How I Declutter My Home For The New Year!

table-white-home-interior (1)I like to declutter my environment at least 4 times a year. I like to declutter around the changing of the seasons. I will declutter a week before or after the new year, in the spring time, summer time, and in the fall. I believe every season brings new changes and new revelations.

I love reflecting over my life and my goals in each season. I am always listening inwardly to hear if the Holy Spirit wants to reveal important information to me. I also love changing out my fashion style with what I call, “my colors for the season.” I will write another blog post about how I invested in a fashion and style coach, “The Brown Closet” but for now, click the link to pay The Brown Closet a visit.

There is something about the New Year that makes me want to hit the reset button and start all over again. I love having systems in place in my home and decluttering is one of the systems I use to keep things organized. It always make me feel like I have a new start.pexels-photo-110215This year thou, I feel different. I don’t know how to explain it but it feels like a major shift has taken place in my heart. My New Year’s theme is a “New Year, a New You.” A part of that is really being intentional about changing some bad habits I had in 2017. Like being on time to scheduled appointments. I have 5 people that I am responsible for. I have to make sure they have what they need before we walk out of the door and I did not include myself in that number. I used this as an excuse to not be on time to places. But this year, I am going to intentionally put a plan in place to help me get to places on time. I will give myself lots of grace if things comes up that are out of my control.

This year I am decluttering my schedule, my time and my focus so that I will have breakthrough success. When I do my seasonal decluttering, I have items on my list that can never take a back seat to be decluttered, because if these things are not monitored, they can get out of control. These items are papers, clothes, shoes, toys and homeschool materials. Some people never get rid of things in their environment and it just accumulates.

I have 4 children all under the age of 12, it is challenging to keep things organized. My household includes 6 people. That is six people with things, stuff and items living in one environment. Imagine with me for a moment, if I never got rid of things from the time I got married and gave birth to my children, up until date, that would be 17 years of accumulation in a 1240 square foot of living space. The results would be stifling!books-1617327_1920I use to have 3 bookshelves but now I have just one. I got rid of the other ones because I want to live a more simpler and intentional lifestyle. The less you have in your environment, the less you have to clean and maintain the upkeep of it all. The less you have in your environment, the bigger your space feels.

I can only read one book at a time. I realize when I am done reading a book, I rarely go back to read it again. If I want a book, I can just check it out at my local library. The same goes for my children.

Unless you have someone that comes in and clean your home, what I found out is that, moms are always trying to stay on top of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, schedules and trying to keep things orderly. A lot of times we moms get frustrated and overwhelmed because we are trying to maintain the upkeep of the things we are constantly bringing in our homes for our families. It is exhausting to keep cleaning up the same old things you’ve just cleaned up 2 hours ago.

When I get disorganized, the things I instantly want to tackle are the dishes, paper/trash, clothes, shoes, toys, laundry and homeschool materials. I have to constantly stay on top of those items.blue-glass-flower-decoration (1)When I tackle my seasonal decluttering, I make sure to get every single detail. I clean out every cabinet, every closet, I get rid of any clothes that have stains, rips and are too small. I get rid of furniture that is broken and is not working for the space. I get rid of any appliances that are broken and dishes that are chipped. I get rid of shoes that are to little and worn out. I declutter homeschool material and papers, I clean out every drawer, I declutter linen, I get rid of toys that my children have lost interest in and are broken. I declutter medicine, I declutter food that is in the cabinets and refrigerator that have expired. I declutter books and I wipe down and clean everything; walls, doors, ceiling fans, light fixtures, carpet, furniture and floors.

I use to have a beautiful glass coffee and end table, glass vases, and the pretty decorative balls that sit on the coffee table but when I started having kids it was too much work to monitor it all and keep the glass mark free. I had to redefine my style of decor because the season had changed in my life. I remember trying to hold on to those glass tables because thy were one of a kind and we paid a lot of money for them, but my husband was adamant about letting them go after one of my children bumped their face on the glass. Those items were not working for us anymore.

Sometimes we try to hold on to seasons that have come and is now gone and God wants to do something new with our lives. If we are too attached to things and if our identity is wrapped up in them, we can become stuck in a formal season.

I would love to hear about ways you keep your life decluttered. Leave a comment. Follow me on social media by clicking the links down below. To follow me on Instagram click here.

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She Still Got It! It Has Always Been There!

She is still in there, that same woman who use to laugh until she cried, shopped until she dropped and use to have a lot of fun during the things that brought her joy.

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Like, dancing and singing and visiting the local boutiques. Designing and decorating, and going to the coffee house and having a cup of coffee or tea. Spending all day at the bookstores and checking out the latest must reads, magazines and journals. Hanging out with her friends and catching up on the latest, whats going on in everyone’s life. Finding new recipes and trying them out and having potlucks so everyone can try each other dishes and just enjoying life! She is still there.

She just got buried, under all the responsibilities she had on her plate. She just got buried, with cares of her life. She just got buried, under the negative chatter that fed her thoughts with lies, telling her that she had lost it, her beauty, her charm, her charisma and the romance, connection, communication and the attention in her marriage.

She just got buried, under her superwoman exterior that she puts on everyday. She just got buried, under hormonal imbalance. She just got buried, under her emotional eating to numb the pain of her dreams laying dormant inside her, she just got buried, under going to the same unfulfilling job that she goes to everyday. She just got buried, under the same old routine that does not have spontaneity in it. She just got buried, under giving to everybody else and not giving back to herself.

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She just got buried, with the grief of a loved one passing, she just got buried, under living with a sickness or disease in her body. She just got buried, under going through a divorce. She just got buried, under living with loneliness, envy, bitterness, unforgiveness and rejection.

She just got buried, under being a wife, mom, a daughter, a teacher, a caretaker, a boss, a sister, a friend, a leader and an influencer. She just got buried.

BUT SHE IS STILL IN THERE! 

She is still vibrant, and alive. She still have that twinkle in her step and a sparkle in her eyes. She is still just as attractive, sexy, alluring and confident as she was when she was in her 20s’ and 30s’. She still have that same laugh on the inside of her, that when she laughed so hard, her belly tighten and tears rolled down her face.

Give her a reason to have joy again. Give her permission to live again. Take your mind back from anyone and anything that is making you feel like you can’t breathe. Make yourself first priority! Invest in you again. Love on you again! Stop those sabotaging thoughts that you take on everyday and give them back to the devil! No more having self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself.

Girl, you have got to get up and live again. You stopped caring about what makes you truly happy! Pick back up those things that once brought you joy! Take care of yourself.

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Start with a simply spa treatment, in your own bath tub. Buy you a big luxury bar of moisturizing body soap, and click this link to get a spa treatment formula.

Schedule your life and include you as top priority, right under spending time with God. Write out a list of all the things you love doing and include those things in your schedule. I hear you saying, I don’t have enough time to do that. That is why you are creating  a schedule for yourself, because you get to choose what you want to do and how you want your day to go.

Yes, schedule your responsibilities in your schedule as well, but if something comes up that conflicts with your me time, say no to it. In fact, I want you to cut the phone off when you are doing something for yourself. You are in an important meeting and will not be able to answer the phone. Let your family know that you have decided to start taking care of yourself properly and you would not be available to answer the phone until you are done with your appointment. They would love you more for taking care of yourself, because they will have a new happier healthy woman in their life.

In your time spent with God, pour your heart out to him, If you do not journal, now is a good time to start journaling because you are going to have different emotions that are going to be surfacing and you are going to need to talk to God about these different emotions and you are going to have to be honest with yourself.

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In prayer with God and writing in your journal is a good place to pour your heart out to him. You are getting clear about what is causing you discontentment. Admit it to God and yourself. Admit everything to him. Do not hold back. Sometimes we as women feel guilty that we are feeling a certain way about a situation and we never deal with what is causing us to feel this way because we think it is wrong to be having such strong emotions but God already knows how you feel, so do not try to hide it from him, and do not try to hide the emotions from yourself.

Another thing I would like for you to do is, after you have explored what is causing you stress, unhappiness, lost of joy, not feeling alive in your life and discontentment, I want you to answer these questions, what do I need to do to feel better about this situation? What do I really want? How do I really want to feel? When the answers come to you, work towards implementing the answers you receive right away!

I want you to start back reading books on the areas in your life that you want to improve in, for example, if you want to start back looking and dressing fashionable, go on Pinterest.com and look at pictures of fashion that ladies your age are wearing. You can go to your local book store and buy fashion magazines or go to the library and check out fashion book and magazines. You can also go on Youtube.com and type in the search button the topic your are interested in.

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You can do this with any area of your life you want to improve in, I would advise you first go to the Bible and see what Gods word says about the subject and then look at other sources that is Biblically sound. You can do this to improve your communication, sex life, attractiveness and connection with your husband. You can read books about marriage, how to forgive, your appearance, how to put yourself first so you can be alive to take care of others around you, healthy eating and natural things you can do to cure certain diseases, pray and fasting, working out ect.

The goal here is for you to get your sparkle back and for you to truly feel alive in your life. I wrote a book that I know will truly motivate you and encourage you to find your sparkle and shine again! You will truly be encouraged to find your joy and truly live again! It is called “25 Attitudes You Must Have for a Breakthrough” it is only 14.97 and you can have access to it the moment you purchase it! It is a digital download. You can start right away feeling back in control of your life. That is less than 15.00 to change your life forever.

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`How To Wear Your Happiness Like A Crown!

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Ladies you are allowing people, things and circumstances to steal your joy. It is my greatest desire to see women happy, whole and living a beautiful life while receiving their breakthroughs.

Happiness is always a choice. But some ladies are dealing with strongholds that is keeping true happiness from shining through. The Bible say the joy of the Lord is your strength and you need your strength to take care of yourself, your family and your purpose! Your strength is what keeps you going.

One of my intentions that I’ve set for my for myself is to keep my joy no matter what! I actually wrote an article about it titled Living An Intentional Life In Your Heart! 

I think you and I need to find out what it means to be truly happy, so let’s look up the definition of happy and then we are going to delve into the Bible to see what God says about being happy, joyous and elated!

Dictionary.com defines happy as :

  1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing:
    (to be happy to see a person.)
  2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy:
    (a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.)
  3. favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky:
    (a happy, fruitful land.)

Some people happiness comes from seeing a certain person. Which also lets me know that they can lose their joy when they don;t see a certain person they are close to and they can loose their joy when they see a person because of offense in their heart towards that person. Acquiring things makes people happy as well, which tells me that your happiness can be altered if you do not acquire certain things in your life.

Some people happiness comes from being favored by fortune. Which tells me when you do not have wealth or money it could alter your state of happiness because it is based on you having the money and possessions.

Some people happiness comes from pleasure. They look for things that make them feel good. This too can alter your happiness because if no one is telling you how fabulous you are and how beautiful you are then you are not happy, or if you are not always doing something, you feel like your life is boring and unfulfilling.

But I love the 2nd definition of happiness. Some people are happy because of their frame of mind and happy mood.

Contentment and joy are not based on anything external and comes from within.

This is where God lives in your heart! This is the happiness that I intentionally strive to live everyday! This happiness is based on having a relationship with God and having a grateful heart.

This kind of happiness does not look outside of itself to be happy. It is not based on materials things, money, or other people. This kind of happiness is in God. It is where God lives.

Misery loves company but you be so happy that you don’t get an invitation!

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There will be situations in your life that wants to rob you of your joy but you have to fill yourself up everyday with doses of love, joy and peace. Wear your happy like a crown, so when misery sees you, it knows instantly you are not going to be the guest list.

Lets read what the Bible says about happiness!

Proverbs 15:13 ESV A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed. When you are not happy it crushes your spirit and it shows on your face. People can tell when you are having issue with your heart. You don’t genuinely look happy.

Proverbs 17:22 ESV A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Being happy is healing to your body and spirit. But a crushed spirit dries up the bones. That is why it is said that some diseases are brought on by unforgiveness and bitterness of the spirit.

I love what Ecclesiastes 3:12 ESV reads, it says, “I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live.” Look ladies, life is to grand to be living it in a unhappy and unfulfilled state. Solomon writes that he has done everything under the sun and he perceived after trying everything and doing everything, that there is nothing better than for a man to be happy and do good as long as they live.

Some woman unhappiness comes from trying to control someone else’s situation that has nothing to do with them. We inject ourselves in people lives trying to control others circumstances by over helping and giving to much. Ladies we have to allow grown people to be grown. You are loosing your happiness because they are choosing to do what works best for them and what thy want to be doing rather it is right for them or not, they are making their own choice, and because they are not choosing to do it your way, you are loosing your joy.

You can only control you and you alone. Take your happy back. Get your hands out of other peoples affairs.

Ladies this scripture tells us that we should be happy, joyous, elated content with our own responsibilities. Ecclesiastes 3:13 ESV reads,  “Also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil—this is God’s gift to man.”

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How do you do that? I get happy and grateful for the role I get to play in helping my husband fulfill his role as the leader, protector and provider in our home by serving him in what ever capacity I need to serve him in and the same thing goes for my children. The Bible says in Matthew 23:11 The greatest among you will be your servant. It is not the person that is getting served that is the greatest, but the one who gets to serve!  A different kingdom.

Now, do I need breaks sometimes? Yes I do! And do I need help sometimes? Yes I do! Is it always perfect, no it is not. But it is a privilege, that I get to serve my family. It is a privilege that I get to partner with God in helping his daughters get whole in every area of their life. I am so elated that God picked me to share in this awesome work. Their is nothing more satisfying than to see my family having what they need to be healthy physically, spiritually and emotionally!  There is nothing more satisfying than to serve the women and girls that I am called to.

Happiness is a mindset, you have to choose to be happy no matter what! You can find joy in your everyday routines. But first you have to stop complaining about it and find the good in everything in your life. Let go of the baggage, the attitude, the holding people hostage within your heart! Stop it, people are going to be people. People are not God. People are going to let you down. So get your faith out of people and put it in God. Get your head out of the air, you are not perfect, so why are you trying to make everybody else perfect. God forgives you when you mess up. Forgive others and move own. People will never be able to measure up to your standards because you can not measure up to your standards.

You are not doing yourself a favor by holding ought in your heart toward anyone and what is sad is that the person your are holding hostage don’t even have a clue! They are going on wearing their happy crown and living a life of joyous abundance and you are using all of your energy to excommunicate them out of your life mentally.

Half of the people that you are holding hostage never done a thing to you. You are holding them hostage because of what someone told you about them, that might not be true! There are always two sides to every story. It is time out for petty distractions. Your life is too precious to loose your joy over anyone.

Psalm 118:24 ESV This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. 

God wants you to wake up every single day, being glad that you get to enjoy his blessing and love on his people. You do not have time to waste on cattiness. There is a higher calling that is calling you to come up higher where Gods thoughts are and where Gods ways are. Listen to the happy song and get happy!

When you are filled with Gods joy, love and happiness he gives you peace and security. Check out these last 2 scriptures about having a happy heart. Psalm 16:9 ESV Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. Isaiah 55:12 ESV “For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.

 

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