15 Things Wives Can Do To Win The Heart Of Her Husband

couple-495273_1920Wives I am asking you to give me a chance and listen to God’s heart beat in this message. I understand a lot of marriages are lacking communication, connection and closeness. Some of this is due to not understanding the male and female love language, some of this has to due with a lack of understanding of our roles in a biblical marriage and some of it has to do with not recognizing intruders that have entered into the marriage covenant and some of it is due to not taking the time to talk and invest in having a great marriage.

This is such a sensitive subject to talk about because there are no two marriages alike.

I know there are always 2 sides to every story, but 2 wrongs do not make it right either. I am called to women, not men, so wives, I will be talking to you only. I will be encouraging you to play your role even if your husband is not playing his. I know how frustrating and exhausting this can be but you are asking for closeness, connection and to be cherished in your marriage, someone has to be willing to be uncomfortable to make your marriage like God has ordained it and really, God is asking that to be you. God said, your husband can be won over by your conduct. I will share the scripture with you before I end this blog post.pexels-photo-241328.jpegI am only talking to Christian women who believes in biblical marriage, trust me, I am not there yet but my aim and my goal is to live a Christ centered marriage and do it God’s way and not the worlds way. Like a fish out of water my flesh flip and flop sometimes as well.

Ladies before I get into this topic, my only goal is to partner with God to see the marriage covenant restored and to see wives feeling connected to her own husband.

I am only advocating healthy biblical submissiveness. I am not advocating a husband usurping his authority in a harmful abusive way.

I have an honest heartfelt confession, I am in love with my own husband, I am happy with my husband and I am happy in my marriage, even with that being said, we still need to address things that comes up in our marriage that needs to be discussed. One does not have a great marriage through avoidance, you have to talk about the issues that is on your heart. You can not hide things in your heart and expect to have a good marriage.

I am so grateful to have my husband in my life. God has blessed me with an amazing man. He is not perfect and guess what? Neither am I, but that does not take from the fact that he is amazing!14419664378_a95c1284ff_o.jpgAnd it is not because he makes me happy all of the time. I have decided that I am going to be happy in my life period. Do I have things that comes up that wants me to lose my joy? Yes I do, and sometimes I have to remind myself, this is not that serious, do not lose your joy over this and it is a constant reminder. I have decided that my happiness is not based in if my husband do everything right to make me happy. That is to much pressure for one person.

I have made many mistakes in my marriage. After 17 years of being married to my husband, I have learned a lot and will be learning until Jesus come back.

So I am setting my fears aside so I can help the wife who will listen. Some of the things I share with you, you probably are not going to agree with, but I can not run any longer about discussing real issues that are happening in marriages today.

If I am going to partner with God to see wives restored in their heart and their marriages, I have to deal with truth as it is shown to me in my heart. This is the take on marriage that God has given me to share.

I will expose the works of darkness as God downloads it in my spirt. I absolutely love the marriage union and I know God loves it as well. As I have listen to God minister to me about marriage, I realized that I had some very wrong distorted views about marriage.

Our husbands are very different from one another and what my husband needs most, your husband my not even care about, so I will admonish you to get to know your own husband, and do not base what your husband do against what someone else’s husband does.pexels-photo-256737But what I hope to help you with today is 15 things that every wife can do to win the heart of her own husband.

I can tell when a woman is not satisfied or content in her marriage or with herself, because she is always seeking outside of her marriage and herself for attention and conversation from someone else’s husband or to get notice by other men that is not her husband.

She tries to fill up her emptiness with shopping, working, giving all of her attention to her children, volunteering and just plain avoidance. She does not want to deal with the real issues that are going on in her heart and her marriage.

I agree with you, you should not leave this earth unfulfilled in your marriage. That is why you have to do everything with in your power to fight for the connection with your very own spouse, so if God forbids, if it falls apart, it is not because you did not give your all to your marriage.

Wives fight for connection from your own husband, seek attention from the one you chose to marry, any attention outside of that is a counterfeit replacement of the real and true love you could be experiencing from your own spouse.

Now like I said, this blog post is not for every married woman, you might not agree with some of the things that I share with you. This blog post is only for the married women who is NOT dealing with mental and physical abuse, cheating, drugs, alcohol and gambling addiction. If you are dealing with these issue, serious counseling is what you need because you my beautiful sister have to make choices that is going to keep you safe inside and out.

There is not one marriage that is perfect on the earth because there are no two people that are perfect. But marriage can be amazing if you are tuned in to your own marriage and not comparing your marriage to anyone else’s and if you can try to love and give your husband lots of grace, forgiveness, compassion and always focusing on his good qualities.character-1797362_1920I know communication can be hard in a marriage sometimes because in marriage one of you is either the confronter and the other person is usually the one who runs away from confrontation. But then again, you can have two people in a marriage that never confronts the issues that is going on in their marriage, therefore, making it very hard to talk about issues that needs to addressed in marriage.

I want to encourage wives not to shut down because you feel like your are not getting any real results. I want to encourage wives not to throw in the towel and walk away. I want to encourage wives not to grow bitter inside and hold unforgiveness towards their husband because you are feeling unappreciated, unfulfilled, neglected and unloved.

What I am going to encourage you to do is keep talking to your husband until you are heard, keep confronting intruders until they are destroyed, stay in prayer for your husband, your marriage and your family and keep fighting for a amazing marriage.

Make sure that you have done your part to ensure that you have a godly covenant before God and your husband. I do not proclaim to have all the answers, nor am I a marriage counselor. But sometimes it will take you going to a professional counselor to talk through the issue in your marriage. I would recommend a trusted Christian Counselor or Pastor.

I think some wives forgot how to make themselves happy, perhaps you have never been truly happy within yourself, especially if you never been single long enough to enjoy your own company. Some women always needed someone in their life to complete them.

Now there is a difference between

1. Down right disrespect and your husband acting like he does not have a commitment to your marriage by spending quality time with you and investing the time and attention that it takes to have a close healthy godly marriage.

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2. You learning to enjoy your own company in the absence of your husband. There should always be sweet fellowship between the two of you, a coming back together to talk about your day and to reconnect emotionally, physically and spiritually.pexels-photo-28914.jpgYou should never allow anyone who claims to love you and have a covenant with you to get away with living a sloppy married life. Marriage is an investment and you are worth the investment it takes to ensure you have a respectful loving Godly covenant where the both of you are reaping the full benefits of your covenant.

What hurts my heart more than anything is to see a woman in her marriage covenant feeling lonely, helpless, defeated, cheated on, disrespected, afraid to speak up for herself and feeling like she is not valued in her marriage…….

Feeling like she can’t take care of her self, feeling trapped, devalued, not beautiful, not beneficial, feeling like she is not an equal partner with her husband and not knowing her covenant rights in her marriage.

I want to warn you against intruders, intruders are things, people and schedules that wants to replace true devotion with your spouse, with false devotions.

Intruders can creep in and still your covenant, your time and your marriage if your are not in tuned with the Holy Spirit.

Intruders never know the value of a godly covenant. They come in disguises, they come in things that seems important.

Intruders also wants you to be intimidated by them and they want you to keep it uncover. Intruders never want you to confront them or call them out on their undercover behavior.

Intruders are working to many long hours, always volunteering to many long hours to a worthy cause, social media, lustful under cover seducing women and men proverbs 9:13-18  has a lot to say about this.

Intruders can come in through always shopping, gambling, people pleasing and addictions of every kind.baseball-player-running-sport-163209Intruders comes in being to involved with what the children have going on more than pouring back into your husband.

Intruders comes in through spending long hours in the gym, more than you are spending time at home. Intruders comes in by watching to much sports and reality TV, and spending to much time with your extended family rather than your own husband. The Bible clearly states that we are to leave and cleave.

So we have to keep addressing issues in our marriages that are trying to keep us from investing into our marriage, things that are creeping in and trying to destroy the marriage covenant. We have to keep talking and fighting for our marriage because there are so many things that are calling for our attention and trying to lure us away from our marriages.

I want wives to know that you have a lot of influence in your marriage. You can use that influence for good or you can use that influence to tare down your home and marriage. The bible has a lot to say about the influence of a wife. Down below I listed some.

Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

Proverbs 31:10-12
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.…

Proverbs 24:3
By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.

Proverbs 5:6
Adulterous woman does not ponder the path of life; her ways are unstable, she does not know it.

Proverb 9:13 ISV
The foolish woman is loud, undisciplined, and without knowledge.

Proverbs 7:11 She is boisterous and rebellious, her feet do not remain at home;pexels-photo-256735Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

Proverbs 27:15,16 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

Proverbs 15:17 ISV A vegetarian meal served with love is better than a big, thick steak with a plateful of animosity.

Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than a house full of feasting with strife.

Wives it will never benefit you to give the silent treatment to your husband, nor talking to him unkindly, sarcastic, talking down to him and being disrespectful to your husband. The only results it will yield is to push your husband farther away from you and towards intruders.

Now I do believe there is a time for silence when the conversation is heated and emotions are high, a time out break is needed until you can come back together and talk maturely.

I have been married going on 17 years and I am still learning what works and what do not work for my marriage.pexels-photo-299863.jpeg I know it takes two people to make the marriage work. It can be very easy to check out on your marriage if you feel like you have been the one during all the work to keep your marriage together.

I want to present to you the biblical way of loving your husband. Wives, you have to take your emotions out of the situations. I do understand God created you as the weaker vessel. I know your feeling can get hurt easily. I know wives try to give their all to keep the connection with their husband but I am going to encourage you to try even harder than you’ve been trying. Push yourself more than you have ever pushed yourself before.

Yes, I am asking you to set aside all that you think you know and pick up a biblical  perspective in loving your husband. I am asking you to set your feeling aside and your emotions aside and fight for the connection with your husband.

I want you to ask yourself could it be me and not him, matter of fact, I want you to do everything in your power to serve him from your heart. Do it to the glory of God and allow God to reward you. If your husband give you praise let it be a bonus on top of the praise that God has already given you. Just tell your husband thank you. It pleases the Lord that you are loving on his son. Do not look to your husband to give you validation, because you will give up if you do not see quick results.

I want you to have a happy attitude while serving your husband, I want you to do it like you would if someone was giving you 5,000 dollars for doing a good job. Guard your heart against complaining.

Serve your husband to the glory of God because this is your first ministry. You are his help mate.

Help mate:
1. a companion and helper.
2. a spouse.
3. anything that aids or assists, especially regularly:

I don’t know if you actually knew what you signed up for when you said your marriage vowels to him but lets delve even further.

companion
1. a person or animal with whom one spends a lot of time or with whom one travels.
“his traveling companion” synonyms: friend, sidekick,  confidant, pal, chum, buddy, mate and peeps.

2. one of a pair of things intended to complement or match each other.
synonyms: complement, counterpart, twin, match; plane.jpgI do know you probably have a lot of responsibility on your plate like the kids, a job, the home, your relationship with God, your friends, maybe taking care of a family member, your volunteer work and then your husband.

He was never meant to be last but he was always meant to be first after your relationship with God and taking care of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually so you can give out to everyone else, your husband is one of the most important person in your life and he should be treated as such. Even if you feel like he is not during his part.

Since you agreed to be his wife, you agreed to help him in any capacity he needs you to help him in. You are called to aid and assist him regularly, you are called to spend a lot of to time with him being his friend. You are called to travel with him, you are called to be his companion, his buddy, his pal. You are called to complement him or match him. You are called to be his peeps, twin, counterpart, chum and his mate.

Now these are just dictionary definitions of some of the things you signed up for when you agreed to be his wife. The Bible has so much more to say about your role as his wife. When you agreed to marry him, your body became his and his body became yours. You are called to give him pleasure sexually when ever he needs it.

There is something about knowing that a person really and truly love you, it is very hard to ignore it. So ask yourself have you been murmuring and complaining and shutting down and being bitter and having unforgiveness towards your husband because he is not taking care of you and not meeting your needs the way you need him to.

Have you really been giving your all in your marriage. I am not trying to set your feelings aside, I just want you to evaluate your actions as well. Ok wives, I am talking to myself as well.

If you do have an agenda God has called you to, make sure your husband is taken care of first. Prove to him that he is number one. Biblically you are called to assist him first. I know it sounds unfair but that is how it is done in the kingdom. This is not to make wives feel guilty, we all fall short and none of us are perfect, but we are asking for more in our marriages, are we giving more as well?pexels-photo-237372Have we as wives neglected our God given responsibilities to our husband and replace them with everyone else needs and concerns first? Have we put our own agendas and others agenda before our husband’s? Are we becoming bitter, complaining and getting angry at them about being their wife and the role we are suppose to be playing in their life?

Are they really first in our lives like we want to believe that they are?

We are called to assist them in what ever they need assistance in.

1 Peter 3:1-5 – Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward [adorning] of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, [even the ornament] of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

This scripture is telling you do this for your own husband and not someone else’s husband. Don’t find some other man more fascinating than your own husband. Some women would compliment someone else’s husband but not their own. It is not your business to try and get to know someone else’s husband or be curious about what he does. Be curious about your own husband find out more about him. The Bible talks about the simple minded woman, she seeks attention from someone else’s husband. She goes about trying to lure men that she do not have a covenant with. What she is really doing is committing adultery in her heart. I noticed that the scripture up top says be in subjection to your own husband. Even if your husband is not giving you the attention that you need stay loyal in your heart before God.

I don’t know all that you have been going through in your marriage and I know it can be very scary to let your guards down and become very vulnerable to your husband.

But I am asking you to fight for your marriage. I am asking you to put your emotions and your feeling aside and open your self up to loving your husband again, just like Jesus loves you when you constantly mess up or fall short with him. I am asking you to give your husband lots of grace and forgiveness. pexels-photo-288008.jpegI am going to share ways you can win the heart of your husband. I am going to ask you to be patient with the process before you see any results. You might see your husband heart turn in a week or you might not see your husband heart turn towards you for months. You are not perfect and you might mess up, get frustrated, and want to throw in the towel. When you do, just ask God for forgiveness and apologize to your husband for they way you disrespected him.

Serve your husband like you were serving King Jesus. The Bible says, “let him who wants to be the greatest, let him become your servant and whoever wants to be first be your slave.” Well wives, I know we can feel like we are slaves and maids sometimes.

But when you shift your mind to serving your husband because it is your 1st ministry, and serve your husband like you are serving in your own personal ministry, your children, your job because your name is out there and you put your heart into it because you want it to go well, and you do not want to look bad, and you want to serve the people God has called you to and you want God to be proud of you, is the same way you should put your heart and soul into serving your husband.

Sometimes this ministry don’t come with accolades and sometimes you may feel like you are getting the short end of the stick but I am a true believer that if you be diligent and do it to the glory of God. God will reward you and make sure you are well taken care of.

Matthew 20:25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.” 

I want to bring special attention to why am I asking you to serve your husband like you are serving Jesus. Because in 1 Peter 3:1-5  it reads, Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.

God is saying just by you obeying and following the word of God, by speaking kindly to him, putting him first, being very respectful to him, loving on him, encouraging him, assisting him and serving him. Your husband is going to be won over to you by your good conduct.couple-254683_1920.jpgSo let me share 15 things wives can do to win the heart of her own husband.

  1. Respect him, Respect is huge for men, they thrive off of it.
  2. Talk kindly to him. I know sometimes husband are not as sensitive as they should be but talk kindly to him, instead of leashing back out to hurt his feeling, men are more frail than you think and can shut down after being disrespected.
  3. Be his friend, sit down and watch the game with him, get to know the things he like and do them with him often, spend time with him just running errands. Men love for their wives to hang out with them and spend time with him.
  4. Be willing to do what he ask of you without murmuring and complaining. Have a good attitude while serving him. Assist him in what ever he needs assistant in if it is not going to cause you to sin.
  5. All men do not require this, but be willing to cook him a good meal and serve it to him, it makes him feel taken care of. If he is the one during the cooking, then fix him a plate and serve it to him.
  6. Forgive him often and give him lots of grace.
  7. Compliment him and encourage him especially in front of others, always find something good to say about him. Tell him how proud you are to be married to him. Try not to speak negatively about your husband to no one.
  8. Smile at him often, let him know that you are happy, your husband would try to keep that smile on your face.
  9. Date your husband, keep things exciting and creative. Don’t wait for him to be creative, you do it.
  10. Make passionate love to him often, all the time, as much as he likes it.
  11. Do not correct him in front of the kids.
  12. Keep your appearance up and smell good for him.
  13. Be grateful. Tell him thank you, often, for the nice things you see him do.
  14. Pray for him all the time.
  15. Treat him like a King and help make life easy for him in anyway you can. 

I know this seems like a lot but God’s grace is sufficient for you, take it one step at a time. What is one thing you can do today that would bring the connection between you and your husband closer together?

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10 Ways You Can Create A Simple and Luxurious Life!

Today I feel led to share with you a chapter out of a book that I’ve written called, “25 Attitude You Must Have for a Breakthrough” and since I am on a 30 days journey to getting my life in order, I thought it would be perfect to share my process with you and this chapter breaks it down perfectly.

badesalz-1620261_1920Simple and luxurious living is surrounding yourself with only those things that you love and are beautiful to your eyesight. It is also about getting rid of anything that is taking up space in your life with no real purpose. Simple and luxurious living also entails that you only put the things in your environment that you absolutely need and actually use. This eliminates waste in your life and help you to live free of unnecessary clutter.

We hold on to things far too long, even if it is not serving any real purpose in our lives. I want to inspire you to detox your mind, your environment, your relationships, your finances, and your body so you can feel the freedom that comes with releasing dead weight and having an organized stress-free life.

In my own life, I am constantly purging things that no longer benefit me, my family and our environment.

Things like wrong mindset, schedules that do not work for my family, clothes, accessories, wrong eating habits, relationships that are no longer beneficial to my values. Things that are broken that I will never have fixed, things that I am no longer using, places I use to frequent, but in my spirit, feels like the season is up for that. It’s all about simplifying to make your life easier, beautiful, and free!clutter-560701_1920.jpgSometimes having a cluttered environment stunts our growth, cloud our mind and vision. I am learning this. I am also a mother of five, wife, author, blogger and coach. I realize I need to be organized and everything should have a place. I also came to the conclusion that if we are having things in our environment that we don’t love or use, it is robbing us of more space, and to me, holding on to things that no longer serve you purpose, is an indicator you might be holding on to mental and emotional clutter.

Having a cluttered environment and living with too much stuff can cause you to lose quality time with your family and working on things that will enhance your purpose/dream. Because you are too consumed with the upkeep of it all.

Another thing, your best clarity comes in a neat organized environment. I have experienced this in my own life, when I let go of old baggage and decluttered watch out something significant is going to show up in my life.

You can’t go into the next season with things, people, and wrongs mindsets. That will hold you back! That is extra baggage; it will sink your ship. In this next season, you have to sail through!pexels-photo-90319Now, simplifying doesn’t mean things do not have to be beautiful. I encourage beautiful and luxurious. As long as it has a place and value in your life, allow it to be part of your life. We are talking about your own style, do it your way! Put things in your environments that is beautiful and luxurious to you.

Luxurious, doesn’t have to mean the same thing to everyone. I might love vintage and industrial, another person might love modern and retro. Put your own twist on your own style; just make sure you love it! When you have a clean, neat, organized, and positive environment, seeing it alone put you in a peaceful, prosperous, happy, stress-free state of mind.

That is the kind of mind that helps bring clarity in your situations and make your dreams become a reality.

10 Ways To Create A Simple and Luxurious Life:

1. All broken items must be removed immediately or fixed right away.

2. You must absolutely love the items in your environment. Not like, but LOVE!

3. If you no longer have use for an item, or if you have too many of the same items, bless someone else with the item who could use it, or donate it.office-1078869_1920.jpg4. Put like items, with like items, and assign everything a home. For example, put all scissors together in a container, get a container box for all of your pencils, mount a key holder on the wall and place all of your keys on the key holder.

5. Remove all items that are torn, ripped, faded, waggly, too small, and missing buttons out of your environment. If you really love the item, get it repaired immediately.

6. This is just a suggestion, not a rule. When you put items that match, like all matching dishes, towels and silverware, it makes your space look refined and stream-lined and gives a luxurious feel. I am still working on this one myself.

7. If there are any relationships that you are in that are influencing you in a wrong way, that are draining you, negative, one sided; where you are the giver and they are the takers, non-committal, intimidating, manipulative, non-supportive, abusive, toxic, controlling, and codependent. You need to set boundaries in that relationship, redefine your relationships, or cut the soul tides in that relationship all together.pexels-photo-262145.jpegSome people are afraid to be alone, so they tolerate behavior from people that do not mean them any good. When you trust God, and let go of toxic relationships, he bring new and wonderful people into your life that will add to your life and not take away. Your heart is your lifeline, the Bible says out of it flows the issue of life. What issues have you been letting fill your heart. You don’t want to be so loved starved that you just leave heart dangling for anyone to have it. Take your heart back from those who don’t deserve it! And give it to the one who can take care of it best, God. Start loving yourself enough to disconnect from people, things, and decisions that is stopping you from having God’s best for your life.

8. I like to weigh anything against the word of God. God’s word is always true and any wrong mindset that you have concerning an issue, must be destroyed in you. You must let go of that stinking thinking that wants to keep you bound. For example, having unforgiveness in your heart towards another person. God’s word says we should forgive others, if we want God to forgive us. Then we have to forgive the person we are holding unforgiveness against.

You have to detox your mindset from negative and wrong thinking. Sometimes, we could have grown up with truths that are not the truth. Once you find out the truth, you have to let the old truth go, and get rid of it. Because it can hinder you from receiving major breakthroughs in your life.

I have an exercise for you to do. I want you to think about some truths you grew up with and some negative things you believe about yourself, about life and other people. I want you to write them down on paper. I would love for you to weigh it against the word of God (which is the Bible). You can go on the internet and type in the subject in question. Type in the search engine; “what does the Bible teaches about, for example; forgiveness.” Write out your new truth and decide to let it be the ruling truth in your life.wallet-908569_1920.jpg9. We must base our self-esteem on the word of God and not in our material possessions. If you have debt that you owe, the Bible says that we are slaves to our lenders, luxurious simplicity requires you to pay those that you owe, so you can live a luxurious lifestyle. And I am only speaking to the ladies with who are living with real debt. We have no business buying anything that is not a need, until we get out of debt. I suggest you put a stop to unnecessary spending until you have paid off those who have control over you. I recommend you take it a step further, save for a rainy day, and think about your future. Learn about investing some of your money.

Put yourself in the budget, pay yourself some me money. So you will not feel like you are only working to pay bills. Part of you paring down your items is so that you govern and take care of what is in your environment, so you can live with quality and not quantity and having to keep buying the same things over and over again. You can even make extra cash off your stuff, if it is worth something. Set up an Ebay account and start selling your treasures on Ebay. They have a global customer base, and you will be surprise who wants to buy your stuff.

Another place to sell your items to make extra cash is Craigslist. Craigslist is design to sell in your local community and state that you live in. People are buying and selling on craigslist all day long, and it is free to sell and buy things. I would suggest you read the safety policies before meeting with someone on Craigslist.

Never go anywhere alone to exchange items for cash. Always take someone with you.

We spend too much money into our self-worth and not into things that really matters, like our future. I know that you do not want to still be working for someone else at the age of 65. You do not have to retire, but if you are going to be working, let it be for yourself and because you love helping others with a service you provide. Now, when you have taken care of your foundation and built your financial house, splurge!pexels-photo-110215.jpeg10. Part of living a luxurious simplicity life is taking care of your temple, your body, so you can live to enjoy all of the blessing that will unfold in your life when you on purpose decide you want to change!

Toxic, harmful things in your body and your environment like strong harsh chemicals foul foolish talk, cursing, gossip, negative self-talk, drugs, alcohol, nicotine, too much sugar, salt, soda and caffeine. I want to inspire you to change the way you look at your life. You only have one life; you must love yourself enough to take care of you. You are the only one who can decide what is good for you.

I suggest you start taking walks, about 15 minutes to one hour walks a day. It has major health benefits like relieving stress, building muscle tone, stretching your muscle and joints and keep them from getting stiff. Walking also helps you to keep your weight down and releases endorphins in your body to give you a feel good feeling. A big benefit in walking is that it keeps depression at bay, if you are a person that struggle with depression.

Drink lots of water and eat nutritious food. Monitor what you allow to enter into your environment and your mind, like negative words and gossiping. Declare your body and environment a gossip free zone. Get in the habit of looking at yourself in the mirror and speaking right and excellent words to yourself and over yourself. Bless others presence by speaking nothing but encouraging and positive words to them.
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Practicing fasting because it has great health benefits and can heal the body and deliver you from strange and strong addictions. Jesus made it a habit to fast while living on earth. Fasting also bring clarity and answers when you need help with a situation in your life. Holding on to unnecessary clutter in the mind as well as in your environment just take up wasted space and time.
You could be spending time on things that really matters like building your dream or formulating a plan for your purpose. Decluttering help, you get organized and letting go of mental clutter helps you to focus!
 The Bible talks about the correct way to fast. It is found in Isaiah 58.

I personally was delivered from a spirit of miscarriage while on a 40 day fast. On that fast, I gave up eating meats and changed the way I was speaking over myself. I began to confess healing scriptures over my body. You can read about my whole testimony in a book I wrote Dare to Dream Big!. You can purchase the book on amazon.com or on my website at http://www.noboundariesbtc.com.

I know it’s a lot but it is so worth the time and effort to live your life on purpose and enjoy a life full of breakthrough peace, luxury, and abundance.

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Getting Back to the Heart of Things!

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This blog post is about my journey back to being grateful and taking control of my life. I was feeling like I needed to bring more balance and order in my life.

I am a Christian, wife, mother and I took on the task of being responsible for my kids education. Yes, I also homeschool my kids.

I am a woman who have dreams and a purpose and I started to pursue them as well. I am a self published Christian author. I’ve written 3 books,“Dare To Dream Big”, “25 Attitude “You Must Have for a Breakthrough” and “Extraordinary Single Lady”.

I am a certified Christian life coach, speaker and blogger. I have a lot on my plate, but I love it. I love that I have found out what God created me to do and that is to partner with him to see his daughters made whole in every area of their lives. But I have an evening greater calling, and that is to be a wife to Overere and a mom to Erica, Faith, Victoria, Blessing and Wisdom. I am also called to be Destine’s GeeGee. I am not ready to be called a grandmother yet, so I told my granddaughter to call me GeeGee.

In life, there will be a lot of things pulling for your time and attention but you have to know what is the most important in your life. For me, God is most important, then myself and then my family in that order and then everything else comes after that.

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Myself after God because I am no good to anyone if I do not take care of myself first. I need to always be giving back to me, so I can give back to others that have been entrusted to me.

Some of my favorite me times and things I enjoy giving back to myself are, Lipton Green tea with honey or guava, reading and learning, spa treatment in the bath tub, spending fun quality time with my husband like going out to dinner and catching a great movie afterwards, traveling, praying and meditating, journaling, 30 minutes walks which I need to get back to, getting my hair done when its time, polishing my nails and toes, buying something for myself, having sweet fellowship and feeding my spirit man at Church and having social time with the ladies.

As women we want to be a part of everything and attend everyones gathering. But you have to decide what is truly important for you.

You must develop a relationship with the Holy Spirit so He can prompt you when you are taking on too many things in your life or when you are suppose to do something different than what you or other people think you are suppose to be doing.

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Everyone has an agenda, but it is God’s agenda that should reign supreme in your life. But let me reveal this revelation. God has given us the ability to make wise decisions for ourselves. God requires us to follow after Jesus example on how we should conduct our lives. Jesus is the standard for us to pattern our life after, it is the blue print on how we are suppose to conduct ourselves with our family, friends, on our jobs and in the world. That is  one of the requirements to live a Christ centered life.

He has given you the free will to choose how you want your life to be. He will present things before you, but ultimately you must decide on what job to take, who to marry, where you want to live, which gifting and talents you want to develop, what type of car you want to drive, what kinds of attributes you want to display in the world, what house you want to live in and how you want to spend your days on earth.

The Bible is the road map for the best possible outcome to based your decisions on. The Bible is the true word of God, it is not to be taken lightly. It is prophecy in a book. It is God’s word to man, but God gave you free will, He left it up to you to do the choosing. The Holy Spirit is God’s helper, He will illuminate to you which way you should go if you develop a intimate trusting relationship with him. The Holy Spirit will speak to your heart and prompt you when it is something you should do or not be doing at this time if your life. Most Christians have not develop that relationship with the Holy Spirit. If you are born again, I would recommend you read this book by Benny Hinn called “Good Morning Holy Spirit” if you want to be born again pray this prayer.

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Ladies, I know we want to have our cake and eat it too, but there is a price that comes with that. It takes careful thought and planning and great organization skills of which I am learning to develop everyday. I know everything is not going to be perfect, but perfect to me is having a peace of mind and living true within my heart, and being the change that I want to see and that starts with me.

All I was hearing in my spirit was get your house in order and that could mean different things for different people because we are all called to something different in life. Your struggle my be totally different from my struggles.

I was presented with an offer, that I might add, I asked God for, but after the offer was presented to me, all I heard was get your house order and organize in every are of your life. I heard 30 days.

I began working on it right way. The 1st thing I did, was write out a plan on how I was going to tackle all of my task that was set before. Before I can take on another obligation, I must do this 1st. Get my house in order.

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I wrote a plan for decluttering every area in my home and this was not a surface plan. It was very detailed. I was not going to leave not one stone unturned. Sometimes we tackle the surface clutter that we see and neglect the clutter we can not see.

All of the hidden clutter I had to tackle was underneath the cabinets, inside the closets, inside the drawers, I no longer have a junk drawer because I assigned everything a place. Everything I had no use for, I donated it or I threw it away.

I tackled every room in my house and as I was cleaning and decluttering, I was making a list of all the things that needed fixed or mending.

I heard in my spirit, get a system for how you would keep it clean, and  do it the same way every time. I created me a system for every room and I created me an inventory list after every system of things that needed to be purchased for the upkeep of that particular room.

Sometimes our breakthroughs are attached to the things we are willing to give up. Sometimes our prosperity is attached to the things we are willing to implement and do. Sometimes clutter is an indicator of the things we are still holding on to, and sometimes God is just trying to make sure we lay a proper foundation before we build our house so it is not built upon a faulty foundation.

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Today it has been a week since my purging and decluttering and I have 2 more rooms to tackle. I will complete them today. The laundry room and the basement.

While I was cleaning, I was thanking God for all of the blessings that are in my life. As I cleaned and decluttered each room, I realize how abundantly blessed I am.

I have clean running water, a warm bed to lay my head down on, heat on those cold nights, cover to keep warm, food in the refrigerator, an amazing husband that affords me the luxury of being a stay at home mom to our children, a home that is paid off, cars that are paid off and a whole host of other blessings.

As I have been extremely grateful, I have being noticing things showing up in my life, big blessing that reminds me of what God said in Matthew 6:25-34 KJV:

Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your Heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?

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And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:” “And yet I say unto you, that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.” 

“Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?” “Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?” “(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.” “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”

I believe I am doing what I am suppose to be doing right now, It feels so in alignment. All I know is God is up to something good and I am excited to see what that is and I will keep you posted. But until then, what is God putting on your heart in this season of your life. Please do not say I don’t know. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you and began implementing it right away. I will talk about this some more in my next blog post, so subscribe to Breakthrough Blog 4 Women so you can be the first to receive it.

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2 Ways To Eliminate Being Overwhelmed!

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Are you struggling with getting things done? Are you finding yourself getting behind on your daily task? Do you feel overwhelm with all the things you have going on in your life.

I want to encourage you and give you some tips on how you can conquer your day and feel super successful.

I talk a lot about people pleasing, I believe when you are not being honest with what you can honestly handle, taking on extra responsibility, and attending events you really know you shouldn’t attend, you are in people pleasing mold.

Before you can actually feel super successful, you need to sit down and get really clear about what is important you, what are you suppose to be doing at this season in your life and what is causing you to feel so overwhelmed.

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You are going to feel guilty about this at first, because you are used to being there for everybody else and you will feel guilty because you are going to have to tell people no.

Some people might be upset with you, and even might get offended with you, but you are going to have to be ok with that because you are now putting your health first. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed out is never good for your body or your mind. Our bodies have a way of sending us signals when we are pushing it to much.

When you are feeling anxiety in your heart, a headache because you are stressed and overwhelmed these are signals that is telling you that something needs to change in your life.

So how do you change it?

woman-391555_1920.jpg1. Disconnect From Time Wasters

Time wasters are things, people, busyness that have nothing to do with where you are trying to go in your life. It will always delay your progress from getting things done in your life.

You should have time for just relaxing, but what I am talking about here, is people who are living their life in the blind. They have no real pursuit or no real goals, neither are they focused with getting things done in their own life.

Time wasters can also be distractions. A distraction is a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else. Extreme agitation of the mind or emotion.

The scripture that comes to my mind when I think of time wasters and distractions is from 1 Peter 5:8Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up.

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Just when you have decided to live the life of your dreams or live in your purpose the enemy will try to catch you off guard to delay your progress. You must recognize the time wasters in your life. It is a set up by the enemy, he wants to catch you napping.

Time wasters come in the form of a phone call from a friend who is just calling to see how you are doing. However, they are actually trying to find out what you are doing and because they have gotten off focus, the enemy is using them to get you off focus by having you to believe that they have an urgent matter to talk about.

TV is a big time waster. Billions of people are wasting their time looking at TV while others are living their dreams, when they should be pursuing their own dreams.

Computer gadgets are another times waster, If you have to be on-line for anything, give yourself a time to get on there and a time to get off. Schedule it in your day and stick to your schedule.

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2. Schedule your day for success!

Let your time be accounted for! Every second, every minute, and every hour. Plan your day! A failure to plan can result in an ineffective day. But allow for flexibility for the suddenly. Please do not get bent out of shape if you have to detour from your list.

Make sure you get at least 3-5 things done on your list. Let them be absolute things, that absolutely must be done for that day and before you know it, your list will be completed.

Planning your day is also another way to keep time wasters out of your life and make what’s really important a top priority. Scheduling your day will ensure that you are bringing a balance in your life and making time for your important relationships, like time with the Lord, time taking care of yourself, time spent with your spouse, time spent with the kids and attention to your purpose and business.

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Here is a bonus! You can even schedule your bills for automation. That way you will never have to forget to pay another bill again resulting in more cash flow for you because you have eliminated late fees that was eating into my profit. When I started to automate my bills, it took the stress out of bill paying. I felt like life was very good. It shifted my focus to dreading to pay bills to loving to pay bills on time, which have resulted in a debt free lifestyle!

Sometimes we are looking at the big picture and wondering to ourselves how are we going to get everything done.

Well here is a sure strategy that will eliminate feelings of guilt, feelings of inadequacies, and failure. There is something about following a schedule that makes you feel super successful and secure. Statistics shows that even when you follow a schedule with your kids they feel more secure. Maybe it’s because you have set your intentions to make sure everything and everyone in your life is taken care of including yourself, and now you are giving out of the overflow of an already filled up tank.

Grab my ebook “25 Attitude You Must Have For a Breakthrough!” It is sure to  help you eliminate stress, anxiety and overwhelm out of your life.

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5 Spiritual Laws That Will Change Your Life, If You Practice Them!

pexels-photo-112641Through out this journey called life, you will receive little messages. If you are reading this blog post today, I believe I wrote this blog post just for you. It is not by accident that you clicked on “Breakthrough Blog 4 Women.” I believe our paths was meant to cross. There is something that you need to know in this article that will help you on your life’s journey.

I want to share with you 5 spiritual laws that is going to make a big difference in your life if you implement them.

These principles can set you free from those who you have been allowing to control your life, they can set you free from yourself, and they can set you free from your past and show you how go into your future with a new mindset.

If you implement this first principle alone you will sleep like a baby tonight.

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Principle #1 The Law of Forgiveness

The Law of Forgiveness states, “in order for God to forgive you, you have to for give others.” Mark 11:25 ESV

In order for things to change in your life, you have to forgive anyone who has ever hurt you, violated you and offended you. You have to forgive yourself for not always making the best choices for your life. You have to forgive God for any unanswered prayers, any disappointment you may be feeling and for not protecting you from someone who violated you.

When our life has not worked out the way we think it should have, we play the blame game and hold unforgiveness in our heart towards the people or things that violated us.

All of those negative emotions that you are feeling inside your heart, the pain that you are feeling and even some sickness, has a lot to do with you not forgiving.

When you forgive someone, you are doing it for your sake so you can be free. We think if we do not hold people hostage, we are letting them off the hook and saying it is ok what you’ve done to me.

No, it is never ok for someone to violate you, but your refusal to forgive them is keeping you unhappy and bitter. Some of the addictions that you have is because you use it to cover the pain of what was done to you. You have to release it, so your life can prosper and you can find peace. Allow God to fight on your behalf.

Romans 12:19 ESV Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”

You have to forgive yourself, you are worthy to be forgiven. Sometimes we have a hard time forgiving others because we hold ourselves at such a high standard. We need to learn to give forgiveness to ourselves. So what, you made a bad choice, just ask for forgiveness and move on. Tell yourself, ” I forgive you for not being perfect.” You deserve mercy and you deserve grace, please give it to yourself.

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Principle #2 The Law of Thinking

The Law of thinking states that, “whatever you hold in your in mind, in a habitual way, becomes your reality in time.”

If you can control your thoughts, you can control your life! You have to master your thought life.

Research shows that the human mind has more than 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. Others too believe that 70% to 80% of the human thoughts are negative.

You can always tell what a person is really thinking, just listen to his or her conversations. I recommend you buy the book by James Allen “As a Man Thinketh” it will change your life.

For example, someone hurt you and you make up in your mind that you are going to forgive them. It takes faith to forgive, but the thoughts of them hurting you keep playing over and over in our mind. How do you think you are going to react to that person when you see them again if you do not cast down those thoughts? Probably not so good, because you have played it over and over in our mind how they hurt you.

You must capture every thought before it lodges in your mind and takes residence. One of the ways I control my thoughts is by stopping it before it enters. This can be very tricky at first because you are used to allowing anything in your thoughts. This will require lots of effort on your part. You can not be lazy. You have to really focus.

It is like playing a game, your job is to not let the thoughts enter at all, and the thoughts entering wants to catch you off guard, so it can set up camp by taking over your thoughts and feeding your mind with lies, fear, and unforgiveness. What you think about and meditate on, you will eventually act out.

If you can train your thoughts and block the negative chatter before it enters, and replace it with a positive thought, you can change your life, to one of peace, happiness and abundance.

This is what I do when a negative thought tries to enter my mind, as soon as I recognize it is as a negative thought, I cast that thought down and then I replace it with what I want to see happen.

Make sure your thoughts are lining up with only what you want to see come into your life because it will take you places only you can dream of, and that goes for thoughts of negativity or positivity.

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Principle #3 The Law of Your Confession

The Law of confession states that, “Life and death are in the power of your tongue and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21

I want you to really get this principle. Words carry energy,  before you release them out of your mouth, make sure you think about what kinds of results you want them to bring to you.

Your words alone can change your life. If you have never paid attention to your words and the things that are coming out of your mouth, today is the day you will become aware of how your words have impacted your life!

Your words and your thoughts are in direct correlation to each other, that is way you have to gain control of your thoughts because it come out in your words. But you can have a wrong thought and reject it by the power of your words.

For example, you have a thought to come across your mind, I am not smart enough to past this test. Use the power of your words to speak to your thought and make it obey what you want it to do. Do not allow that thought to be spoken out of your mouth. Speak opposite of what that thought want you to do or say, and say it over and over again. Say out of your mouth, I am going to pass this test. Never speak of what you don’t want to show up in your life.

Proverbs 18-21 says that with the fruit of a man’s mouth his stomach will be satisfied; He will be satisfied with the product of his lips. 

Speaking only of what you love will combat all negativity. Take a moment to pay attention to what keeps showing up in your life that you are not happy with. Could it be because you are using your mouth to tear it down by speaking of what you don’t want to show up? But remember, the only way you can change your words is to change what you are thinking about.

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Principle #4 The Law of Belief

The Law of Belief states that, “you get out of your life what you truly believe you can receive.” Rather you believe you can have something or not, you are working the law of belief.

Mark 11:24 ESV Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

You have to believe in yourself and you have to believe in the words that your are speaking over yourself because it does not matter what they say, it only matters what you say and what you think about yourself.

No one has the power to stop you from becoming great only you have the power to stop yourself from becoming great or achieving anything in your life. But you have got to believe in yourself so much that you believe in your own hype.

How was I able to change the negative inner dialogue that I was having with myself? By taking on the words that God said about me first, and then getting in front of the mirror and changing the negative inner dialogue that I was having with myself.

At first this is going to seem silly, but you have to become obsessed with it until you believe it, and then your action is going to line up with what you think about yourself.

There will be negative chatter all around you, trying to make you feel like you don’t belong. We live in a culture where others want you to feel inferior to them. You have no one to be afraid of. Hold your head up high you are royalty, it came with you when you were born. You were never meant to blend in with the crowd you was always created to shine and sparkle. You were never created like anyone else, so why are you trying to be just like everybody else?

You have your own uniqueness, talents, gifting and skills. You have your own finger print. That is an indicator that you were not suppose to be like others. There is something so special about what you were so uniquely designed to do, that even if you had the same talent as someone else, you would put your own spin on it.

Your looks, your race and your genes were created just for you. You are a gift to this world. but if you don’t embrace who are and be proud of where you come from, we are never going experience your brilliance because you don;t think you have what it takes. So celebrate being different and stand out and shine!

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The Law of Reciprocity states, “whenever you say anything that causes people to feel better about themselves, they have a deep unconscious need to reciprocate.”

Matthew 7:12 – Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

The reverse is also true in that, if you do something that hurts others, they will feel the need to hurt you back as well, so be careful how you treat others and how you talk to others.

You never know why a person is treating you the way they are treating you, it could be is because you have treated them certain way. You probably won’t get it back from the person you have treated bad or good, it probably would come back from someone total different.

Luke 6:31 – And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

We have a deep psychological need to be even with others. If a person does something for you, we feel a need to get even by doing something nice in return.

There comes a time in everyones life when you have to pay attention to what keep showing up in your life, I mean you really have to stop and look at the choices that you are making that is causing particular result in your life.

I don’t know if you know it or not, but you have the power to change the direction in which your life is headed. I am going to say this to you again. I don;t know if you know it or not but you have the power to change the direction in which your life is headed

So you be the first to put this law in order,

Mark 12:31 – And the second [is] like, [namely] this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

Have a grateful heart towards everyone you meet, and treat everyone with kindness and respect you never know who God will use to get you to the next level or to help you.

The Law of Reciprocity could be as simple as is you holding the door for someone, being kind and considerate, giving some one a worthy compliment, being respectful to authority, respecting the rights of others, helping someone out by lending a helping hand, talking to others with respect, making sure you are operating out of positivity and always coming from a good place.

I hope this 5 Spiritual Laws have blessed you. Leave me a comment, like this blog post and subscribe to my blog Breakthrough Blog 4 Women. Come on over to my social media page to let me encourage you to a beautiful life! Click my social media links down below this article. Click here to find me on Instagram  Check Out a book I wrote called 25 Attitudes You Must Have For a Breakthrough! It is going propel to live a better and beautiful life, this book is truly life changing If you purchase it today I will give you a special discount price just click the BUY NOW link to receive your special discount price up to 30% off.

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She Still Got It! It Has Always Been There!

She is still in there, that same woman who use to laugh until she cried, shopped until she dropped and use to have a lot of fun during the things that brought her joy.

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Like, dancing and singing and visiting the local boutiques. Designing and decorating, and going to the coffee house and having a cup of coffee or tea. Spending all day at the bookstores and checking out the latest must reads, magazines and journals. Hanging out with her friends and catching up on the latest, whats going on in everyone’s life. Finding new recipes and trying them out and having potlucks so everyone can try each other dishes and just enjoying life! She is still there.

She just got buried, under all the responsibilities she had on her plate. She just got buried, with cares of her life. She just got buried, under the negative chatter that fed her thoughts with lies, telling her that she had lost it, her beauty, her charm, her charisma and the romance, connection, communication and the attention in her marriage.

She just got buried, under her superwoman exterior that she puts on everyday. She just got buried, under hormonal imbalance. She just got buried, under her emotional eating to numb the pain of her dreams laying dormant inside her, she just got buried, under going to the same unfulfilling job that she goes to everyday. She just got buried, under the same old routine that does not have spontaneity in it. She just got buried, under giving to everybody else and not giving back to herself.

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She just got buried, with the grief of a loved one passing, she just got buried, under living with a sickness or disease in her body. She just got buried, under going through a divorce. She just got buried, under living with loneliness, envy, bitterness, unforgiveness and rejection.

She just got buried, under being a wife, mom, a daughter, a teacher, a caretaker, a boss, a sister, a friend, a leader and an influencer. She just got buried.

BUT SHE IS STILL IN THERE! 

She is still vibrant, and alive. She still have that twinkle in her step and a sparkle in her eyes. She is still just as attractive, sexy, alluring and confident as she was when she was in her 20s’ and 30s’. She still have that same laugh on the inside of her, that when she laughed so hard, her belly tighten and tears rolled down her face.

Give her a reason to have joy again. Give her permission to live again. Take your mind back from anyone and anything that is making you feel like you can’t breathe. Make yourself first priority! Invest in you again. Love on you again! Stop those sabotaging thoughts that you take on everyday and give them back to the devil! No more having self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself.

Girl, you have got to get up and live again. You stopped caring about what makes you truly happy! Pick back up those things that once brought you joy! Take care of yourself.

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Start with a simply spa treatment, in your own bath tub. Buy you a big luxury bar of moisturizing body soap, and click this link to get a spa treatment formula.

Schedule your life and include you as top priority, right under spending time with God. Write out a list of all the things you love doing and include those things in your schedule. I hear you saying, I don’t have enough time to do that. That is why you are creating  a schedule for yourself, because you get to choose what you want to do and how you want your day to go.

Yes, schedule your responsibilities in your schedule as well, but if something comes up that conflicts with your me time, say no to it. In fact, I want you to cut the phone off when you are doing something for yourself. You are in an important meeting and will not be able to answer the phone. Let your family know that you have decided to start taking care of yourself properly and you would not be available to answer the phone until you are done with your appointment. They would love you more for taking care of yourself, because they will have a new happier healthy woman in their life.

In your time spent with God, pour your heart out to him, If you do not journal, now is a good time to start journaling because you are going to have different emotions that are going to be surfacing and you are going to need to talk to God about these different emotions and you are going to have to be honest with yourself.

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In prayer with God and writing in your journal is a good place to pour your heart out to him. You are getting clear about what is causing you discontentment. Admit it to God and yourself. Admit everything to him. Do not hold back. Sometimes we as women feel guilty that we are feeling a certain way about a situation and we never deal with what is causing us to feel this way because we think it is wrong to be having such strong emotions but God already knows how you feel, so do not try to hide it from him, and do not try to hide the emotions from yourself.

Another thing I would like for you to do is, after you have explored what is causing you stress, unhappiness, lost of joy, not feeling alive in your life and discontentment, I want you to answer these questions, what do I need to do to feel better about this situation? What do I really want? How do I really want to feel? When the answers come to you, work towards implementing the answers you receive right away!

I want you to start back reading books on the areas in your life that you want to improve in, for example, if you want to start back looking and dressing fashionable, go on Pinterest.com and look at pictures of fashion that ladies your age are wearing. You can go to your local book store and buy fashion magazines or go to the library and check out fashion book and magazines. You can also go on Youtube.com and type in the search button the topic your are interested in.

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You can do this with any area of your life you want to improve in, I would advise you first go to the Bible and see what Gods word says about the subject and then look at other sources that is Biblically sound. You can do this to improve your communication, sex life, attractiveness and connection with your husband. You can read books about marriage, how to forgive, your appearance, how to put yourself first so you can be alive to take care of others around you, healthy eating and natural things you can do to cure certain diseases, pray and fasting, working out ect.

The goal here is for you to get your sparkle back and for you to truly feel alive in your life. I wrote a book that I know will truly motivate you and encourage you to find your sparkle and shine again! You will truly be encouraged to find your joy and truly live again! It is called “25 Attitudes You Must Have for a Breakthrough” it is only 14.97 and you can have access to it the moment you purchase it! It is a digital download. You can start right away feeling back in control of your life. That is less than 15.00 to change your life forever.

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You Are Enough Just The Way You Are!

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We are now entering into a new year, many new goals and new year resolutions has been written on paper and voiced in the atmosphere. It’s only one day from the old calendar year, to entering into a new year, only 24 hours between the goals and new resolutions that you have set for yourself.

There is something freeing about a new year, even though it is just another day from the past year, in 24 hours our calendar date changes only one digit from the previous year.

We hit the reset button in our minds to start a fresh. We have something new to look forward to in the hopes of accomplishing a better life than the one we had lived a day before.

So what are we actually after? What do we really want at the core of our being? Why do we take the time to make new contracts with ourselves?

I believe what we really want is to feel fulfilled, successful, accomplished, happy, like our life have meaning, beautiful, significant, validated, rich, confident, secure, in control of our circumstances, loved, valuable, acknowledge and important.

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What if I told you that you are already all of those things just the way you are. Who told you that you had to have all those things? Who told you that you are not good enough without them? Who brought discontentment into your life? Who sold you a bill of goods that if you are not accomplishing these thing then you do not measure up in the world’s society.

Who told you to compare yourself?  Who told you that you can not enjoy your life just being? Who told you that you had to be doing?

I want you to stop and breathe, release out a big sigh, embrace the space that you have been given right where are. Feel your presence, look at your body parts, you are alive! Now I want you to detach from all of the false expectation that was put on you from every environment that you came from.

You do not have to be anything because you are everything! You are the air that you breathe, you are the space that you fill up, you are immensely provide for, you were sent here with every provision to fulfill your destiny, you are light, you are salt, feel your own greatness. Embrace your own success, you are already successful, you are already beautiful, you are already enough, you are already lovely, feel your own presence, breathe your own air.

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Magnificently designed, already loved, you have everything  you need inside of you. You were already sent to planet earth with a plan. It is built inside of you. You are wired for it, God already made provision for you showing up. You have been created with the best energy source, atoms and protons right down to the cellular level.

Your expression is so uniquely designed and was made to communicate with your extraordinary maker. Only He can download into your being what and who you were created to become. But you first have to acknowledge his presence.

Open up your mouth and admit to Him how you have searched your entire life trying to make since of your life. Admit to him that this is to much to measure up to, and to keep up with, what the world defines as success. Admit to him that it is exhausting becoming somebody. Admit to him that you are scared of missing the mark. Admit to Him that you think you are not beautiful enough, smart enough, and that it is a lot to juggle. Admit to him that you are afraid of living your whole life and not truly feeling fulfilled. Admit to him that you do not have all the answers in all of your reasoning. Admit to him that you are just afraid.

Tell Him that you need his wisdom and knowledge on the truth of your created being. Tell him you need Him to show you what love looks like. Tell him to show you how you are really supposed to be loved and ask him how to really love yourself. Ask him to lift up a standard against anyone or anything that wants you to feel worthless, powerless, guilty and like you are not enough. Ask him to reveal truth to your heart and mind. Ask him to give you the courage to walk in your own truth when he shows you to it.

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Know that the core of your design was never measured in doing but only in becoming, When you become all that God created you to become than the doing flows naturally. Trust the natural order of the Universe. God said, “all things are working together for your good.”

When you have found yourself with any negative emotions, dig a little deeper you are doing and not becoming, you are not trusting the God that designed you. But you have placed your trust in your own confidence and what it looks like around you.

I need you to remember there is a natural order, and a natural flow to your life. Your were created to live in trust, not in the world but in God because He is working all things out for your good!

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`How To Wear Your Happiness Like A Crown!

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Ladies you are allowing people, things and circumstances to steal your joy. It is my greatest desire to see women happy, whole and living a beautiful life while receiving their breakthroughs.

Happiness is always a choice. But some ladies are dealing with strongholds that is keeping true happiness from shining through. The Bible say the joy of the Lord is your strength and you need your strength to take care of yourself, your family and your purpose! Your strength is what keeps you going.

One of my intentions that I’ve set for my for myself is to keep my joy no matter what! I actually wrote an article about it titled Living An Intentional Life In Your Heart! 

I think you and I need to find out what it means to be truly happy, so let’s look up the definition of happy and then we are going to delve into the Bible to see what God says about being happy, joyous and elated!

Dictionary.com defines happy as :

  1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing:
    (to be happy to see a person.)
  2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy:
    (a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.)
  3. favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky:
    (a happy, fruitful land.)

Some people happiness comes from seeing a certain person. Which also lets me know that they can lose their joy when they don;t see a certain person they are close to and they can loose their joy when they see a person because of offense in their heart towards that person. Acquiring things makes people happy as well, which tells me that your happiness can be altered if you do not acquire certain things in your life.

Some people happiness comes from being favored by fortune. Which tells me when you do not have wealth or money it could alter your state of happiness because it is based on you having the money and possessions.

Some people happiness comes from pleasure. They look for things that make them feel good. This too can alter your happiness because if no one is telling you how fabulous you are and how beautiful you are then you are not happy, or if you are not always doing something, you feel like your life is boring and unfulfilling.

But I love the 2nd definition of happiness. Some people are happy because of their frame of mind and happy mood.

Contentment and joy are not based on anything external and comes from within.

This is where God lives in your heart! This is the happiness that I intentionally strive to live everyday! This happiness is based on having a relationship with God and having a grateful heart.

This kind of happiness does not look outside of itself to be happy. It is not based on materials things, money, or other people. This kind of happiness is in God. It is where God lives.

Misery loves company but you be so happy that you don’t get an invitation!

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There will be situations in your life that wants to rob you of your joy but you have to fill yourself up everyday with doses of love, joy and peace. Wear your happy like a crown, so when misery sees you, it knows instantly you are not going to be the guest list.

Lets read what the Bible says about happiness!

Proverbs 15:13 ESV A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed. When you are not happy it crushes your spirit and it shows on your face. People can tell when you are having issue with your heart. You don’t genuinely look happy.

Proverbs 17:22 ESV A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Being happy is healing to your body and spirit. But a crushed spirit dries up the bones. That is why it is said that some diseases are brought on by unforgiveness and bitterness of the spirit.

I love what Ecclesiastes 3:12 ESV reads, it says, “I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live.” Look ladies, life is to grand to be living it in a unhappy and unfulfilled state. Solomon writes that he has done everything under the sun and he perceived after trying everything and doing everything, that there is nothing better than for a man to be happy and do good as long as they live.

Some woman unhappiness comes from trying to control someone else’s situation that has nothing to do with them. We inject ourselves in people lives trying to control others circumstances by over helping and giving to much. Ladies we have to allow grown people to be grown. You are loosing your happiness because they are choosing to do what works best for them and what thy want to be doing rather it is right for them or not, they are making their own choice, and because they are not choosing to do it your way, you are loosing your joy.

You can only control you and you alone. Take your happy back. Get your hands out of other peoples affairs.

Ladies this scripture tells us that we should be happy, joyous, elated content with our own responsibilities. Ecclesiastes 3:13 ESV reads,  “Also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil—this is God’s gift to man.”

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How do you do that? I get happy and grateful for the role I get to play in helping my husband fulfill his role as the leader, protector and provider in our home by serving him in what ever capacity I need to serve him in and the same thing goes for my children. The Bible says in Matthew 23:11 The greatest among you will be your servant. It is not the person that is getting served that is the greatest, but the one who gets to serve!  A different kingdom.

Now, do I need breaks sometimes? Yes I do! And do I need help sometimes? Yes I do! Is it always perfect, no it is not. But it is a privilege, that I get to serve my family. It is a privilege that I get to partner with God in helping his daughters get whole in every area of their life. I am so elated that God picked me to share in this awesome work. Their is nothing more satisfying than to see my family having what they need to be healthy physically, spiritually and emotionally!  There is nothing more satisfying than to serve the women and girls that I am called to.

Happiness is a mindset, you have to choose to be happy no matter what! You can find joy in your everyday routines. But first you have to stop complaining about it and find the good in everything in your life. Let go of the baggage, the attitude, the holding people hostage within your heart! Stop it, people are going to be people. People are not God. People are going to let you down. So get your faith out of people and put it in God. Get your head out of the air, you are not perfect, so why are you trying to make everybody else perfect. God forgives you when you mess up. Forgive others and move own. People will never be able to measure up to your standards because you can not measure up to your standards.

You are not doing yourself a favor by holding ought in your heart toward anyone and what is sad is that the person your are holding hostage don’t even have a clue! They are going on wearing their happy crown and living a life of joyous abundance and you are using all of your energy to excommunicate them out of your life mentally.

Half of the people that you are holding hostage never done a thing to you. You are holding them hostage because of what someone told you about them, that might not be true! There are always two sides to every story. It is time out for petty distractions. Your life is too precious to loose your joy over anyone.

Psalm 118:24 ESV This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. 

God wants you to wake up every single day, being glad that you get to enjoy his blessing and love on his people. You do not have time to waste on cattiness. There is a higher calling that is calling you to come up higher where Gods thoughts are and where Gods ways are. Listen to the happy song and get happy!

When you are filled with Gods joy, love and happiness he gives you peace and security. Check out these last 2 scriptures about having a happy heart. Psalm 16:9 ESV Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. Isaiah 55:12 ESV “For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.

 

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Design Your Life: With Thought, Care and Wisdom

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With where your life is right now, if you were given a white piece of paper and was told that you could create your life just by imagining it and writing it down on paper, what would you write? If you had no limits and you could get exactly what you want, what would your life look like?

I would advise you to think long and hard about how you would create your life. I would tell you to pay attention to all of the details and responsibilities that comes with having what your heart desires. I would advise you to think about your intentions and why you are asking for some of the things that you want to come into your life.

When your life is so wonderfully crafted it is done with thought, care and wisdom! This reminds me of King Solomon that the Bible speak about. I want to share this passage of scriptures with you.

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Solomon went up to the bronze altar before the Lord in the tent of meeting and offered a thousand burnt offerings on it.

That night God appeared to Solomon and said to him, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.”

Solomon answered God, “You have shown great kindness to David my father and have made me king in his place. Now, Lord God, let your promise to my father David be confirmed, for you have made me king over a people who are as numerous as the dust of the earth. Give me wisdom and knowledge, that I may lead this people, for who is able to govern this great people of yours?”

God said to Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”

When God presented this declaration to Solomon, I believe Solomon told God what he wanted out of his greatest need at that time. Solomon realized the responsibility he was given and perhaps it was very overwhelming for him. I would even say that Solomon probably felt inadequate. After all, Solomon was king over a people who were as numerous as the dust of the earth. Solomon said to God, who is able to govern this great people of yours.

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Instead of Solomon asking God for wealth and riches, vengeance  against his enemies and to let this cup pass to someone else, he decided to ask God for the wisdom and knowledge to handle it all.

I believe Solomon watched his dad when he was king, he probably was saying to himself, how is my father able to handle all of this responsibility, it is to much to bare. Solomon saw his father go to God in prayer continually and I bet his father made being in the kingship position effortless. King Solomon probably saw a lot of mistake his father made as well. Solomon gave much thought, care and wisdom to the opportunity that God presented him with. I can ask for whatever I want, and I can have it!

Solomon just asked for what he knew he needed. He asked for what would answer everything for him, something he felt like he was lacking greatly! Wisdom and knowledge to led God’s people. See Solomon was around wealth all of his life. After all, he was the son of a king. When ever the king asked for something it was given to him.

I believe we should ask for the greatest need. The thing that would solve it all for us! What are you lacking? What is it that have you feeling so inadequate? What is it that make you feel like you are not good enough? What do you need that would make you feel most successful in your life? That has to be pondered over with much thoughtfulness, care and wisdom.

In return for Solomon asking for what he really needed, which was wisdom and knowledge to led God’s people, God told Solomon, “Since this is your heart’s desire and you have not asked for wealth, possessions or honor, nor for the death of your enemies, and since you have not asked for a long life but for wisdom and knowledge to govern my people over whom I have made you king, therefore wisdom and knowledge will be given you. And I will also give you wealth, possessions and honor, such as no king who was before you ever had and none after you will have.”

Now let me ask you this question again.

With where your life is right now, if you were given a white piece of paper and was told that you could create your life just by imagining it and writing it down on paper.

What would you write? If you had no limits and you could get exactly what you want, what would your life look like?

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5 Things You Should Do When You feel Like Everything Is Falling Apart!

 “5 Things You Should Do When You Feel Like Everything Is Falling Apart.”

What things are consuming your thoughts? What are you so concerned about? Well Guess what? My God cares about it as well, you need answers and He is here to give them to you. I hear people saying God don’t speak to me. God speaks all the time but are you ready to listen to who God uses and what he uses to get the answers to you.

I woke up to this message, I learned to stop questioning myself and learn to trust the voice that is speaking. After all, I am just a vessel that has allowed the Heavenly Father to speak through me, rather the message is for me or for you, I am going to capture the conversation.

So what was God revealing to me upon waking up this morning?

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1. When your world is changing around you, stay connected to God.

There is a tendency to disconnect from God and try to figure things out on our own. The urgency of the matter will try and get us to move to fast and react now. Sometimes out of haste we make the wrong move, and out of desperation we jump the gun to fast.

Seasons change, businesses change, locations change, your kids are changing, your marriage is changing, the way our world works is changing, your vision has changed and if we are not careful or in tune to what is going on around us, we would be wondering to ourselves what is going on, I never had to work so hard at trying to keep this thing going. It was once prosperous, we use to be so connected to each other, what happen to my babies, they use to tell me everything, I never had to work this hard to keep this business afloat.

We have to keep up with the times, our world is evolving. What was detestable to wear in public years ago, is now the new normal. Temptation is different now, unlike David in the Bible who stumble upon temptation when he saw Bathsheba taking a shower, now temptation comes to your front door and right in your face.

Social Media is the new game changer, and if you are in any kind of business, it is advantageous that you have some kind of on going social media presence. I know we want things to stay the same, but everything is changing. The way we relate to our kids have changed, you got to be the parent that is in the know, it is all kinds of influences that are effecting the way our kids are behaving. They speak in codes and ebonics, and the messages are hidden in the codes. Parents, we must be able to recognize the new language amongst our kids, so we can understand what our children are into.

The way you’ve done business has changed, your old tactics is not working anymore, it is time for you to find out where your customers are and what do they need from you. You should be contemplating on how you can better serve your customers? How can you make your customer feel important, and what will set you apart from all of the rest.

We are in the age of information, where you practically can do everything from the comfort of your own home. You can shop online, pay your bills on line and even go to church on line.

Churches are making it easy for people to connect with them and fellowship with their congregation, even if you live in a different state, town or city. You can connect with them and be in the same service with them via live streaming.

So why should your customers leave the comfort of their own home to patronize you, when there are so many options available to them. What experience would you give them to make it worth their while? I know some of the topics I am talking about sounds ridiculous, but while you are trying to figure it out, the world is changing.

I remember my husband and I went into this movie theater where we live. This movie theater use to be real popular. It was located in a high price neighborhood, so we just assumed that it is going to be a more mature crowd, but when my husband and I sat down, we realized that we were sitting amongst a new generation of young people and for once in my life, I felt like I was stuck in time. Everything about these young people were different, the way they looked, their mannerism was different, the way they spoke and the way they dressed were different. We did not fit in at all, my husband and I agreed that this was going to be the last time we visit that movie theater. One day we drove pass the movie theater, and they were upgrading it and made it into a upscale movie theater. We have been back several times since the new grand opening. Their clientele has changed. Now young and mature come there to watch movies..

How are you going to stay current when everything around you is changing? I know you use to score big with the old system but now it is not working with the new vision. Your hustle has to be different. You are going to have to find new ways of doing thing.

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2. Embrace the change that is around you. 

How can you embrace change when it seems like things are falling apart around you. When you feel like you are falling apart inside. You do not have to accept the change around you but you are going to have to embrace it. Because whether the Bible agrees with it or not and whether you agree with it or not, it is changing or it has changed. The sooner you embrace it (I am not saying agree with sin) and find new ways of dealing with it, then you can find a solution that will make it work for the good of all that is involved.

Sometimes we just do not want to accept the way things are and we do not have to. But if you and I embrace the fact that it is what it is, then we can let go of the attachment that we placed on ourselves, that it is our job to fix it or fix someone. When we let go of all of the judgement, let go of trying to hold it all together, let go of the pride, let go of us trying to play God.

If we can let go and let God judge the situation, and we just learn to love and trust that what ever happens in this situation will work out for our highest good because we have surrendered and gave it to God, then God can step in and show us what needs to be done next.

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3. Stay calm.

I think the mind goes into over drive trying to find solutions to why our world has changed and trying to find the pieces to put it all back together like it once was. You can really work yourself up into panic mode if you are not careful with your thoughts. I know it feels like you are not doing nothing to solve the problem if you just sit and be quiet. But being still is probably what you need to do so you can hear God speaking to you.

When you feel anxious, and like anxiety is trying to rise up on the inside of you, go into your quiet place and breathe. What is happening to you is that your thoughts are out of control. You have to bring your thoughts back into captivity. You do that by calming the mind through meditation and reading the scriptures. Psalm 37:25  says, I have been young, and now I am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. If God said it, you better believe he is a man of his word!

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4. Pray

Now that you have cleared the cutter in your mind, fill it up with talking to God about it. He is the only one who can show you what you need to do. Prayer changes things. Cry your heart out to God, be honest with him, real honest because it says in Psalms 66:18 – If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear [me]:. He knows everything about you anyway.

You are in a temporary season, make sure that you forgive anybody that have hurt you, betrayed you, offended you or abandoned you. Clear your heart of any anger, bitterness, malice and strife. In order for you to move forward and get your prayers answered,  you have to have a clean heart before God. God cannot forgive you until you have forgiven others. Matthew 5:14-15 For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours.

Ask God questions, any questions you need answered. Let God know your fears and your struggles. Ask him for help! The Bible says in Psalm 46:1 (KJV) God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. I have included a link to scriptures that tells you that God will answer your prayers. Meditate on those scriptures. God wants to help you reestablish your relationships, your business, your finances, your self-esteem and anything else you need establishing. Being thankful and grateful goes along way, in fact God says, Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

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5. Strategize!

Ask God to show you your dream team? And surround  yourself with others who can help you get to the next level. If you are the only knowledgeable one in the room and everyone is listening to you, then who are you listening to. This is new territory for you. You have to swallow your pride and ask for help! Right now you are losing battleground. You have to get around people who defeated Goliath already. You need to loose your girlfriends who are not married and are trying to tell you how to leave your husband. You need to get around some seasoned woman who got down in the trenches and fought to keep the other woman from stealing her husband. You need to find your Naomi! You need to find your real prayer warriors! Ask God whose heart you can trust. Just because people around appear to be faithful doesn’t mean they are.

I love listening to Oprah tell her story about when she brought her own network. She said, this was new territory for her. Oprah was use to people showing up for her on her syndicated network. After 25 years of successful television, Oprah decided that she would start her own network. She just assumed with so many followers and loyal fans, they would  just follow her to her own network. She said what she didn’t realize is, everybody did not have cable and everybody wasn’t getting cable just to watch her. Oprah stated that in that season of her life, she was just getting back what she was feeling about herself on the inside. Which was shame, fear, she didn’t know what she was doing and feeling like she was failing. People were saying all kinds of cruel things about her and putting out negative energy about how her network was doing bad and how she is not going to make it, but in order for her  Oprah to change her current situation she had to change her inner dialogue.

The moment she started to change the story she was telling herself, in that moment she could find a solution to save her network. She had to shut down from listening to the naysayers both outwardly and inwardly. She had to get a different strategy. She had to ask for help. This was a very humbling experience for Oprah. She spoke on platforms I know she didn’t want to speak on. She partner with people that she didn’t think she would ever partner with. She use the power of youtube and the internet so people could continue to connect with her without paying for cable. She went on a Life Class Tour, she did things that she did not want to do, but she had to make up her mind that she was going to sink or swim. She chose to swim. I am sure Oprah felt vulnerable. She was use to people fighting to get on her show, now she was having to ask people to buy into her network. Oprah became a game changer and so can you. You have to get a plan in place and see it through. It might be uncomfortable but you can do it! Don’t give up! Fight for your life, family and your destiny!

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