid of any clothes that have stains, rips and are too small. I get rid of furniture that is broken and is not working for the space. I get rid of any appliances that are broken and dishes that are chipped. I get rid of shoes that are to little and worn out. I declutter homeschool material and papers, I clean out every drawer, I declutter linen, I get rid of toys that my children have lost interest in and are broken. I declutter medicine, I declutter food that is in the cabinets and refrigerator that have expired. I declutter books and I wipe down and clean everything; walls, doors, ceiling fans, light fixtures, carpet, furniture and floors.

I use to have a beautiful glass coffee and end table, glass vases, and the pretty decorative balls that sit on the coffee table but when I started having kids it was too much work to monitor it all and keep the glass mark free. I had to redefine my style of decor because the season had changed in my life. I remember trying to hold on to those glass tables because thy were one of a kind and we paid a lot of money for them, but my husband was adamant about letting them go after one of my children bumped their face on the glass. Those items were not working for us anymore.

Sometimes we try to hold on to seasons that have come and is now gone and God wants to do something new with our lives. If we are too attached to things and if our identity is wrapped up in them, we can become stuck in a formal season.

I would love to hear about ways you keep your life decluttered. Leave a comment. Follow me on social media by clicking the links down below. To follow me on Instagram click here.

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10 Ways You Can Create A Simple and Luxurious Life!

Today I feel led to share with you a chapter out of a book that I’ve written called, “25 Attitude You Must Have for a Breakthrough” and since I am on a 30 days journey to getting my life in order, I thought it would be perfect to share my process with you and this chapter breaks it down perfectly.

badesalz-1620261_1920Simple and luxurious living is surrounding yourself with only those things that you love and are beautiful to your eyesight. It is also about getting rid of anything that is taking up space in your life with no real purpose. Simple and luxurious living also entails that you only put the things in your environment that you absolutely need and actually use. This eliminates waste in your life and help you to live free of unnecessary clutter.

We hold on to things far too long, even if it is not serving any real purpose in our lives. I want to inspire you to detox your mind, your environment, your relationships, your finances, and your body so you can feel the freedom that comes with releasing dead weight and having an organized stress-free life.

In my own life, I am constantly purging things that no longer benefit me, my family and our environment.

Things like wrong mindset, schedules that do not work for my family, clothes, accessories, wrong eating habits, relationships that are no longer beneficial to my values. Things that are broken that I will never have fixed, things that I am no longer using, places I use to frequent, but in my spirit, feels like the season is up for that. It’s all about simplifying to make your life easier, beautiful, and free!clutter-560701_1920.jpgSometimes having a cluttered environment stunts our growth, cloud our mind and vision. I am learning this. I am also a mother of five, wife, author, blogger and coach. I realize I need to be organized and everything should have a place. I also came to the conclusion that if we are having things in our environment that we don’t love or use, it is robbing us of more space, and to me, holding on to things that no longer serve you purpose, is an indicator you might be holding on to mental and emotional clutter.

Having a cluttered environment and living with too much stuff can cause you to lose quality time with your family and working on things that will enhance your purpose/dream. Because you are too consumed with the upkeep of it all.

Another thing, your best clarity comes in a neat organized environment. I have experienced this in my own life, when I let go of old baggage and decluttered watch out something significant is going to show up in my life.

You can’t go into the next season with things, people, and wrongs mindsets. That will hold you back! That is extra baggage; it will sink your ship. In this next season, you have to sail through!pexels-photo-90319Now, simplifying doesn’t mean things do not have to be beautiful. I encourage beautiful and luxurious. As long as it has a place and value in your life, allow it to be part of your life. We are talking about your own style, do it your way! Put things in your environments that is beautiful and luxurious to you.

Luxurious, doesn’t have to mean the same thing to everyone. I might love vintage and industrial, another person might love modern and retro. Put your own twist on your own style; just make sure you love it! When you have a clean, neat, organized, and positive environment, seeing it alone put you in a peaceful, prosperous, happy, stress-free state of mind.

That is the kind of mind that helps bring clarity in your situations and make your dreams become a reality.

10 Ways To Create A Simple and Luxurious Life:

1. All broken items must be removed immediately or fixed right away.

2. You must absolutely love the items in your environment. Not like, but LOVE!

3. If you no longer have use for an item, or if you have too many of the same items, bless someone else with the item who could use it, or donate it.office-1078869_1920.jpg4. Put like items, with like items, and assign everything a home. For example, put all scissors together in a container, get a container box for all of your pencils, mount a key holder on the wall and place all of your keys on the key holder.

5. Remove all items that are torn, ripped, faded, waggly, too small, and missing buttons out of your environment. If you really love the item, get it repaired immediately.

6. This is just a suggestion, not a rule. When you put items that match, like all matching dishes, towels and silverware, it makes your space look refined and stream-lined and gives a luxurious feel. I am still working on this one myself.

7. If there are any relationships that you are in that are influencing you in a wrong way, that are draining you, negative, one sided; where you are the giver and they are the takers, non-committal, intimidating, manipulative, non-supportive, abusive, toxic, controlling, and codependent. You need to set boundaries in that relationship, redefine your relationships, or cut the soul tides in that relationship all together.pexels-photo-262145.jpegSome people are afraid to be alone, so they tolerate behavior from people that do not mean them any good. When you trust God, and let go of toxic relationships, he bring new and wonderful people into your life that will add to your life and not take away. Your heart is your lifeline, the Bible says out of it flows the issue of life. What issues have you been letting fill your heart. You don’t want to be so loved starved that you just leave heart dangling for anyone to have it. Take your heart back from those who don’t deserve it! And give it to the one who can take care of it best, God. Start loving yourself enough to disconnect from people, things, and decisions that is stopping you from having God’s best for your life.

8. I like to weigh anything against the word of God. God’s word is always true and any wrong mindset that you have concerning an issue, must be destroyed in you. You must let go of that stinking thinking that wants to keep you bound. For example, having unforgiveness in your heart towards another person. God’s word says we should forgive others, if we want God to forgive us. Then we have to forgive the person we are holding unforgiveness against.

You have to detox your mindset from negative and wrong thinking. Sometimes, we could have grown up with truths that are not the truth. Once you find out the truth, you have to let the old truth go, and get rid of it. Because it can hinder you from receiving major breakthroughs in your life.

I have an exercise for you to do. I want you to think about some truths you grew up with and some negative things you believe about yourself, about life and other people. I want you to write them down on paper. I would love for you to weigh it against the word of God (which is the Bible). You can go on the internet and type in the subject in question. Type in the search engine; “what does the Bible teaches about, for example; forgiveness.” Write out your new truth and decide to let it be the ruling truth in your life.wallet-908569_1920.jpg9. We must base our self-esteem on the word of God and not in our material possessions. If you have debt that you owe, the Bible says that we are slaves to our lenders, luxurious simplicity requires you to pay those that you owe, so you can live a luxurious lifestyle. And I am only speaking to the ladies with who are living with real debt. We have no business buying anything that is not a need, until we get out of debt. I suggest you put a stop to unnecessary spending until you have paid off those who have control over you. I recommend you take it a step further, save for a rainy day, and think about your future. Learn about investing some of your money.

Put yourself in the budget, pay yourself some me money. So you will not feel like you are only working to pay bills. Part of you paring down your items is so that you govern and take care of what is in your environment, so you can live with quality and not quantity and having to keep buying the same things over and over again. You can even make extra cash off your stuff, if it is worth something. Set up an Ebay account and start selling your treasures on Ebay. They have a global customer base, and you will be surprise who wants to buy your stuff.

Another place to sell your items to make extra cash is Craigslist. Craigslist is design to sell in your local community and state that you live in. People are buying and selling on craigslist all day long, and it is free to sell and buy things. I would suggest you read the safety policies before meeting with someone on Craigslist.

Never go anywhere alone to exchange items for cash. Always take someone with you.

We spend too much money into our self-worth and not into things that really matters, like our future. I know that you do not want to still be working for someone else at the age of 65. You do not have to retire, but if you are going to be working, let it be for yourself and because you love helping others with a service you provide. Now, when you have taken care of your foundation and built your financial house, splurge!pexels-photo-110215.jpeg10. Part of living a luxurious simplicity life is taking care of your temple, your body, so you can live to enjoy all of the blessing that will unfold in your life when you on purpose decide you want to change!

Toxic, harmful things in your body and your environment like strong harsh chemicals foul foolish talk, cursing, gossip, negative self-talk, drugs, alcohol, nicotine, too much sugar, salt, soda and caffeine. I want to inspire you to change the way you look at your life. You only have one life; you must love yourself enough to take care of you. You are the only one who can decide what is good for you.

I suggest you start taking walks, about 15 minutes to one hour walks a day. It has major health benefits like relieving stress, building muscle tone, stretching your muscle and joints and keep them from getting stiff. Walking also helps you to keep your weight down and releases endorphins in your body to give you a feel good feeling. A big benefit in walking is that it keeps depression at bay, if you are a person that struggle with depression.

Drink lots of water and eat nutritious food. Monitor what you allow to enter into your environment and your mind, like negative words and gossiping. Declare your body and environment a gossip free zone. Get in the habit of looking at yourself in the mirror and speaking right and excellent words to yourself and over yourself. Bless others presence by speaking nothing but encouraging and positive words to them.
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Practicing fasting because it has great health benefits and can heal the body and deliver you from strange and strong addictions. Jesus made it a habit to fast while living on earth. Fasting also bring clarity and answers when you need help with a situation in your life. Holding on to unnecessary clutter in the mind as well as in your environment just take up wasted space and time.
You could be spending time on things that really matters like building your dream or formulating a plan for your purpose. Decluttering help, you get organized and letting go of mental clutter helps you to focus!
 The Bible talks about the correct way to fast. It is found in Isaiah 58.

I personally was delivered from a spirit of miscarriage while on a 40 day fast. On that fast, I gave up eating meats and changed the way I was speaking over myself. I began to confess healing scriptures over my body. You can read about my whole testimony in a book I wrote Dare to Dream Big!. You can purchase the book on amazon.com or on my website at http://www.noboundariesbtc.com.

I know it’s a lot but it is so worth the time and effort to live your life on purpose and enjoy a life full of breakthrough peace, luxury, and abundance.

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You Are Enough Just The Way You Are!

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We are now entering into a new year, many new goals and new year resolutions has been written on paper and voiced in the atmosphere. It’s only one day from the old calendar year, to entering into a new year, only 24 hours between the goals and new resolutions that you have set for yourself.

There is something freeing about a new year, even though it is just another day from the past year, in 24 hours our calendar date changes only one digit from the previous year.

We hit the reset button in our minds to start a fresh. We have something new to look forward to in the hopes of accomplishing a better life than the one we had lived a day before.

So what are we actually after? What do we really want at the core of our being? Why do we take the time to make new contracts with ourselves?

I believe what we really want is to feel fulfilled, successful, accomplished, happy, like our life have meaning, beautiful, significant, validated, rich, confident, secure, in control of our circumstances, loved, valuable, acknowledge and important.

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What if I told you that you are already all of those things just the way you are. Who told you that you had to have all those things? Who told you that you are not good enough without them? Who brought discontentment into your life? Who sold you a bill of goods that if you are not accomplishing these thing then you do not measure up in the world’s society.

Who told you to compare yourself?  Who told you that you can not enjoy your life just being? Who told you that you had to be doing?

I want you to stop and breathe, release out a big sigh, embrace the space that you have been given right where are. Feel your presence, look at your body parts, you are alive! Now I want you to detach from all of the false expectation that was put on you from every environment that you came from.

You do not have to be anything because you are everything! You are the air that you breathe, you are the space that you fill up, you are immensely provide for, you were sent here with every provision to fulfill your destiny, you are light, you are salt, feel your own greatness. Embrace your own success, you are already successful, you are already beautiful, you are already enough, you are already lovely, feel your own presence, breathe your own air.

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Magnificently designed, already loved, you have everything  you need inside of you. You were already sent to planet earth with a plan. It is built inside of you. You are wired for it, God already made provision for you showing up. You have been created with the best energy source, atoms and protons right down to the cellular level.

Your expression is so uniquely designed and was made to communicate with your extraordinary maker. Only He can download into your being what and who you were created to become. But you first have to acknowledge his presence.

Open up your mouth and admit to Him how you have searched your entire life trying to make since of your life. Admit to him that this is to much to measure up to, and to keep up with, what the world defines as success. Admit to him that it is exhausting becoming somebody. Admit to him that you are scared of missing the mark. Admit to Him that you think you are not beautiful enough, smart enough, and that it is a lot to juggle. Admit to him that you are afraid of living your whole life and not truly feeling fulfilled. Admit to him that you do not have all the answers in all of your reasoning. Admit to him that you are just afraid.

Tell Him that you need his wisdom and knowledge on the truth of your created being. Tell him you need Him to show you what love looks like. Tell him to show you how you are really supposed to be loved and ask him how to really love yourself. Ask him to lift up a standard against anyone or anything that wants you to feel worthless, powerless, guilty and like you are not enough. Ask him to reveal truth to your heart and mind. Ask him to give you the courage to walk in your own truth when he shows you to it.

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Know that the core of your design was never measured in doing but only in becoming, When you become all that God created you to become than the doing flows naturally. Trust the natural order of the Universe. God said, “all things are working together for your good.”

When you have found yourself with any negative emotions, dig a little deeper you are doing and not becoming, you are not trusting the God that designed you. But you have placed your trust in your own confidence and what it looks like around you.

I need you to remember there is a natural order, and a natural flow to your life. Your were created to live in trust, not in the world but in God because He is working all things out for your good!

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Design Your Life: With Thought, Care and Wisdom

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With where your life is right now, if you were given a white piece of paper and was told that you could create your life just by imagining it and writing it down on paper, what would you write? If you had no limits and you could get exactly what you want, what would your life look like?

I would advise you to think long and hard about how you would create your life. I would tell you to pay attention to all of the details and responsibilities that comes with having what your heart desires. I would advise you to think about your intentions and why you are asking for some of the things that you want to come into your life.

When your life is so wonderfully crafted it is done with thought, care and wisdom! This reminds me of King Solomon that the Bible speak about. I want to share this passage of scriptures with you.

2 Chronicles 1:7-12

Solomon went up to the bronze altar before the Lord in the tent of meeting and offered a thousand burnt offerings on it.

That night God appeared to Solomon and said to him, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.”

Solomon answered God, “You have shown great kindness to David my father and have made me king in his place. Now, Lord God, let your promise to my father David be confirmed, for you have made me king over a people who are as numerous as the dust of the earth. Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people, for who is able to govern this great people of yours?”

God said to Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”

When God presented this declaration to Solomon, I believe Solomon told God what he wanted out of his greatest need at that time. Solomon realized the responsibility he was given and perhaps it was very overwhelming for him. I would even say that Solomon probably felt inadequate. After all, Solomon was king over a people who were as numerous as the dust of the earth. Solomon said to God, who is able to govern this great people of yours.

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Instead of Solomon asking God for wealth and riches, vengeance  against his enemies and to let this cup pass to someone else, he decided to ask God for the wisdom and knowledge to handle it all.

I believe Solomon watched his dad when he was king, he probably was saying to himself, how is my father able to handle all of this responsibility, it is to much to bare. Solomon saw his father go to God in prayer continually and I bet his father made being in the kingship position effortless. King Solomon probably saw a lot of mistake his father made as well. Solomon gave much thought, care and wisdom to the opportunity that God presented him with. I can ask for whatever I want, and I can have it!

Solomon just asked for what he knew he needed. He asked for what would answer everything for him, something he felt like he was lacking greatly! Wisdom and knowledge to led God’s people. See Solomon was around wealth all of his life. After all, he was the son of a king. When ever the king asked for something it was given to him.

I believe we should ask for the greatest need. The thing that would solve it all for us! What are you lacking? What is it that have you feeling so inadequate? What is it that make you feel like you are not good enough? What do you need that would make you feel most successful in your life? That has to be pondered over with much thoughtfulness, care and wisdom.

In return for Solomon asking for what he really needed, which was wisdom and knowledge to led God’s people, God told Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”

Now let me ask you this question again.

With where your life is right now, if you were given a white piece of paper and was told that you could create your life just by imagining it and writing it down on paper.

What would you write? If you had no limits and you could get exactly what you want, what would your life look like?

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5 Things You Should Do When You feel Like Everything Is Falling Apart!

 “5 Things You Should Do When You Feel Like Everything Is Falling Apart.”

What things are consuming your thoughts? What are you so concerned about? Well Guess what? My God cares about it as well, you need answers and He is here to give them to you. I hear people saying God don’t speak to me. God speaks all the time but are you ready to listen to who God uses and what he uses to get the answers to you.

I woke up to this message, I learned to stop questioning myself and learn to trust the voice that is speaking. After all, I am just a vessel that has allowed the Heavenly Father to speak through me, rather the message is for me or for you, I am going to capture the conversation.

So what was God revealing to me upon waking up this morning?

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1. When your world is changing around you, stay connected to God.

There is a tendency to disconnect from God and try to figure things out on our own. The urgency of the matter will try and get us to move to fast and react now. Sometimes out of haste we make the wrong move, and out of desperation we jump the gun to fast.

Seasons change, businesses change, locations change, your kids are changing, your marriage is changing, the way our world works is changing, your vision has changed and if we are not careful or in tune to what is going on around us, we would be wondering to ourselves what is going on, I never had to work so hard at trying to keep this thing going. It was once prosperous, we use to be so connected to each other, what happen to my babies, they use to tell me everything, I never had to work this hard to keep this business afloat.

We have to keep up with the times, our world is evolving. What was detestable to wear in public years ago, is now the new normal. Temptation is different now, unlike David in the Bible who stumble upon temptation when he saw Bathsheba taking a shower, now temptation comes to your front door and right in your face.

Social Media is the new game changer, and if you are in any kind of business, it is advantageous that you have some kind of on going social media presence. I know we want things to stay the same, but everything is changing. The way we relate to our kids have changed, you got to be the parent that is in the know, it is all kinds of influences that are effecting the way our kids are behaving. They speak in codes and ebonics, and the messages are hidden in the codes. Parents, we must be able to recognize the new language amongst our kids, so we can understand what our children are into.

The way you’ve done business has changed, your old tactics is not working anymore, it is time for you to find out where your customers are and what do they need from you. You should be contemplating on how you can better serve your customers? How can you make your customer feel important, and what will set you apart from all of the rest.

We are in the age of information, where you practically can do everything from the comfort of your own home. You can shop online, pay your bills on line and even go to church on line.

Churches are making it easy for people to connect with them and fellowship with their congregation, even if you live in a different state, town or city. You can connect with them and be in the same service with them via live streaming.

So why should your customers leave the comfort of their own home to patronize you, when there are so many options available to them. What experience would you give them to make it worth their while? I know some of the topics I am talking about sounds ridiculous, but while you are trying to figure it out, the world is changing.

I remember my husband and I went into this movie theater where we live. This movie theater use to be real popular. It was located in a high price neighborhood, so we just assumed that it is going to be a more mature crowd, but when my husband and I sat down, we realized that we were sitting amongst a new generation of young people and for once in my life, I felt like I was stuck in time. Everything about these young people were different, the way they looked, their mannerism was different, the way they spoke and the way they dressed were different. We did not fit in at all, my husband and I agreed that this was going to be the last time we visit that movie theater. One day we drove pass the movie theater, and they were upgrading it and made it into a upscale movie theater. We have been back several times since the new grand opening. Their clientele has changed. Now young and mature come there to watch movies..

How are you going to stay current when everything around you is changing? I know you use to score big with the old system but now it is not working with the new vision. Your hustle has to be different. You are going to have to find new ways of doing thing.

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2. Embrace the change that is around you. 

How can you embrace change when it seems like things are falling apart around you. When you feel like you are falling apart inside. You do not have to accept the change around you but you are going to have to embrace it. Because whether the Bible agrees with it or not and whether you agree with it or not, it is changing or it has changed. The sooner you embrace it (I am not saying agree with sin) and find new ways of dealing with it, then you can find a solution that will make it work for the good of all that is involved.

Sometimes we just do not want to accept the way things are and we do not have to. But if you and I embrace the fact that it is what it is, then we can let go of the attachment that we placed on ourselves, that it is our job to fix it or fix someone. When we let go of all of the judgement, let go of trying to hold it all together, let go of the pride, let go of us trying to play God.

If we can let go and let God judge the situation, and we just learn to love and trust that what ever happens in this situation will work out for our highest good because we have surrendered and gave it to God, then God can step in and show us what needs to be done next.

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3. Stay calm.

I think the mind goes into over drive trying to find solutions to why our world has changed and trying to find the pieces to put it all back together like it once was. You can really work yourself up into panic mode if you are not careful with your thoughts. I know it feels like you are not doing nothing to solve the problem if you just sit and be quiet. But being still is probably what you need to do so you can hear God speaking to you.

When you feel anxious, and like anxiety is trying to rise up on the inside of you, go into your quiet place and breathe. What is happening to you is that your thoughts are out of control. You have to bring your thoughts back into captivity. You do that by calming the mind through meditation and reading the scriptures. Psalm 37:25  says, I have been young, and now I am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. If God said it, you better believe he is a man of his word!

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4. Pray

Now that you have cleared the cutter in your mind, fill it up with talking to God about it. He is the only one who can show you what you need to do. Prayer changes things. Cry your heart out to God, be honest with him, real honest because it says in Psalms 66:18 – If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear [me]:. He knows everything about you anyway.

You are in a temporary season, make sure that you forgive anybody that have hurt you, betrayed you, offended you or abandoned you. Clear your heart of any anger, bitterness, malice and strife. In order for you to move forward and get your prayers answered,  you have to have a clean heart before God. God cannot forgive you until you have forgiven others. Matthew 5:14-15 For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours.

Ask God questions, any questions you need answered. Let God know your fears and your struggles. Ask him for help! The Bible says in Psalm 46:1 (KJV) God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. I have included a link to scriptures that tells you that God will answer your prayers. Meditate on those scriptures. God wants to help you reestablish your relationships, your business, your finances, your self-esteem and anything else you need establishing. Being thankful and grateful goes along way, in fact God says, Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

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5. Strategize!

Ask God to show you your dream team? And surround  yourself with others who can help you get to the next level. If you are the only knowledgeable one in the room and everyone is listening to you, then who are you listening to. This is new territory for you. You have to swallow your pride and ask for help! Right now you are losing battleground. You have to get around people who defeated Goliath already. You need to loose your girlfriends who are not married and are trying to tell you how to leave your husband. You need to get around some seasoned woman who got down in the trenches and fought to keep the other woman from stealing her husband. You need to find your Naomi! You need to find your real prayer warriors! Ask God whose heart you can trust. Just because people around appear to be faithful doesn’t mean they are.

I love listening to Oprah tell her story about when she brought her own network. She said, this was new territory for her. Oprah was use to people showing up for her on her syndicated network. After 25 years of successful television, Oprah decided that she would start her own network. She just assumed with so many followers and loyal fans, they would  just follow her to her own network. She said what she didn’t realize is, everybody did not have cable and everybody wasn’t getting cable just to watch her. Oprah stated that in that season of her life, she was just getting back what she was feeling about herself on the inside. Which was shame, fear, she didn’t know what she was doing and feeling like she was failing. People were saying all kinds of cruel things about her and putting out negative energy about how her network was doing bad and how she is not going to make it, but in order for her  Oprah to change her current situation she had to change her inner dialogue.

The moment she started to change the story she was telling herself, in that moment she could find a solution to save her network. She had to shut down from listening to the naysayers both outwardly and inwardly. She had to get a different strategy. She had to ask for help. This was a very humbling experience for Oprah. She spoke on platforms I know she didn’t want to speak on. She partner with people that she didn’t think she would ever partner with. She use the power of youtube and the internet so people could continue to connect with her without paying for cable. She went on a Life Class Tour, she did things that she did not want to do, but she had to make up her mind that she was going to sink or swim. She chose to swim. I am sure Oprah felt vulnerable. She was use to people fighting to get on her show, now she was having to ask people to buy into her network. Oprah became a game changer and so can you. You have to get a plan in place and see it through. It might be uncomfortable but you can do it! Don’t give up! Fight for your life, family and your destiny!

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Who Is Influencing Your Children?

This post is to mothers who are teaching and educating their children at home. Mom even if your child goes to a private or public school you can still benefit from this article. I am not anti-school, my kids went to awesome Christian Schools! And as soon as my son is potty trained, I am sending him to one of the best learning centers in Saint Louis, Mo. Transformation Christian School.

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I am in a position in my life where I am able to teach my children at home. I realize this is a privilege most moms do not get to experience but wish they could. I also know, not all moms desire to teach their children at home and that is ok, do whatever works best for your family.

I want you to know that I highly respect teachers, I take my hat off to teachers, I am still trying to figure out how they are able to manage all those beautiful personalities, attitudes and the workload that comes with teaching and managing their own classroom.. I have 4 children at home and though it is rewarding to see your children blossom right before your eyes, it has a reality side to it as well. I really think teachers should get paid a salary equivalent to the salary of a doctor. I just want to take the time to thank all the teachers for your acts of service to our children. I which there was away that we as parents can make it more easier for you to teach our childern.

When I decided to teach my children at home, I had questions in my thoughts like every mother has when she is about to embark on a journey called the unknown. I had questions, doubts and fears but inside of my heart I believe this is what I was suppose to be doing. Yes I knew it would be a big sacrifice and a huge responsibility because I would be responsible for them getting everything they needed to succeed. But I knew I was not alone, and if God was leading me in this direction, then he would provide me with everything I needed to get the job done.

With any responsibility the first question we asks ourselves is, are we qualified to handle the task that is set before us? Are we willing to handle the task that is set before us? Will we be successful in handling the task that is set before us and last, am I suppose to handle this task that is set before me or is this something I just took on myself, a new experiment I want to try or God is this you really leading me to take on this task?

You and I are getting ready to explore what we really agreed to take on. Our reasons for teaching our children at home may be different, but we share the same journey. Moms just because you are sending  your children to learn in a classroom setting, doesn’t mean you get to escape your responsibility of teaching your children at home.

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Can we just say all parents are teachers? Some has professional degrees and the rest of us was born with the natural ability to teach our children. God has given us an innate ability to lead and guide our children. Who is better able to love, nourish, teach and care for our children more than we are? Who has the instinctual and intuitive ability to know exactly what our children needs more than we do?

I am aware that not all moms are walking in this awareness and are labeled as bad mothers, but today I want to focus on the moms who are aware of their influence as a mother. Regardless of how you became a mother this article is for you.

There will be days when you don’t feel like you have walked in your full potential as a mom, on those days give yourself lots of grace. Do what ever you have to do to restore your relationship with your children. Our children are so precious and they desire fellowship with us. It is our job as parents, to teach our children about the ways of God and to bring them into true fellowship with the Lord Jesus Christ. I have listed some scriptures letting us know that teaching starts with the parents.

Isaiah 28:9-10 ESV “To whom will he teach knowledge, and to whom will he explain the message? Those who are weaned from the milk, those taken from the breast? For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept, line upon line, line upon line, here a little, there a little.

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 “These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. “You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. “You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. 
“You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Genesis 18:19 ESV For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”

There are so many voices that are in the world today, who voice will you teach your children to listen to. I will tell you who voices they should be listening to. God’s and Your voice. You have an obligation to teach your children to listen to the right voice. If you do not teach your children someone or something will be teaching them. The book of proverbs tells a son to listen to their father’s and mother’s instructions.

Proverbs 1-8:9 Hear, my son, your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching;  Indeed, they are a graceful wreath to your head and ornaments about your neck.

If we are going to teach our kids the ways of the Lord, then we must become a student of God’s word, so that we will have the knowledge to teach our children the ways of righteousness, holiness and truth.

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I think we are not aware of just how much time we are allowing others and things to teach our children. Sometimes we are just to overwhelm and tired to do it ourselves. So lets do the math of how much time we really have to teach our children the ways of the Lord. Lets explore how much time we really have every week to teach our children. There are 168 hours in a week.

*We rely on our churches to teach our children the ways of the Lord 2 days a week for about 2 hours. 4 hours a week

*We use our schools systems to teach them and educate them about 7 hours a day, 5 days a week. 35 hours

*Our children have to go to sleep. If they go to bed by 8pm and wake up by 7am, that is 11 hours. 77 hours a week.

*We are left with 52 hours a week teaching our children about the ways of the Lord. Now that is not including doing homework which can take up most of the evening depending on how many kids you have. Lets allot 1 hour for homework per day, for 6 days. 6 hours of homework time. We are down to 46 hours a week.

*If your children have after school activities like sports or lessons we will allot 4 hours a week for extra curricular activities. Leaving us with 42 hours a week to teach our children.

*I forgot to add daily cleaning and chores, like cooking, cleaning and making sure our family have fresh clothes, bath time, and all the other things that comes with running a household and extra commitments outside of the home. I will give 2 hours a day, 14 hours a week to that. Leaving us with 28 hours a week. That is only a 1 day and 4 hours a week, we have to really teach our children.

Moms who have to work outside the home and still have to come home and take care of her responsibilities at home, grace and grace and more grace to you. I have walked in your same shoes, I know how overwhelming it could be at times. With that kind of work load and schedule we are to tired to teach anybody anything. When we get home we just want to relax and fill ourselves up so we can constantly give to everybody else. I know everyone can’t afford a Christian education but thank God for the families who can afford it, at least our children are hearing about the love of God and his teaching while they are being educated.

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This is not to make moms feel guilty but to shed light on who is actually raising our children. Public education are teaching our kids things that were never taught to us as kids when we were in school. There are things being taught in some of our children schools that are in direct opposition of what the word of God teaches.

So If you have decided to teach and educate your children at home, do not allow the pressure of everyone saying your kids are missing out on the social aspect of their lives. Homeschool groups are on the rise in almost every state where homeschooling is allowed. Your children have their church community if you are part of a body of believers. Your community and the state that you live in probably host homeschool events, just look it up on the internet.

But family is where real community starts. When have we gotten to the point where the family is not enough for us. Our neighborhood community activities is not enough for us. The events around our city is not enough for us. You can meet and fellowship with others around you in your own community.

Mom, you are well qualified to teach your children at home if you can, and if this is what you desire to do. God gave you everything you need to educate you children and led your children in the way of righteousness. Your child is an individual, they are unique and each child learns differently. You as a mom knows that. Sometimes others want to label your children because they are not keeping up with the learning style that is set for them by a decided on curriculum, but do not allow anyone to speak negatively about your children.

You speak the word of the Lord over your godly heritage. Some of our greatest leader that have lead this country were homeschooled. Most of our greatest olympic champions had to be homeschooled to develop their greatness. They have programs available to help you to teach your children at home and all you have to do is oversee their learning. I want moms to be encouraged that you have made the right decision in teaching your children at home.

Coach Angie!

http://www.noboundariesbtc.com

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Find Your Purpose and Allow Nothing to Stop You From Living it!

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You are God’s handy work created for good works. Go ahead and make your mark on the world. Your purpose is defined in the things that you are gifted in, passionate about and what you can go for hours doing without getting tired, it fuels you. Your purpose can also be in the things that you have righteous anger towards. A cause you will stand up and fight for. Your purpose can also be in the struggles and in the things you had to overcome, now you want to show others how thy can overcome it as well.

What skills and abilities others compliment you on the most? That can also be a key indicator to your purpose. You really need to enjoy what you are doing at least 95 percent of the time you are doing it. I say 5 percent is putting in the leg work to see your purpose and dreams fulfilled. Yes, I think part of pursuing your purpose is going to require some discomfort. You will probably have to learn new skills to see your dreams and purpose come to pass.

I never liked grammar when I was in high school. In fact, I was a D student when it came to learning the english language. I never understood the rules. But God called me to be a writer, author and a life coach which is a teacher. If I would have known God would use me to write books, blog posts and coaching programs, I would have paid more attention in my grammar class. I might have been a D student in high school but now I love learning the English language. I still break some rules when it comes to writing, but I will not allow it to stop or hinder me from fulfilling my calling in life. My calling is to partner with God to see his daughters get set free from bondages of all kinds and to receive real breakthroughs to a better life, a bigger dream and a balanced home.

Thank God for spell check, grammarly.com, Microsoft Word, Dictionary.com and others that are gifted and skilled at editing. These tools are an asset to me fulfilling my purpose. God can send you what you need to fulfill your purpose. Never allow lack of money, lack of skills and lack of knowledge, stop you from walking into a greater and better future for yourself. Do not allow your age to stop you either. You are never to old to learn. If fact, if you want to live a full vibrant life, you have to become a life long learner. Do not allow social media and internet to intimidate you. You just use them for the good.

 

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New information is consistently being updated to the internet, and the latest information  might be the information you need to know to fulfilling your purpose. If your purpose do not require you to have a degree, you can teach yourself a lot of things just by going on the internet, to the library and watching youtube videos.

If you are an empty nester or a single lady without children, now is the time to really find out what God has called you to do in this season of your life. You have nothing but time on your hands. The world is at your finger tips. Your best days are still ahead of you. God wants you to fall in love with his word(Bible) so you can get instruction on the next phase of your life!

This is not a time for you fold your hands and feel depressed and lonely. Fall back in love with living, fall back in love with your husband if you are married empty nester. Fall back in love with making an impact on the people God has called you to help with your wealth of knowledge. Now is the time to really live passionately, doing the things you absolutely enjoy doing. Clear your heart of all bitterness, unforgiveness and inner turmoil. Make your mark on the world, leave your imprint for God. Allow yourself to be a vessel to be used of him.

You were created to bring forth Gods glory, get into God’s presence by playing lovely praise music  and when you are in his presence, ask God to show you what is your next move. Ask God to show you how can you help others. Ask God to show how you can create a financially rewarding income doing what you are absolutely passion about. Your purpose can entail 1 to 4 things He shows you, and when He shows it to you, act on it. Urban praise and worship. I have included 2 different kinds of praise music you can listen to. Pick the one you like and get into God’s  presence. Ask God questions that will take you into the next season of your life.

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The Power of Influence in Your Home!

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As a mother and wife of 5 beautiful children and one granddaughter, I am aware of the power of influence that my presence have in both my home and my marriage. But in this post, I want to focus on my influence as a mom.

My awareness has grown ever so deeply as I watched my 5 kids mimic me in our everyday interaction. My husband often tells me, “they get that from you”and I can not deny it as I hear them speak, they sound just like me. I want you to know, I have days when I am not always displaying Christ like behavior.

We are not talking about using foul speech and deliberately acting out of character but there are days when I loose my patience and my voice get elevated. Ok y’all, lets be real, when I yell. My kids are taking in everything I display in front of them. I should know better right! This is not an excuse for my behavior because I am past the age of accountability and I fully take responsibility for my own actions, but I am doing what was past down generationally. That’s right my mother yelled and all of my sisters have yelled in the heat of the moment. But that is no excuse for me.

I notice when I am feeling overwhelmed or out of control, I use my elevated voice to be heard. I constantly ask myself what am I teaching my children by displaying such emotions. I am constantly in prayer about this character flaw because I do know it is influencing my environment and not for the positive.

 There are 2 scriptures that I mediate on to help me keep my emotions in check . Those 2 scriptures are Proverbs 14:29 People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness and Proverbs 22:24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered.

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You guys, my kids ages are 2, 4, 5, 10 and 26. My granddaughter is 7. It is a never dull moment at my house, we are a loud family. I have 6 girls and 1 boy in my environment and there are a lot of emotions and personalities going on. I love my kids so much and wants nothing but the best for them. My husband says, I am too hard on myself.

Moms, I do think we are to hard on ourselves. We are the incubator in our environment. Not to discredit our husbands, but I believe we are way more emotionally invested in the care, support, love and protection for our kids emotional wellbeing. But I do know God can give them much more love and protection than I can. So when I mess up, I also influence them by going to them and sincerely apologizing and asking them to forgive mommy.

My goal is to make sure I keep a peaceful and fun environment for my kids to feel loved and thrive. I intentionally work on keeping my environment at home very positive. My kids ears are sensitive to wrong words spoken in their environment and they will tell you it a minute, do not speak those kinds of words to me and over me. I guess I have influenced them to speak nothing into the atmosphere that they do not want to see come in. Although I know I am not perfect, I do have a high standards for myself when it comes to giving my family the best love and care that is within my power.

I am aware that my kids are watching me because they remind me often by saying, “Mommy you did that or you said that.” Scriptures tell me and my husband that our children are a gift from the Lord and they are a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior so is children of the youth. I don’t know about you, but I have a great obligation to both God and my children. He blessed me with these wonderful blessing and just like the mighty skilled warrior, I can shoot my arrows by making sure I follow Gods instruction on how to raise them and aim them in the direction of their bullseye. Just know  that what ever we choose to speak in our environments and over our children are forming their characters and shaping their future. As an influencer, and their mom, it is my responsibility to make sure I keep them in an environment that is biblical sound, healthy, loving, stable, positive and forgiving. What I am realizing is, it is not so much what we teach them that matters, but what I actually live out and do in front of them that has the most impact!

It is not always whats being taught but what is being caught!

Coach Angie!

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